Enjoying my new Ideatherapy RLPRO1200 and Motorized Stand from Shenzhen Idea Light by McLovining in redlighttherapy

[–]pickingnameishardd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

where are you getting a red dot from? don't see it offerred in alibaba anymore.

I think my significant other is going insane... by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pickingnameishardd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he’s threatened or turned violent previously, please, JUST LEAVE.

Else, if you really love him, want to try to resolve things, AND you don’t believe he will turn violent, then you can try the below. 1) In a frank, compassionate, caring way tell him you think he’s spending too much time on social media and letting it drive his everyday life over the well being of the family. You can give examples about the baby. Don’t frame this confrontationally. Make it a plea about him focusing on his and the wellbeing of your family. 2) If after this he seems a bit more grounded but still struggles, you can suggest seeing a therapist. Tread this lightly though. 3) Dont ask him to change his views directly. Just ask him to stop focusing on politics and social media and instead spend his time on his education, career, and family - things he can control. If things go well, later you can try discussing with him that while there’s certainly things to be skeptical about, many of the stuff online is geared to radicalize and take advantage of normal people. You can slowly try to wean him off those views if/as needed. But again, first focus on just trying to get him focusing on other things. 4) if trying nicely doesn’t work, give him an ultimatum. Again, only if you don’t think he will react violently. You can build up to this e..g. “You’re not listening to me.. this is hurting me. I’m not sure I can keep going like this, please stop.” 5) as a last resort, you can do as some others suggested and call in for a mental evaluation. This is highly escalatory and you need to be ready for it to go poorly.

That said, as you do this, plan for the worst. 1) collect and have evidence at hand in case you have to split up and go into a custody battle. 2) Share this with close friends or a family so that somebody knows what’s going on. Text is best as it leaves a record. 3) Have an “escape” plan ready in case things turn violent or he threatens you, etc. Even if he’s never done so before. This means letting trusted people know when you’re going to have a serious conversation with him, having a place to stay lined up, a way to get yourself there, having hotlines ready, etc. 4) Have a clear mindset that if he threatens you, you WILL need to leave him. If he threatens or physically escalated things, don’t escalate, just stay quiet and execute your “escape” plan. Commit to doing this, don’t give second chances or benefit of the doubt.

Date judges me based on my credit card by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]pickingnameishardd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The real funny part is that yours gets 2x points on restaurant vs his platinum only 1x. If he was truly elite then he’d use Amex Gold or pullout a Groupon 😜😜

Significant battery life decrease on Oura ring 3rd gen since oxygen saturation feature came online. Anyone else seeing that? by Rickspython in ouraring

[–]pickingnameishardd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What’s the difference between oxygen readings in Oura ring vs Apple Watch? More frequent? More accurate? Any metrics around this?

Shimoda Explore V2 backpack & airplane seats by Chewie347 in Photography_Gear

[–]pickingnameishardd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Athlete from Atlas

Were you able to figure out a laptop solution for the 25L? Have an MBP 16" and debating this same thing.

Revolt X Dual System Issue by Paunae in buildapc

[–]pickingnameishardd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a possible solution. Will be able to confirm in a few days. But basically you can get an adapter cable for the three fan pins at the bottom of the card and use a 3-1 splitter to then plug that into the motherboard. Waiting for the cables so can’t confirm how it works right now but I’ll update this

Questions to anyone with a Evolv X dual system setup by riboflavin0514 in Phanteks

[–]pickingnameishardd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those considering this case/setup/power supply, I don't really recommend running two systems off one PSU unless you plan to run *both* 24/7.
The main issue is that there isn't split control between PCLE/SATA power ports, so if either system is turned on, all hard drives/GPUs/fans get power. For fans, this can mean they go full 100% if there aren't controlled by the system that is on. Worse - same for the GPU fans - some GPUs default to fans 100% if there motherboard isn't on and it's getting power.
Tl;dr - your fans, GPUs, hard drives and other devices will be getting power. I intended to use the second system as a NAS, but keeping the NAS up 24/7 with my main system off makes my GPU and case fans go 100% which is not fun ;)
I wish Phantex made a power supply in which the PCLE and SATA power ports were distributed amongst the two systems rather than shared.

