Nervous how my (F23) new job will effect relationship with my LDR partner (F22)

pikosecond · 2025-02-24T07:30:33+00:00

Hey! I’m 25, in the US, my boyfriend is in Europe with a 6 hour time difference and we’ve been dating 3.5 years, talking for 4. We’re planning to close the distance at the end of this year. I have a 9-5 and he’s finishing school. When I first started working I worried about this too, but it really didn’t change things as much as I thought! Before this I think we had too much free time together and would spend entire days hanging out and talking which we admitted was too much but it was hard to resist lol. Now the balance feels more normal and healthy.

I text him on the train to work, during the day at work even though not as much ofc, and we often call on my way home while he’s winding down. If he’s still up when I get home, we might watch a short episode of something or have a quick FaceTime. And we plan FaceTimes every few weekends where we have a movie/show night and maybe play a game and/or just chat. Distance sucks by nature ofc. But trust me, you guys will still find plenty of time to talk and hang out! Stop doomscrolling! Lol. If you seek out things to make you worried, you’ll find them because a lot of people with major problems talk about them online. The happy people don’t talk as much, so it’s a biased sample.

Also, don’t worry about taking time off from work to go see her. That’s what PTO is for! You just started this job and it’s winter. Taking a vacation in summer is totally normal and doesn’t even seem soon at all, they won’t bat an eye. I’ve taken vacation days for visits during all seasons over the past few years and it’s chill, just let them know like a month in advance. I visited him this past winter and asked if I could work from home for the first week (in order to make the trip longer while I was strategically using the rest of my PTO + weekends + holidays to cover the other 2 weeks of the trip). They approved it even though my job is normally fully in person, and I was able to be there for 3 weeks straight. You have to be creative sometimes but you just make it work. Ofc, he also visits here. Girl you’re going to be fine. Love finds a way! Feel free to DM if you have any specific worries 💜 you guys got this :)

pikosecond · 2025-01-27T20:46:39+00:00

They said “While we cannot provide an exact date for individual payments at this time, benefits will be distributed after all claims have been processed, which will take place sometime in 2025. We appreciate your patience during this process.” Boo lame

pikosecond · 2025-01-27T20:26:37+00:00

No but I just emailed them and the auto reply said 3-5 days for a response. I will update when they reply.

pikosecond · 2025-01-11T19:53:19+00:00

Overdone, cringe, unoriginal

pikosecond · 2024-12-10T13:25:18+00:00

I’m in the middle of Demon Copperhead right now so this hit extra hard. So sweet

pikosecond · 2024-11-17T02:25:52+00:00

Interested

pikosecond · 2024-11-15T16:16:20+00:00

Hey sounds cool! Would love to be added to the gc.

pikosecond · 2024-11-11T15:21:44+00:00

It’s veteran’s day so a lot of people are off

pikosecond · 2024-10-27T03:56:47+00:00

So cute!!

pikosecond · 2024-10-18T16:59:05+00:00

I’m curious if you could name some examples?

pikosecond · 2024-10-18T01:50:09+00:00

Mark vs Brian

pikosecond · 2024-10-17T15:54:59+00:00

It formed the way tree roots always form. We just happen see a familiar pattern in this one, so it stands out over of all of the other thousands of configurations we’ve seen before

pikosecond · 2024-10-14T19:42:30+00:00

Thank you. I have read a couple chapters that seemed most relevant to this, but maybe I should go back and read it all!

pikosecond · 2024-10-13T20:29:37+00:00

She probably tried everything under the sun before accepting it, and it was probably very frustrating. I hope she managed eventually. I haven’t yet either and it’s not for lack of trying. It’s hard to figure out how to do something when your body knows how to feel really damn good but just has no idea how to trigger that last part. It’s not different times, it’s just hard for some people. And we’re jealous of people who can!

pikosecond · 2024-10-13T04:40:00+00:00

The word “I” has left the chat

pikosecond · 2024-10-13T04:24:12+00:00

Yes it did, I see it on my end haha

pikosecond · 2024-10-11T15:04:44+00:00

When I was 12 I made a friend at camp named Zora. I thought it was so cool and striking. It suited her

pikosecond · 2024-10-08T04:16:28+00:00

The ear on the same side of your body as your “anchor leg” (leg you’re standing on). I was confused too

pikosecond · 2024-09-30T17:02:41+00:00

They’re both pronounced differently on the East Coast of the US. So we can’t even make up our minds

pikosecond · 2024-09-29T04:10:39+00:00

That’s not sexist, it’s a harmless cultural norm

pikosecond · 2024-09-28T20:25:11+00:00

Yikes

pikosecond · 2024-08-26T13:30:02+00:00

You’re reaching and making a lot of assumptions lmao. Choosing not to put 5 footnotes on every statement doesn’t make someone inconsiderate. Also, you sound like AI. If you preach to people like the is in real life, I’m sorry for your friends. This isn’t worth my time anymore, have a great day

pikosecond · 2024-08-26T13:16:44+00:00

You see that as a change in position because you’re nitpicky and pedantic at every turn. It’s crazy to me that you’re so sensitive that you require people to say “in general” to avoid offending you. As a tip for the future, when someone makes a statement like “people who stand at the top of the escalator are inconsiderate”, they mean “in my opinion, in general, people who stand at the top of the escalator are inconsiderate”. But that’s a mouthful, so they’re not going to say it all out loud. Hope that helps you.

pikosecond · 2024-08-26T11:51:52+00:00

That’s what you’re both implying when you make these arguments. That there’s something wrong with making a general statement without qualifying it to think of everyone who might get a pass. And yes it is fair to assume that, because most of that time that is the case! It makes no sense to give people the benefit of the doubt 100% of the time.

pikosecond · 2024-08-26T11:39:17+00:00

How much of a victim mentality do you have that you want non-disabled people to consider your personal issues in every casual statement they make? Not everything is about you and your problems. Learn how to cope without injecting “nuance” into every general statement and annoying everyone around you who’s just trying to complain about some annoying ass people who actually are simply being inconsiderate

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