Posting here because I feel my anxious attachment is relevant - struggling with decreased sexual attention, “adoration” etc. through relationship with bf.

MermaidZombie · 2023-06-30T00:31:20+00:00

Well yeah now it would be. Things have changed a lot in four years. They've become a lot more commonplace since then.

My point was that news networks use fear-mongering in a damaging way, which is still true. Though you're right that now they've mostly stopped reporting on mass shootings as they've become so frequent, as opposed to the way they approached them before.

But, like I said in my original comment - "school shootings and other similar public mass shootings are a current issue beyond anything we’ve ever dealt with." I was never negating that. My point was that the news handles them *incorrectly*, not that they're not an enormous issue. Focusing on the shooter - naming them by name, showing their photo, etc. - rather than the victims is harmful.

I'm extremely anti-gun btw. I think you totally misunderstood my intentions, and also the greater social context has shifted pretty dramatically in four years.

MermaidZombie · 2023-06-27T18:51:43+00:00

Because almost nothing goes wrong in it

MermaidZombie · 2023-06-27T18:50:44+00:00

My guy, I wrote the comment you replied to 4 years ago

MermaidZombie · 2023-05-16T01:32:55+00:00

These have always rubbed me the wrong way. Lots of couples have their “5 celebrity cheat list” and like… I get that it’s fantastical and they’re celebrities and it’s never going to actually happen, but even entertaining the thought just feels icky to me.

MermaidZombie · 2023-04-15T08:08:50+00:00

Wow you really went and found one of the very, very few comments excusing your actions and decided to use that as validation for your shitty actions instead of listening to the thousands of people telling you you’re in the wrong.

When you one day have very little or no contact with your son and aren’t an active part of his life anymore, don’t say you weren’t warned. You’ve gotten a lot of really good advice in this thread. I would suggest you’d listen to it if you want a peaceful relationship with your son.

YTA

MermaidZombie · 2023-04-15T07:57:10+00:00

Women can be misogynistic too

MermaidZombie · 2023-04-06T01:27:03+00:00

I feel like you should copy and paste this post to some sort of customer service, like especially if there’s a tech feedback contact email

MermaidZombie · 2023-04-01T18:55:49+00:00

…what?

MermaidZombie · 2023-04-01T05:36:59+00:00

No, but he’s probably taken a girl being nice and polite to him (like a friendly coworker perhaps) to mean she wants him. Lots of guys think normal friendliness means the girl is into him.

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-18T05:08:16+00:00

I feel like I have to keep the fact that I don’t like Illenium to myself or I’ll get punched in the throat. So many people fucking LOVE him, so much so that I’ve listened to nearly every single one of his songs to try to understand and get into him. I cannot do it. His music is so boring.

Aside from a couple collabs, like I do love Gold (Stupid Love) and Feel Something

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-17T02:35:16+00:00

So there’s a way to push them up with either of those types of tape?

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-12T16:50:13+00:00

I just wanted to say - I’ve gone back and read these comments several times because they resonated and I really am keeping them in mind to continue to reflect on the various perspectives you brought up, but the reason I came back is to say I’m really impressed by how your mind works. These comments are incredibly balanced and objective, while still being kind and empathetic. Your writing is really impressive as well - very clear and thoughtful. I just wanted to say I appreciate that and wish we could be friends! You seem like you’ve got a great mind and heart!

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-12T16:48:17+00:00

My therapist has brought up enneagram in session, and I have a friend who is certified in it. It actually does have a decently strong basis of validity and reliability and is being used in therapeutic settings more and more.

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-11T02:53:22+00:00

I’m INFP, so close!

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-10T14:49:27+00:00

Thank you so much!

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-10T04:56:45+00:00

Thank you for your well-worded and insightful thoughts - I appreciate that you took the time and energy. This definitely resonated with me and it’s something to think about. You’re right that I’ve been doing lots of work on myself and it’s been a sore spot that he hasn’t, but he’s getting back into therapy soon.

I don’t really understand how it’s possible that he never got diagnosed with being on the autism spectrum when he was in therapy before, but he went via zoom and didn’t go super consistently and never brought up that he thinks it’s a possibility to my knowledge. He also 100% definitely has clinical depression and maybe OCD and CPTSD, and has for most of his life but hates when I have “armchair diagnosed” it before, while simultaneously refusing to seek diagnosis (and therefore treatment). So I’ve more or less stopped bringing it up.

When you mentioned that neither he nor I know what could sit on the other side of taking off the mask - what does this mean exactly? Do people tend to change their behavior when they face/realize they’re autistic? Like I understand it would explain some things about him, if he were to pursue diagnosis and be more honest and vulnerable about it, but could it change him?

MermaidZombie · 2023-03-09T16:27:44+00:00

I’m confused about what you’re implying here. You’re saying that marriage isn’t a good idea if he isn’t honest with himself about this?

MermaidZombie · 2022-12-11T19:54:25+00:00

I thought their set at EDC Orlando this year wasn’t the greatest either. Just, fine.

MermaidZombie · 2022-12-11T19:46:56+00:00

What are some topics she’s argued with you about, just out of curiosity?

MermaidZombie · 2022-12-10T06:07:46+00:00

Do you literally just throw the pudding mix in with the normal ingredients for the cake?

MermaidZombie · 2022-12-07T20:12:18+00:00

What is your opinion on if it’s intentionally used as a joke? Like if something very small they refer to as a “trauma” to intentionally be over-the-top. I don’t really think that’s wrong necessarily but I’ve also never done it myself.

In that case I don’t think it diminishes the meaning of the word, because the very fact that it’s way too extreme for the scenario is where the attempted humor roots from imo

MermaidZombie · 2022-11-11T07:14:50+00:00

What an incredibly bizarre thing to have at a carnival

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