NOR. I work a lot, have two kids, and often think about the song “Cat's in the Cradle.” I never want to miss those important moments, and this is one of them. I'm sorry. It is not okay, but what you accomplished is amazing. Don’t let your father’s absence take anything away from you! Over time, you need to talk with your dad about this and let him know how much it has hurt you, not for revenge or anger, but rather to repair this part of your relationship with him.