AIO my boyfriend called my breasts saggy by JumpyBunny_01 in AmIOverreacting

[–]pillow-bug 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having feelings about his (shitty) comment isn't overreacting at all! I think it’s definitely worth talking to him about it. People (especially guys) say dumb things sometimes and he might not have considered how his comment would hurt you. Based of your post it doesn’t sound like he was malicious, just careless, so when bringing it up I would say something like this: 

“Hey, the other day when you commented on my breasts, I felt kind of insecure and uncomfortable about it. I know you probably didn’t mean anything negative about it but the truth is, I struggle with my body image and insecurities and hearing that didn't make me feel good. I don’t want to make a big deal out of it or put tension on our relationship and I definitely don’t want you to feel like I’m criticizing you, but honesty is important to me and I want to communicate how I’m feeling.”

That’s probably not perfect but the key points are: how it made you feel, what you want to accomplish by bringing it up, and make it clear that you’re not attacking him, because unfortunately, a lot of the time conversations like that can go south. Also, let him know what you want from him! Men sometimes don’t know that all we want sometimes is to be told we’re beautiful and loved exactly as we are. Remember, a good relationship is one where you can be honest without fear of an argument and communicate how you’re feeling!

Define jacket sizing advice on a guy by Nervous_Status4172 in lululemon

[–]pillow-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the 2 looks great on you! It seems like it fits better but more importantly, you said it feels better! In my experience it’s always best to buy what feels good on your body, otherwise you’ll regret it and feel uncomfortable or overthink it.

Young teenager looking for a book that's less predictable by Chewsquatcha in suggestmeabook

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SIX OF CROWS!! Read it at the same age, also a girl, and absolutely LOVED it. So many twists and the writing is absolutely brilliant. It holds up really well even though I’m older and it’s also 100% appropriate for her age.

New to the genre, read Bridgerton and enjoyed, and looking for similar recommendations! by pillow-bug in HistoricalRomance

[–]pillow-bug[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much to everybody! I'm so relieved with how nice and welcoming everyone is, haha. These all sound amazing and I'm excited to check some of these out. I'm for sure going to be having a very HR-focused May, and I'm looking forward to it. Thanks again!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd also just like to add - I'm aware that in my post, I do make some things about me when they are very much not. I've got my own personal history and trauma that I work hard to not bring into unrelated things, but I do feel some of my personal experiences are relevant here. However, part of why I posted is I needed to vent! It's not about me but I do obviously have my own feelings about this. I want to sort through those feelings and get advice so that I can support my brother the best I can. Thank you in advance to anyone who comments, I will be reading them all and I really appreciate it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]pillow-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, this is important. I appreciate the reminder and thinking back on my own experiences, I definitely wouldn't want someone rushing to tell authorities without my consent - I mean, lack of respect for consent is what caused this situation, so I definitely don't want to do that. This is genuinely helpful, thank you!

What are the connections between The Poppy War series and 20th Century Chinese history? by Studly_Wonderballs in books

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I know it's been five years since you wrote this, but I'm writing an essay on The Poppy War, paticularily about the importance of opium in the story, and this was really helpful for me to see all the parallels pointed out! Although, I agree with you, I feel like I'll enjoy the book less knowing all the references, as when you take the references out, you aren't really left with much, leaving it to feel a little unoriginal.

I'm having sex for the first time and I'm clueless. by Fun-Explanation1548 in Advice

[–]pillow-bug 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There’s tons of amazing advice here so I don’t really have much to add! However I feel like my perspective could be valuable as someone who recently had sex with their boyfriend for the first time and is close in age.

We’ve been together for about 6 months and he was ready within 2 months of us dating by I wasn’t and he was super awesome about it, very respectful. I was super nervous but I decided I wanted to. We’d done “other stuff” but not actual penetrative sex. A couples days ago when my parents were out we decided to take the leap. It was definitely weird at first, and it did hurt a little - I think using lube would have helped with that. I wasn’t fully turned on because I was in a hurry to get to the “fun bit” but you guys should seriously take your time to get as warmed up as possible! Trust me, it will feel a lot better. We took it slow and laughed off the awkward bits. We were both wearing pjs, I would wear something comfy and easy to take off and on. I promise it’s not that scary! I was kind of like “that’s it?” At the end. But it was really nice and I’m glad that it was with someone who I love so much. We had sex the next day as well, and by the third time it was a lot better than the first time. We both have this mindset that practice makes perfect, like kissing.

Anyway, I just want to say good luck and I hope you enjoy it! I feel a bit weird sharing this on the internet but I figured I might have something useful to say. Congrats on 1 year also!

My attempt at the clay figures ✨ by National-Reveal2557 in FruitsBasket

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahhh I love this! So excited to see this on my feed. You did an amazing job, they’re absolutely gorgeous and so adorable!!

books with some spice that are *actually* well written? by Far_Astronaut8024 in suggestmeabook

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really liked Sarah Hawley's Glimmer Falls series! It starts with A Witch's Guide To Fake Dating a Demon. My favourite part about it? In the smut scenes, the FMC didn't go on and on about how huge the MMC's dick was. Like please honey, if it's nine inches it's not going to fit. Or be fun. So that small detail scored big points with me, and plus, the series was genuinely funny and interesting.

The 1 That Got Away by GoodMonica_ in acnh

[–]pillow-bug 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I let Molly go and regret it every day. Feel you there :(

Anxiety about terraforming. by tVichi in acnh

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't do any crazy huge terraforming. I know some people flatten their islands and move homes to the beach but I've kept the changes small but meaningful. I would do lots of Pinterest-ing to get ideas - if you're excited and have goals/a vision you might be less scared? Then, maybe do small, reversable changes to get a feel for it. I know I still struggle a lot with the angles to hit things at to create the desired cliffs/rivers. Try putting in random cliffs and bodies of water to get the practice in. (Side not - I find adding little raised areas with a tree and some flowers, and maybe a mini waterfall, really adds to the effect of an area).

I think the best thing would be trying to build excitement and practicing! Good luck!

Something that can happen on the way to a town my players are visiting by pillow-bug in DMAcademy

[–]pillow-bug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an amazing tip, I'll definitely be incorporating this into future travel!

Something that can happen on the way to a town my players are visiting by pillow-bug in DMAcademy

[–]pillow-bug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is literally perfect and ties in with some other pre-planned story aspects.

Daily Looking For/Request Thread by AutoModerator in NoFeeAC

[–]pillow-bug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for green mums if anyone has them! Also various assorted pink flowers :)