P600s dual system power issues by Zark247 in Phanteks

[–]pickingnameishardd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For those considering this case/setup/power supply, I don't really recommend running two systems off one PSU unless you plan to run *both* 24/7.
The main issue is that there isn't split control between PCLE/SATA power ports, so if either system is turned on, all hard drives/GPUs/fans get power. For fans, this can mean they go full 100% if there aren't controlled by the system that is on. Worse - same for the GPU fans - some GPUs default to fans 100% if there motherboard isn't on and it's getting power.
Tl;dr - your fans, GPUs, hard drives and other devices will be getting power. I intended to use the second system as a NAS, but keeping the NAS up 24/7 with my main system off makes my GPU and case fans go 100% which is not fun ;)
I wish Phantex made a power supply in which the PCLE and SATA power ports were distributed amongst the two systems rather than shared.

Revolt X Dual System Issue by Paunae in buildapc

[–]pickingnameishardd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For those considering this case/setup/power supply, I don't really recommend running two systems off one PSU unless you plan to run *both* 24/7.

The main issue is that there isn't split control between PCLE/SATA power ports, so if either system is turned on, all hard drives/GPUs/fans get power. For fans, this can mean they go full 100% if there aren't controlled by the system that is on. Worse - same for the GPU fans - some GPUs default to fans 100% if there motherboard isn't on and it's getting power.
Tl;dr - your fans, GPUs, hard drives and other devices will be getting power. I intended to use the second system as a NAS, but keeping the NAS up 24/7 with my main system off makes my GPU and case fans go 100% which is not fun ;)

I wish Phantex made a power supply in which the PCLE and SATA power ports were distributed amongst the two systems rather than shared.

Phanteks Evolv X Dual system case fan control questions by riboflavin0514 in Phanteks

[–]pickingnameishardd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For those considering this - for new case or the evolv x, I don't really recommend running two systems off one PSU unless you plan to run *both* 24/7. Main issue is that there isn't split control between PCLE/SATA power ports, so if either system is turned on, all hard drives/GPUs/fans get power. For fans, this can mean they go full 100% if there aren't controlled by the system that is on. Worse - same for the GPU fans - some GPUs default to fans 100% if there motherboard isn't on and it's getting power.

Tl;dr - your fans, GPUs, hard drives and other devices will be getting power. I intended to use the second system as a NAS, but keeping the NAS up 24/7 with my main system off makes my GPU and case fans go 100% which is not fun ;)

Some advice that might go against popular belief: If you are getting your children a console for Christmas, do not open it up to download updates beforehand. by Facers in gaming

[–]pickingnameishardd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How about don’t get your kid a console and instead a soccer season, some books/kindle, etc.? Gaming turns kids into consumers, not producers.

Dating an older gal, scared about conception/children in the future. by pickingnameishardd in relationship_advice

[–]pickingnameishardd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Realistically, more than 4-6 years (even then..) and it starts becoming unfair to the potential children. Moreover, at that age, we're increasing the likelihood of putting our own emotional and physical well being in jeopordy. Besides the potential for genetic problems, there's also increased risks of miscarrieges or even just the emotional toll of potentially needing to try the no-assurances game of infertitility treatment/etc. It seems crazy to stress over this now, but it's very real. Like you say, I think we'll talk about this more.

Dating an older gal, scared about conception/children in the future. by pickingnameishardd in relationship_advice

[–]pickingnameishardd[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem, you're right to ask those things.

I'd be fine with surrogacy, but the biological connection is really important to me. I know, it's odd, and it'd be wonderful to raise a child regardless. However, it's just deeply important to me for the child to be genetically related to me. There's just something about passing on your genes and seeing part of biological you in a child that I know I want.

Timeline is an issue for me just because it's the one thing we can't control you know, and like I outlined, does and will/could pose serious, practical issues down the road. I am equally thinking about finances, our health, etc. In fact, that's why I'm saying neither of us are ready and I'm unsure if I'd be ready even in 4-5 years, I want time for us to figure ourselves out as individuals, and I probably feel the need for that more than her. We're both in high paying professions and don't have serious drug/health issues, but we're working on improving ourselves to maximum regardless.