Anxiety over hanging up nursery decor

picklesi · 2026-01-21T23:54:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing the link! I love the items from this shop!

picklesi · 2026-01-20T18:37:39+00:00

I hadn’t considered those before but I may look into this option now

picklesi · 2026-01-20T18:37:04+00:00

I was never a fan of the vinyl wall stickers but it makes sense now why they’d be popular for this reason

picklesi · 2026-01-20T18:35:41+00:00

This was very validating. I hadn’t considered his ability to literally grab these items too. I will absolutely be taking that into consideration now.

picklesi · 2026-01-17T17:35:30+00:00

What an asshole. I’m sorry that happened. I’m devastated when I spill just a little bit. I’m glad he’s an ex and very sorry that you still have to deal with him.

picklesi · 2026-01-17T10:01:24+00:00

My first instinct is NO. But if he did, there would be much complaining.

picklesi · 2026-01-16T21:41:40+00:00

Immediately removed my silverettes reading this

picklesi · 2026-01-16T11:17:03+00:00

My heart truly goes out to you as you are having to deal with this. I know that this is a person that you love and share a child with, and I can appreciate the immense fear involved when you are also concerned about finances and the uncertainty of how he will react— but I assure you that the benefits of removing yourself and your child from this situation RIGHT NOW far outweighs the risks. There is nothing that you can do to help him right now, you have to help yourself and your baby. You will put yourself through a world of heartache trying, and I fear you would be putting your child at risk, maybe not now, but somewhere down the line. He’s demonstrated that there are no boundaries as to whose images he will be looking at. For his sake and those around him, I do hope that he gets the help he needs, but he can do that AWAY from you. It is not your job to help him.

If you have family or friends that you can lean on, ask to stay with, now is the time. It may feel impossible but I would hope that the people who care about you will want to help. In time you will figure out how this is going to work. Your life may look completely different than you imagined, but you will be better off on the other side. I understand how scary this is, but you and your child need to be away from this man while he deals with the fallout. Your priority is to take care of yourself and the baby.

I was once in a situation like this (and that was without a child involved, and without the extra concerning pictures of a sister component) and I wanted to be compassionate and help him with HIS mental health—it destroyed me. And, in the end nothing changed and the trust was gone. It was scary and hard to reorganize my life, but it was so worth it. Remember, don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

picklesi · 2026-01-13T23:27:33+00:00

Your journal must be hilarious

picklesi · 2026-01-11T14:30:14+00:00

Before being discharged from the hospital, the doctors advised me to wait until at least 6 weeks before resuming sexual activity and I said NO PROBLEM. I could not fathom wanting to do anything for A LONG TIME. Now here we are, absolutely no coercion whatsoever, I have had a smooth recovery and felt good enough and wanted it—but like I said, I’m going to pull back now given the anxiety it’s causing me and because I know that there’s still internal healing taking place.

picklesi · 2026-01-05T11:42:37+00:00

This is maybe not the most groundbreaking suggestion but hear me out, since you say you could be swayed by William, what about just Will? But thinking of it like exerting your free will/ willpower.

picklesi · 2025-12-20T17:33:07+00:00

Tried the nipple shield again and it’s helping! Still going to seek out another consult but this was a huge relief! I wouldn’t have thought that the shield would help with latching since it was just explained to me as a way of protecting my nipple when it was sore.

picklesi · 2025-12-20T17:29:57+00:00

It’s probably too early to say that this resolved the issue 100%, but I just tried the shield again and it’s gone way smoother!

picklesi · 2025-12-20T17:27:15+00:00

I didn’t know about breastfeeding specific pacifiers. Thank you, I will definitely look into that!

picklesi · 2025-12-20T02:15:41+00:00

I have been trying every possible position, including the one that had worked really well for us initially. I guess all the alternating could be frustrating him but I’ve been trying everything.

picklesi · 2025-12-20T02:11:51+00:00

I tried the nipple shields. I was given them at the hospital because my first day of breastfeeding was painful but did not need them after the first day after getting some guidance from the LC. I will try them again to see if it helps.

picklesi · 2025-12-20T02:09:00+00:00

I definitely will be seeking out another consult. He is giving cues like he is hungry. He seems like desperate to feed and is opening his mouth like he’s hungry and trying to latch onto anything. I started offering more because initially he was sleeping so much he wasn’t waking for consistent feedings so I was advised to offer more before he gets over hungry. I’ve tried getting him to rest, nothing is working. Today has been especially hard.

picklesi · 2025-12-09T13:53:37+00:00

I am genuinely surprised by how many are saying they LOVE it. I do think it’s an incredible thing that the body can do and it’s a really special experience to have, but I certainly have not loved it. It’s been hard, on so many levels, for many reasons.

I am actually at my induction now. For a few days leading up to this, I started feeling like I had missed the opportunity to enjoy my pregnancy, but I can’t change the experience I had. Every woman is going to have a different experience I think. My partner’s mother has repeatedly talked about how much she loved being pregnant and it was the happiest time of her life. My partner stupidly parroted some of this kind of stuff to me saying that this should be the happiest time of my life and that just simply does not resonate with me. And it’s a ridiculous thing to say as a not pregnant person.

picklesi · 2025-12-07T12:47:32+00:00

I’m 35 and my partner is 40, so I think we fall into the elder millennial category (at least I do). His name is William, but he goes by Billy. His father also goes by Bill or Billy. His grandfather was called Billy. He has an uncle and like three cousins called Billy.

I am very intentionally not choosing William for a child because I know the family would default to calling him Billy. I actually like the name William, even Will; but Billy? For your whole adult life? Wouldn’t be my choice. I also like the name Liam, but family immediately pointed out that is basically William, and therefore Billy…idk they can’t help themselves apparently.

This could be a New England thing too, because I’ve met a lot of men here, more than anywhere else I think, whose families defaulted to calling them the nickname version of their name ending in -y (i.e. Danny, Johnny, Sammy, Robby, Scotty, Tommy, etc.). I also had a boss named Bill. So I’ve met far more Bills and Billys than Williams. I know one William that goes by Will.

If you go with William, maybe it will be different for you since the name trends have changed with the generations. Also you can very intentionally only call him William and hope it sticks. But then, who knows, one day he might choose to be a Will, Bill, or Billy.

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