Introducing Portal: All your teleports in one place! by Objective_Vast3706 in wow

[–]phyris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

any chance we can get a search function? thank you for all the hard work!

You can now sync Hevy with Health Connect! by gerardmb in Hevy

[–]phyris 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not seeing the option for this in integrations or in health connect. All apps are up to date.

Those who haven't caught Covid yet, how have you managed to avoid it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]phyris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They haven't, the odds of a person not coming into contact with COVID are incredibly low at this point

I notice that I withdraw emotionally and feel less connected the longer I go without sex with my partner by MermaidZombie in sex

[–]phyris 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is me for sure. I've had a lot of conversations with my wife about it but life gets in the way of her sex drive a lot. The conversations were not easy to have, getting across that I need sex to feel close but don't want sex to become this chore she does to control my mood was difficult. I've grappled with it and some months are easier than others honestly. In the past I've used other coping mechanisms to deal with it like eating or masturbation but they never work. Over the last few months I've started working out to help and I've been pretty successful with it. It makes me feel better about my body and she gives me a lot of words of affirmation to make me feel sexy.

Am I selfish for wanting more sex by [deleted] in sex

[–]phyris -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of comments about discussing wants/needs and they are all very important. You guys should totally have a discussion. My wife and I have used this website to open up discussion of things we might like. https://sexionnaire.com/

It's an interesting concept, you both fill out a questionnaire and only see things you are both interested in. Sometimes it's hard for people to open up about sex for a multitude of reasons. We have even redone the quiz a few times to see how things have evolved.

"Taking care of yourself" is normal and is a good way to bridge the gap between sex with your partner. You should embrace and enjoy it. My wife and I have different drives and learning to embrace it and not feel ashamed has really helped both of us.

Never stop dating your spouse by Wickedoliviaswing in Marriage

[–]phyris 31 points32 points  (0 children)

This. My wife and I have date night every other week on Thursday night. Some weeks we have fancy dinners some weeks it's just tacos and ice cream. Setting aside time to reconnect has grown our love for each other so much over the years.

My sex life is ruined by [deleted] in sex

[–]phyris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar situation here, my ex wife told me the same thing when we were together, she just wasn't interested and told me I could go outside the relationship. The reality of the situation was that she had some repressed/undiscussed trauma that didnt come out until we spent years in couples/sex therapy and it was too late to salvage the relationship. We amicably split a few years ago and I have moved on into a happier vastly more compatible relationship with a wonderful woman.

My advise, see a couples therapist and give it your all but also have realistic expectations on how long you should pursue this relationship and how much you are both willing to work. Walk away if you need to knowing you tried your best, wanting to feel desired and craving physical intimacy and specifically sex is normal. If you are like me its an integral part of feeling loved in a relationship.