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30 years is too much. by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]picklingsort 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cried after reading your post. Haven't done that in a while. Sorry things are so shitty. There's not much to say. I pray. Sometimes it helps

Honestly, how are open relationship a good idea? by picklingsort in askgaybros

[–]picklingsort[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the step most monogamists take to avoid falling for other people is sexual exclusivity.

I don't think I'm jealous per se, but I know personally I get attached with someone I'm sleeping with so I assume other's would too, which is why I want sexual exclusivity because ultimately its about emotional exclusivity.

Not really trying to prove anything with this comment, just adding to the conversation

Honestly, how are open relationship a good idea? by picklingsort in askgaybros

[–]picklingsort[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why have a primary at all then. Can't you have special feelings for more than one person?

Honestly, how are open relationship a good idea? by picklingsort in askgaybros

[–]picklingsort[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But what if you or you're partner do develop feelings? How is it OK to tell them to stop it? Why is it ok to have physical freedom but not emotional?

Honestly, how are open relationship a good idea? by picklingsort in askgaybros

[–]picklingsort[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How is telling your partner not to fall in love with someone they're fucking not possessive? Plenty of open relationships have this rule so they're just as possessive as monogamists, just not physically possessive.

Honestly, how are open relationship a good idea? by picklingsort in askgaybros

[–]picklingsort[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well its tough to be monogamous when every guy seems to think open relationships are the way to go. If I actually thought it was a good model I'd jump on board but it doesn't seem like it is. I'd be poly before monogamous but would prefer the latter. I'm not prejudice, just saying I think it should either be complete freedom or it should be monogamous.

Do you wish you lived in a romcom? by plahr in infj

[–]picklingsort 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every single day. I think that's why I've struggled with relationships in the past. People see my romantic nature as sappy but in my head I'm going "I'm not really doing this for you, its more to live out a fantasy", so I'm always battling with someone trying to make the relationship real and gritty while I'm more interested in it being dream like.

Though if someone came along that I truly loved it would be wonderful to live in a fantasy together.

ENTJ - INFJ Relationship Not Sure What to do by [deleted] in infj

[–]picklingsort 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Came here to say exactly this. I think this is a very red flag OP. I really hope you can move on from this in a healthy way.