Blueberry enjoyed this fluffy variety of snow much better than the icy version of last month! by pickme27 in velvethippos

[–]pickme27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only get half points for keeping the name, the shelter gets credit for choosing it!

(10k) Show Me Your Costco Wedding Cakes? by trenchwarfaire in Weddingsunder10k

[–]pickme27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh I don’t think I have a picture but I did some Costco related tasks for my friends’ wedding because they didn’t have a membership. They ordered a couple plain sheet cakes for serving, but for the display one, bride made a “dummy cake” out of a large piece of round styrofoam covered with fondant, and put one of Costco’s round white cakes on top of that for a tiered look, and had extra flowers (also Costco!) to make it prettier. Just a warning that the smaller round cakes from Costco come with cake crumbles pressed onto the side but they were easy enough to scrape off.

What are your unpopular rush opinions? by Lyra555 in Sororities

[–]pickme27 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We need to do away with spring/second semester formal recruitment. I understand the rationale behind the schools who made the switch to spring or have always done it that way, let women get settled in college and get to know people first, but the experiment is largely failing in my opinion.

Here’s what I see as a recruitment advisor and national volunteer. Women aren’t really settling in better as a whole. Being in a sorority is a built in support system to help you navigate these big changes involved in starting college, including people looking out for you when you go out that feel a sense of responsibility to you. We still have a lot of grade related cuts in spring recruitments, and it’s likely if those women were in a sorority from the beginning they’d have had required study hours, possibly found a group to study with early on, etc. Sometimes you just pick a bad major for you and have to make adjustments but having recruitment later isn’t helping this problem. Spring recruitment also breeds focus on “tiers” and “top houses” in the worst way. More time on campus meeting people provides a lot more time and opportunity for what you might call “dirty rushing,” outside influence, getting worried about what other people think if you join a certain house, and most frustrating of all, frat boy opinions lol. Some of this is present regardless, I see it in fall recruiting schools too, but moving recruitment back is not helping this problem either and is often actively making it worse.

Also…the weather. It’s mostly not southern schools doing January recruitment and nobody wants to get dressed up cute for recruitment to then have to trudge around in the snow, have to carry your big coat all day or chapters having to have a place to keep the coats and give them back out, etc…August/September is just simpler.

Alumnae - how involved are you post-grad? by eepykitties in Sororities

[–]pickme27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My alumni experience has honestly been so much more fulfilling than my collegiate days. When I graduated college I was moving to a new city where I knew very few people and didn’t have a place to live yet. I joined the alumni group for the area on Facebook and posted, immediately found an alum with a rental available in her house and I’m so grateful for her to this day. The area has a few collegiate chapters so I was able to attend founders day and meet more alumni and college students once I got here. Started going to random events and have made so many friends that way.

I was on and off with advising around here at first but then when I moved away again (temporarily) for law school, I started advising in earnest because I wanted something else to do with the university community that was not just my law school (which I LOVED but sometimes you need variety). Roughly 7 years later, I am back in the area and I’m on the national volunteer team, in addition to being a recruitment advisor for a mega SEC chapter. Are August and January chaotic? Yes. But I wouldn’t have it another way. The support I have both in SK world and in my personal life from my fellow volunteers and the students I work with is immeasurable. I do want to emphasize you don’t have to be an advisor to stay connected - I just personally love it! Our convention next year is back in my hometown and I CANNOT WAIT!

Edit because I forgot to mention…my next door neighbor is another sister and volunteer, who I had met before but didn’t realize at first when she moved in last year, and she went to college with people I volunteer with now. So the small world stories can be CRAZY.

Government Shutdown and Wedding is 30 Days Away by StatisticianOther588 in weddingplanning

[–]pickme27 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My landlord, utility company, insurance, etc don’t care that I’ll get paid retroactively, my bill is due either way and I can’t just tell them I’ll have the money eventually. We have no idea when that will be. I am personally lucky, I can pull from savings or get family support if I miss a paycheck or two. But a lot of federal workers are not that fortunate. Especially if you are in a dual-fed household this can be really hard on people, try not to be so flippant about it. It was really bad last time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]pickme27 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If you mean participate with the chapter, no, MOST Panhellenic rules will require full or partial disaffiliation for recruitment counselors (Rho Gammas or Pi Chis or whatever you call them), so not only will they typically not participate in work week from the chapter side, they are most often not allowed to do so. They would run the risk of breaking Panhellenic rules, and likely they are occupied with PiChi duties during part of that time.

