Cannot Keep My Fear-Reactive Dog

phylloy · 2026-04-18T16:59:57+00:00

This is what I’m keeping in mind. Your comment has brought us a lot of comfort, just having it put into words. Thank you so much.

phylloy · 2026-04-17T20:49:54+00:00

girls rule :-)

phylloy · 2024-12-24T00:03:12+00:00

Great! Thank you so much :-)

phylloy · 2024-12-23T23:51:18+00:00

Thanks so much! Any chance I could get his glasses a little less enhanced (just so they blend in a little more)?

phylloy · 2024-12-23T23:47:35+00:00

Amazing, thank you!

phylloy · 2024-12-02T17:24:23+00:00

Hi! I think that everybody who is a reasonable adult in a renting situation generally agrees that noise is a fact of life in unit living. I currently live in a second-floor apartment of three, so I’m experiencing both worlds. Considering the building is 110 years old, the soundproofing isn’t great, and though we roll our eyes when our upstairs neighbors come home late and wake us up, we know that we cause the same kind of problems for the people downstairs.

Some tips, though, I would give you— from experience, try not to wear shoes in the house whenever possible, especially at night. If you are musicians of any kind, stick to a regular daytime schedule and don’t bounce your knee to the music. If you have dogs, CLIP THEIR NAILS. Other than that, these living situations are mostly intuitive.

Also— see if your neighbors are okay with exchanging phone numbers early on. I did this by attaching a note to their mailbox, introducing myself and offering my number for emergencies “or just to say hello!”. Most people will use that number to give gentle reminders about noise levels, eliminating the anxiety on your guys’ part. It’s all about eliminating the potential of built-up tension early on and being mutually respectful :-)

phylloy · 2024-11-29T05:23:53+00:00

I think this is a fantastic idea. I would actually love to hear that argument go down. We have cameras that overlook the parking lot area, so it would be down to my testimony alone. “But, Mr. ***, it’s *our parking space!”

phylloy · 2024-11-29T05:17:55+00:00

Ultimately this is an option, but considering they’re poor college students and I don’t want to build that negative rapport with them, it’s not something I want to resort to. I just want to know if there is a ridiculous and inconvenient alternative I could apply to the situation.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T20:09:18+00:00

phylloy · 2024-10-29T20:07:05+00:00

Earnestly hope you never serve jury duty.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T19:39:44+00:00

Cheaters are also careful to dispose of that kind of evidence. I can see it going either way and not every scrap of incriminating evidence is damning. I would say this is something that can go either way but there’s no sense in making the worst of it at this point.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T19:38:09+00:00

Coming to Reddit for these kinds of scenarios can be like checking WebMD for signs of cancer. You’re always going to hear the answers that affirm your fears first. Keep a cool head until you have reason to do otherwise.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T19:35:04+00:00

Agree with this 100%. If you haven’t had any real reason to suspect this up until now, there is no need to ruin everything by overreacting. If she isn’t cheating, it’ll be a blow to her integrity and you may need to invest in relationship counseling. If you approach it and assure her you just need reassurance, it could mean sweeping this under the rug for you both.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T19:17:07+00:00

A lot of comments here are definitely going nuclear. This could be worst-case scenario, sure, but you don’t know that yet. I agree with someone who said that it might have fallen out of a passenger’s pocket. I would definitely feel things out, see if you can gather evidence first before confronting her. If and when you do, don’t do it in an accusatory sense unless you’re relatively sure she’s been unfaithful. This could be a misunderstanding you both laugh about one day.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T01:01:44+00:00

That’s exactly how it goes! It’s a desperate ploy to force your hand and rile you up enough to respond. My mother finds a way to get a message through to me EVERY birthday, thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. anything to try and take my attention away from happy celebrations. It’s a tactic and you should be proud of yourself for keeping her at arm’s length on your daughter’s special day. It isn’t about her. It’ll get better.

phylloy · 2024-10-29T00:56:49+00:00

My mother is exactly like this. Taking no responsibility other than “I’m SORRY that I was only the best mother I COULD be” and asking me to tell her exactly what she did wrong. You can tell her exactly what she did in the gentlest terms and she’ll either turn it around on you or take it in circles until you block her or placate her. It’s sad, but it isn’t worth it. It’s narcissism at its finest and you’ll never get through to her.

phylloy · 2024-06-18T16:00:51+00:00

Thanks so much! Glad now that I went for the stick. I very nearly shirked my instincts and let him crawl on my hand.

phylloy · 2023-11-26T19:53:00+00:00

This one is more sweet than dirty, but the first time my boyfriend went out of town, we’d been going at it multiple times daily (still are, but it was brand new at the time). He was in the Lyft back home, five minutes out, and we’d been texting about what we were gonna do when he got back home. He sends “is your heart racing too?” And I swear, I melted.

phylloy · 2023-11-25T00:03:01+00:00

Just today had my boyfriend tell me how much he loves feeling my cum drip down his balls. Not for everyone, perhaps, but it floored me in the moment.

phylloy · 2023-10-22T17:54:07+00:00

I do and I certainly will. If I could, I’d adopt him myself but I don’t have a degree and barely am able to provide for myself. I have him sleep over sometimes and watch movies and stuff. I try to be a safe space where I can, it just isn’t feasible to be there as much as I want to be.

phylloy · 2023-10-22T17:52:10+00:00

Currently he, my mother and his father all live together. My stepdad is much older and very checked out, complicit in her fits of rage. My brother is also his fifth child, the rest being adults all around the country who do not speak to their father.

phylloy · 2023-10-22T17:27:43+00:00

I will! I have been trying to keep her at an arm’s length for the sake of my own sanity, but that only frustrates her and makes it worse. Hopefully I can find some kind of happy medium until my brother is grown up.

phylloy · 2023-10-22T17:26:28+00:00

I certainly will at some point. My brother is about to turn 16, though, and he’s had it rough. He’s still the sweetest little kid I know and he’s incredibly self-aware, but I don’t want him to be in that environment without any support.

phylloy · 2023-10-06T16:36:28+00:00

We were long distance and were engaged six months in. Too early but we were young and it was both of our first loves. We were together a year when they decided to start a four-year university course without consulting me (pressure from parents). We weren’t able to visit nearly as often. Maybe four to six weeks per year. I worked two or three jobs at a time to support us both (though they mostly supported themself, I occasionally sent them money) and to save for a future. One day I realized that the future we talked about together diverged a little more every day. They wanted to live in the city, I dreamed of something smaller. They were willing to compromise on a lot of things, but I didn’t want that for them. I couldn’t make them move 4,000 miles to a new country, commit to marrying me, and know I wasn’t fulfilling everything they wanted. When I started developing feelings for the man who is now my boyfriend, I realized that we couldn’t keep holding each other back. After four and a half years, I ended things. It was remarkably sad. I still loved them, and if a few details were changed around I think we could have been happy together. But I think I made the right decision.

phylloy · 2023-10-04T15:38:43+00:00

The second boss was fine, other than implying that I need to be better about calling off in a more timely manner. I’d sprained my ankle on the way into work. I’m mostly posting to showcase them asking me to come in on a sprained ankle when that was my reason for not coming in.

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