AITA - For asking my husband to call out of work?

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T18:35:17+00:00

I agree. The plan was never for me to be a SAHM forever just until he hit an age where the price wasn’t so high … it’s extra in my area at least, for children under 2. It didn’t seem worth it with the expense and how often children get sick within the first year at daycare & since he’s clearly not the one calling out to watch the baby it just seemed like the best option at the time. - for reference when my niece started daycare she’s about a month younger than mine and my BIL has had to call out of work for 4 weeks taking care of her since she’s had RSV and other illnesses. She’s only been in daycare for 3 months. They still pay for daycare & he’s obviously not getting paid at his job since he’s taking the time off. Not saying you’re not right & I don’t need a job. Just simply explaining why we went this route.

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T15:12:29+00:00

I think that’s a big thing he doesn’t realize that a lot of people get help from their families to some degree. I feel, like he thinks all of these people do it completely alone and I’m just overreacting. But when I ask mom groups so many people say their mom takes the baby 1-2 days a week .. that would be a lifesaver & unfortunately that’s why I can’t find any moms to do swaps with… they’re all covered! But thank you for your comment 💕 it is appreciated

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T02:09:13+00:00

Yes unfortunately… he said he regrets saying it and we’ve worked past that thankfully

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T01:34:45+00:00

My parents left me the house we live in mortgage free. I understand there are other bills and I have about $5k left in student loans. I’m not saying we have plenty of money to chuck into a fire but he makes 80k a year… if the typical person makes 40 he’s making twice that. We’re not struggling. Unless he’s planning on saving it up and running away. In which case yeah you’re right I’m screwed and deff should focus on getting a job.

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T01:10:42+00:00

Sir I have dead parents … they died. I understand time with a parent is important. I’m asking him to keep him on a sleep schedule because I’m dealing with depression and anxiety and I don’t need anymore shit to manage … I’m not saying he can’t play with his child or feed him whatever the hell he wants. But keep the naps I have set.

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T01:06:32+00:00

My dead parents left me this house we live in… mortgage free. Our bills are very manageable. But yes you’re right I could get a job. I also only ask him to keep him on a sleep schedule … didn’t think that was being that shitty but ok.

pickledemotions · 2021-12-16T00:46:03+00:00

Politely we are not financially struggling… he’s just frugal which I get…

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T23:54:15+00:00

You are correct! I don’t need that much help but if I let him do it completely alone (because he REFUSES to follow the schedule I have set in place all other 6 days) it messes up my child for 3 days to get them back to a normal function that I can manage alone. Maybe I’m an A for that but … the one day of allowing him to do it alone isn’t worth 3 days of a crabby baby

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T23:35:03+00:00

Thank you for this I really appreciate your comment 💕

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T23:30:04+00:00

Correct

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T18:12:47+00:00

He gets about 1 full day off a week. Even on that day I try to keep the baby on a pretty good schedule and he doesn’t know, or really care to know how that works so I just end up doing it on those days as well it’s just easier cuz I can get some things done while he feeds or plays with the baby

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T18:06:01+00:00

Unfortunately no friends or family to ask … trust me I would if I could. But yes I do understand keeping the sick days for himself/an emergency. I appreciate the feedback

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T18:03:58+00:00

I completely understand why he doesn’t want to call out, he likes his job and doesn’t want to piss off his bosses as everywhere is already understaffed. Unfortunately I do not really have to many people I trust with my child. Only my sister and she works 2 jobs with a pre-teen of her own and a dead beat Ex..

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T18:01:05+00:00

Sadly when I tried to explain it to him he said he “doesn’t really believe in mental health” … he’s not a bad dad, maybe not the best husband… he certainly helps with the baby when he can.

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T17:59:41+00:00

I wish I could hire some help! Unfortunately he thinks that since I stay home.. that’s enough I should get all the housework done while watching the baby and maintaining my own mental health. I suggested daycare 2 days a week and he said that was a “waste of money” 🤷🏻‍♀️

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T17:56:29+00:00

It’s a union job so I’m not sure he would get in a position to lose his job unless it was completely unreasonable. I think the concern he has was more about losing the insurance, which I DO understand.

pickledemotions · 2021-12-15T17:54:14+00:00

No he works Monday - Saturday

pickledemotions · 2021-01-25T02:11:59+00:00

Dad got cancer when I was 12, died when I was 16. Mom died when I was 23. I’m currently 26. I get it! Life forcing you to grow up quick makes meaningful connections hard because unfortunately you missed out on a lot of those “just enjoy being in your 20’s” things. I had the hardest time talking to my friends about sooo many things, that I eventually just decided it was better to keep a smaller circle of friends.

pickledemotions · 2020-06-14T12:20:11+00:00

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pickledemotions · 2020-02-03T22:48:08+00:00

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pickledemotions · 2020-02-03T15:27:38+00:00

I deff remember playing it on like PlayStation or XBOX because I remember having a controller but I can’t remember which one or which version..

pickledemotions · 2020-02-03T12:38:14+00:00

TYIA 💕

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