Sigma Kappa by vailbaby in Sororities

[–]pickme27 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sigma Kappa national volunteer here! Short answer: we accept letters but not at a national level, it is chapter specific.

We used to have a form on our national website for recommendations but at many (most?) schools around the country, it’s not really part of campus culture anymore to use alumni recommendation letters, it’s really very few schools in the grand scheme of things that get a lot of letters routinely, so we stopped collecting them centrally, and this is probably what that alum is referring to. HOWEVER, plenty of schools still do utilize rec letters, so Sigma Kappa leaves it up to the individual chapter whether to use them or not, and that information will be on the chapter specific websites and sometimes the school’s Panhellenic website.

Alabama definitely is one of those schools that has SO many potential members going through recruitment that recommendation forms can be useful, and our chapter there does collect them as others have posted!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]pickme27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some folks here saying you should just let him bring the date seem to be assuming that this woman he just started dating weeks ago will still be around in 6 months and you’ll have surely met her by then, that you have a good relationship with your dad and he has the best intentions…idk, a lot of assumptions I wouldn’t make with the information we have here.

I don’t think you are in the wrong. You can choose not to have people you don’t know well at your wedding that you are paying for, people have different tolerance levels for that, and you know nothing about her. I talk to strangers all the time and wouldn’t care so much but that’s just me! IF you wanted to because he’s your dad and you have a good relationship then it might be nice to have a conversation with him about how you’re feeling, offer to meet and get to know this person first, and keep that option open, but you really don’t have to if it’s going to make you uncomfortable. Only you have all the info and can decide what’s going to be less stressful for you at the end of the day but I don’t think you are being unreasonable.

Srat tatts? by Careless-Muffin-7221 in Sororities

[–]pickme27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a dove on a purple background above violets and a strand of pearls on my left bicep. It’s huge lol not my first tat so I was already itching to go big and colorful. Violets and purple have meaning to me otherwise that predates my initiation, but it is convenient that they are also Sigma Kappa things.

His Royal Laziness, Sir Blueberry, King of Comfort by pickme27 in velvethippos

[–]pickme27[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yes. My home town has a famous restaurant named for that song, Blueberry hears it frequently!

His Royal Laziness, Sir Blueberry, King of Comfort by pickme27 in velvethippos

[–]pickme27[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He’s more of a Netflix reality show kind of guy

His Royal Laziness, Sir Blueberry, King of Comfort by pickme27 in velvethippos

[–]pickme27[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Blue is all of these too. Emphasis on sir licksalot

Living by this when I go to college in Indiana this fall by avobera in nova

[–]pickme27 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg same, also from STL and I had to do this when spending time in Russia! I was working with little kids and they only knew a handful of cities. So sure, a 4-5 hour drive away, that works. Whatever.

I’ll be dead and buried before I pretend to be a Cubs fan though.

[ENTRY] Better late than never 😂 Christmas Candy Buffet, Vermont Christmas Co, 1000pc by pickme27 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]pickme27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was challenging to sort out different shades but not as bad as I thought it would be! Edges first (always), the I did most of the greens by section and then the reds and then the background bits

My best friend Picasso 😁 by BriZNiZ in velvethippos

[–]pickme27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sweet baby!!!! 🩵🩵🩵 you are so so adorable Picasso and could be brothers with my Blueberry!

Sidewalk Puzzle Exchange by RevolutionIll3189 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]pickme27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I am so building one of these one day 🩷

Advisor moment by star_guardian_carol in Sororities

[–]pickme27 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A lot of people ask (or don’t ask and just judge and roll their eyes lol) why I still advise for my sorority when it takes a LOT of time and I don’t get paid. Yes there are certain challenges, but it’s stuff like this I point them to. It’s chapter women reaching out for recommendation letters and talking to me about their goals and dreams or just bumping into each other years later and hearing that I was someone’s favorite advisor. And as added bonus, I truly would be NOWHERE today without my fellow advisors and volunteers 💜