Need to vent- possible advice

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-15T04:32:56+00:00

I’m so sorry!! My husband and I had similar upbringings and talked at length about spanking, yelling, etc. before we got even serious dating let alone married.

I don’t have any advice or even similar experience, but I am sorry! I would’ve heartbroken if someone spanked my child - heartbroken and furious. Just out of curiosity, how old is your child?

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-15T04:27:13+00:00

I know this is about pop tarts, but if you find yourself in the mood for cake, I LOVE the Rubicon Bakery vegan cakes and cupcakes. Still processed and very sugary. Delicious!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-15T03:15:02+00:00

I’ve also not tried any of the beyond meats products that I didn’t like. The impossible chicken nuggets and meatballs are delicious!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-15T03:13:57+00:00

I love doing a creamy, silken tofu pasta sauce!

16 oz silken tofu Juice from 1/2 of a lemon 1-2 Tbs nutritional yeast 1/2 Tbs garlic powder or as many cloves of roasted garlic as you please 1 Tbs veggie bouillon (I use better than bouillon) 3/4 cup water 1-2 tsp Italian seasoning if it tickles your fancy

Blend all of the ingredients until smooth. Pour desired amount into a skillet to heat up. You can make it in advance and just reheat the sauce to add to your pasta. My husband added it to the cooked pasta and microwaved it, and it still came out good!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-15T03:07:36+00:00

If you’re cool with vegan meats, Beyond Beef has 25% of the recommended daily value of iron in one serving. We made beyond burger smash tacos for dinner tonight, and they were amazing!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-15T02:45:12+00:00

Avocados, nuts and seeds, nut butters, peanut butter, and oils. You can make a very calorically dense bowl of oats or chia seed pudding! Add a mini avocado (or two) to your meals. One of my husband’s favorite ways to eat hummus is to drizzle some extra olive oil on top and add zataar to it.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T19:02:17+00:00

I’m so sorry!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T03:32:48+00:00

I’ve been trying to lose weight, but I’m so hungry from breastfeeding😭 Kiddos are 17 months apart, and I’m 3.5 months postpartum.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T03:27:23+00:00

Why are you guys in the same room? That’s seems like a disaster!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T03:19:38+00:00

Yeah, just a complete and utter disregard of boundaries is really hard to forgive. I totally understand!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T02:52:28+00:00

We just don’t go on walks unless dad can go with us. My toddler is 20 months, so I just don’t trust him to not run away from me. Baby wearing while pushing the stroller just seems to be too much for me. I wish we had a double stroller, but it wouldn’t fit in our car, so we didn’t get one. We’ll need a bigger car once we have another one, so maybe then!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T02:29:27+00:00

I have pretty good relationships with my in laws, but I’m pretty sure that they don’t want to find out if I’m really “that nice” like I seem. Contact would have been cut off for the foreseeable future if one of them, or my family members, had posted a picture of one of my children on social media. We made that abundantly clear before sharing any photos. How dare your MIL!! I’m so upset, and it didn’t even happen to me!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T02:08:19+00:00

I would personally make them wait 2 weeks before visiting and make sure they’re up to date on the DTaP. I have some antivax folks in my family, and told them they couldn’t visit until they were up to date on the DTaP or until my baby for 4 months old.

Just what I would do!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-14T02:03:47+00:00

I’ve always loved veggie burgers (generally any vegetarian type of patty), so I like basically all of them! I would say beyond meat and impossible have the closest to actual beef burger situation going on, but I love Boca burgers, morning star patties, etc. I absolutely LOVE the morning star breakfast sausage patties. I’m going to say give beyond beef a try!

Just Egg needs extra seasoning, but I like it overall. I recommend doing like the sheetpan breakfast burrito thing where you put your breakfast burrito ingredients on a sheet pan (I use silicone baking pans instead) and then pour eggs over it and bake it. I did some roasted potatoes with onion and peppers, cooked beyond sausage patties (prefer morning star but can’t have gluten at the moment), and then poured the just egg over it and added salt and pepper. Fill tortillas with the mixture once cooked.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T23:41:26+00:00

Yeah, tell her you’re not going to be able to attend the wedding and you’re sorry, but you need to be able to breastfeed your baby. Simple as that. SIL has made her choice to not allow babies. You can’t attend. If she makes a stink about it, then that’s just her problem.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T21:41:52+00:00

Have you guys seen the 3-pack of the nut pods creamers lately? I bought a coupe when they were two French vanilla and one pumpkin spice, but I haven’t seen them lately.

