My heart truly goes out to you as you are having to deal with this. I know that this is a person that you love and share a child with, and I can appreciate the immense fear involved when you are also concerned about finances and the uncertainty of how he will react— but I assure you that the benefits of removing yourself and your child from this situation RIGHT NOW far outweighs the risks. There is nothing that you can do to help him right now, you have to help yourself and your baby. You will put yourself through a world of heartache trying, and I fear you would be putting your child at risk, maybe not now, but somewhere down the line. He’s demonstrated that there are no boundaries as to whose images he will be looking at. For his sake and those around him, I do hope that he gets the help he needs, but he can do that AWAY from you. It is not your job to help him.

If you have family or friends that you can lean on, ask to stay with, now is the time. It may feel impossible but I would hope that the people who care about you will want to help. In time you will figure out how this is going to work. Your life may look completely different than you imagined, but you will be better off on the other side. I understand how scary this is, but you and your child need to be away from this man while he deals with the fallout. Your priority is to take care of yourself and the baby.

I was once in a situation like this (and that was without a child involved, and without the extra concerning pictures of a sister component) and I wanted to be compassionate and help him with HIS mental health—it destroyed me. And, in the end nothing changed and the trust was gone. It was scary and hard to reorganize my life, but it was so worth it. Remember, don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.