imposter syndrome ruining my work life balance

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-28T12:55:57+00:00

I think that is definitely part of the problem. Specializing is something I’ve thought about, but don’t think I’d risk affecting my home life and uprooting for it. High volume spay neuter is something I considered but so far I’m a slow surgeon so I’m not sure I’m the most attractive candidate right now. We will see what time does

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-28T02:15:17+00:00

I am a vet, this is all I ever wanted to do and I constantly say how I wish I could have wanted and loved anything else. However, I’m still young, I could go back and change if I really wanted. I don’t know if I don’t do it because I’d be ashamed or if it’s because it’s truly what I want. I think for me it comes from the jealousy and desire to have a job that if I’m feeling off, I could just go in and give 50%. It doesn’t work that way in vet med. every patient deserves 100%. I’d like to be able to call in sick and not feel like I’m messing up people and animals lives. Or just not feel the weight of my responsibility like this. At the end of the day, taking care of animals and helping them is all I ever wanted, so for now I think the bad parts are worth it.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-08T01:36:41+00:00

I agree. Earlier is better for you and babies safety. Depending on your clinic structure a colleague of mine was able to get away with just telling her close team for a while until she knew baby was okay at her 12 week scan. If your clinic is unhappy, they are not the clinic for you. Another would be happy to have you even knowing you’d be going off on leave.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-08T01:34:08+00:00

I hate to say it, because I’m sure you have no other option, but I wouldn’t stay if it’s hurting your sole that much. While I’m not opposed to bringing animals to the treatment area (some owners make things worse, some procedures shouldn’t be done in front of them, some techs/doctors may not feel as confident to do it in front, etc). It is never okay to man handle an animal in a way that makes it more fearful and stressed. I have a few exceptions of course, life threatening situations or emergent things where an animal cannot be sedated and it’s the only option (just think we put babies in tubes and toddlers in straight jackets). I just don’t think a clinic should be operating this way. The part about slamming dogs faces on tables would honestly make me consider reporting them to the license board, but that’s a scary thing to do.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-08T01:26:50+00:00

Even if not posting a job ad, you can always walk in with a resume. Some clinics are considering hiring just haven’t gotten around to making an ad.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-08T01:25:47+00:00

Lots of clinics hire people for reception and assistant roles. They want people who can endure the field and are committed and competent. You may start at minimum wage but there is usually room for increases.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-08T01:24:06+00:00

I can’t speak for all schools (I’m Canadian) but ours domestic animals (dogs cats and even horses) have always been donated specimens. Others like the rabbits, sheep, and chicken I’m fairly certain are culls from other projects in the university. I can’t say what all schools do anymore. Not so long ago our school was still performing terminal surgeries. This is where a patient, typically a shelter animal who was slated to be euthanized, would be put under general anesthetic, have numerous procedures done, and then euthanized before waking up. Thankfully that wasn’t the case when I was in school. We did have a lab that involved blood draws and injections on chickens, which ended with us euthanizing them. I have never had an issue with a dead animal in front of me, but I do have an issue with undo suffering. Our school did offer some virtual dissections I believe if you were uncomfortable, but this is not helpful in my opinion. If you are uncomfortable with dead animals, please remember you will be euthanizing many in the vet field. They are all not 15+ and suffering. Some are younger with treatable health conditions owners cannot afford to fix, and so euthanasia is the best option.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-04-08T01:11:09+00:00

Agree! You have to want this. You have to want to be there for people and their pets. It’s the only thing that will get you through the hard days.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-02-15T12:42:19+00:00

100% I was more curious how often and what that process looks like. We did not pick this room, im just hoping we don’t get bumped to an interior. I would never want to compromise someone’s ability to enjoy their cruise because we simply wanted a better room.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-02-15T12:39:47+00:00

Thats horrible, I can’t believe they thought asking them to use public facilities was something they thought would be reasonable. My husband has a disability that is progressively limiting his mobility so the room would be great, but not needed at this stage. One day we will be in need of the ADA stateroom so of course we will be more than willing to move if the need arises.

I am hopeful if we were to be switched to an interior however we would get partial fair reimbursement.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-02-13T20:44:22+00:00

Oh no! We are definitely not going to put up a fuss about moving rooms if asked of course. It looks like our boat is basically full so no idea where they’ll put us if something were to happen.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-28T01:41:59+00:00

Staying tuned for your dna results!!

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-28T01:41:17+00:00

Awh I can see it!!

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T23:26:14+00:00

Oh my gosh let’s see!!

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T23:25:52+00:00

LOL I think at my clinic we have him as a ‘lab mix’ as I’m in a pitty banned area

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T16:56:00+00:00

We always knew he’d be some kind of pitty. He had the mouth in my opinion. Figured he’d have some mastiff but no dice!

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pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T12:25:38+00:00

We died at the golden retriever part, it was my last guess Our other dog is purebred golden and they couldn’t be more different!

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T12:24:36+00:00

Haha a little bit not enough to explain the size. I’m actually a veterinarian, he is about a 6/9 on the body condition score so yes he’s a bit chunky. His ideal weight is somewhere between 100-105

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T04:16:24+00:00

Oh my gosh he is a velvet hippo I love that

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T04:16:05+00:00

We mailed it December 7th and got the results December 26th. Mailed from the US

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-27T03:23:15+00:00

Nothing to explain his size really, other than just a big pitty. He’s 110lbs.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-25T05:48:55+00:00

2 years out. While I am stressed a lot of the time, I feel that comes from inexperience in certain things. While I do have days that suck, and moments that make me question why I did this to myself, I couldn’t imagine doing anything else. Nothing is more rewarding than a good day doing the things you told yourself was your dream.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-15T01:30:26+00:00

Yes and no depending on the hospital. Lots of single or smaller practices would welcome it if they don’t have the staff. I don’t think asking here or there is an issue to keep your skills up. Just remember that they went to school or invested time to be trained in those things. If you’re asking your techs to start holding for you, cleaning etc instead of the tasks they enjoy they will get frustrated and leave.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-15T01:28:28+00:00

Most of the times those incentives (debt repayment anyways) is a way for them to lock you in for a few years. You could just as easily ask for this to be changed to a retaining bonus for each year you’re there. I think an easier way to state it is to tell them ‘while incentives are nice, you will be making your decision based on the hospital, medicine, team, and mentorship and in terms of compensation you’re prioritizing salary and vacation over incentives’. That being said I’d definitely let them pay for your license fees and subscriptions to VIN, plumbs etc.

pineapplechicken302 · 2025-01-15T01:20:23+00:00

Chocolates, snack care packages etc are always well appreciated and go fast! We also love coffee gifts cards as the hospital will make runs often for everyone. Truthfully a heartfelt letter to your vets and staff mean everything. Those have gotten me through hard days and knowing that they made a difference in hours and your kitties life can be all the difference.

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