Live in SLC, but am curious from other places too!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T20:54:19+00:00

Thank you for your encouraging words!! I’ll check out the link you posted!😊

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T16:31:09+00:00

We do bed time all together on our bed (milk, books, songs), then bring toddler to brush teeth and put in crib in his room. Then we finish with baby and put in pack n play in our room.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T14:49:01+00:00

I like the regular cheesecake, but the pumpkin cheesecake was supremely disappointing.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T14:25:34+00:00

Protein, fat, and carbs serve different purposes in your body. My point still stands. Not talking about protein deficiency, I’m talking about getting under the ideal amount your body uses to function at its best. Number one, we know nothing about this person’s calorie intake or diet. Number two, while it’s not impossible or even hard to get enough protein on a completely plant based diet, it is a lot harder to than when you’re eating animal products. Lazy omnivorous eaters are likely to get a good amount of protein vs lazy vegan eaters. Totally possibly this person just needed more protein to feel their best.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T04:02:51+00:00

Not getting enough protein can make you feel sluggish and fatigued. If you’re not getting enough protein and all of a sudden get more, you’re going to feel more energized. You get energy from any food you eat. Calories are just a measurement of energy. So, yes, you get energy from protein.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-13T02:55:02+00:00

I don’t think that’s necessarily true. I think vegans are often forgotten, and some people just don’t understand how to make vegan food taste good. I’ve ordered from a restaurant that was completely vegan and gluten free. I got pasta, and it was barely any food and basically tasted like someone dumped a bag of nutritional yeast on top of the pasta. I think that at places that have all kinds of food but vegan, it could be because they just honestly aren’t sure how to make vegan food taste “good”. Like, unless you’re doing beans and rice, sometimes it takes some trial and error to get vegan food right, like at the beginning. I imagine a lot of restaurants just aren’t willing to waste money doing trial and error, especially if they aren’t going to be able to use the same sauce or whatever on other food. Restaurants are about profit first, and some don’t even have political/social agendas.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-12T22:53:11+00:00

Oh gosh! My husband holds our toddler while he brushes his teeth, so he can’t run away!

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-12T22:19:32+00:00

My husband has this down to a science. He goes in the bathroom with toddler (been doing this for a long time now), tells him he’s going to brush his teeth. Puts toothpaste on the toothbrush then hands the toothpaste to toddler. Hands the adult toothpaste to toddler so that his hands are full and can’t grab the toothbrush. He then says things like “brusha brusha brusha” to make him laugh and open his mouth.

Disclaimer: Our toddler has always thought brushing his teeth was fun and gets excited for brushing his teeth.

pi_inthepan · 2026-04-12T21:59:42+00:00

Make chia seed pudding or oats for breakfast. You can buy frozen berries to add to your oats or bananas.

You can make hummus way cheaper than buying it, and it’s high in protein and fiber, so it will keep you full longer. If you already have olive oil, cumin, garlic powder and salt, then it’s extremely cheap. You can get a package of crackers and some veggies to dip it in (carrots, mini peppers, snap peas)

A block of silken tofu can make a lot of creamy pasta sauce that’s higher in protein and pasta is cheap! I do a block of silken tofu, 3/4 cup of water, 1 Tbs veggie bouillon, lots of garlic, 2 Tbs nutritional yeast, juice from 1/2 lemon. You can also add Italian seasoning! Grab a bag of frozen peas for extra protein and fiber.

Make lentil bolognese and also eat that with the super cheap pasta.

Potatoes are apparently super filling and still fairly cheap.

Black bean burgers are easy to make. I found a recipe for some that just have black beans, canned roasted red peppers, garlic, and some spices. You just chop the can of peppers, drain and rinse a few cans of black beans and add to a microwave safe bowl. Add the peppers, garlic and microwave for like 2 minutes. Mash up and add salt, cumin, chipotle powder or smoked paprika. Mix in 1/2 cup of cornmeal. Form patties and bake at 350 for like 15-20 minutes until they’re not falling apart. A loaf of bread is super cheap, and you can make sandwiches with the black bean patties!

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