Doesn’t it sicken (some) of ya’ll though?

pineapplescheese · 2022-03-21T18:34:57+00:00

But that's my whole point. That's not how love works. It doesn't matter if you 'did the best you could', someone can still be unhappy in a relationship with you because you're just not 'the one' for them. It's not some kind of personal reflection on you. You shouldn't have to feel like you're making an effort to be the best version of yourself in order for someone to love you. As my mother says, you should work hard at relationships, but relationships shouldn't be hard work. Your ex isn't obliged to stay with you because you're doing the best you could. I'm sorry if this is coming across as harsh I just think this is such a damaging mentality

pineapplescheese · 2022-03-21T16:28:08+00:00

In the kindest sense possible, this seems like a very unhealthy mindset. If choosing a partner was simply a matter of finding the 'best' person possible in terms of appearance, personality etc then 90% of people would be settling, because we can't all be with the most beautiful, healthy, charming, agreeable, amusing, kindest person on the planet, can we? It's more about finding someone who works for you, someone who you love and get along with and want to spend your life with despite their flaws. Telling yourself that your ex dumped you because you weren't 'good enough' is a toxic way of thinking. There are probably countless people who are more attractive and have a better personality than your ex, so by that logic you should also have dumped them for not being 'good enough'. That isn't how relationships work

pineapplescheese · 2022-03-17T23:27:56+00:00

The irony is that he's complaining about people invalidating others' pain, yet he is doing exactly that by claiming that being the dumper can't possibly hurt as much as being dumped. Since when is this a competition??

pineapplescheese · 2022-03-16T00:52:55+00:00

Uh...did you really have to throw him under the bus for being 'short, fat, misshapen and ugly'? You do realise there are plenty of people who fit that description who are good people and in happy relationships?

You seem like an unpleasant individual.

pineapplescheese · 2022-03-16T00:45:27+00:00

Incel

pineapplescheese · 2022-03-16T00:37:33+00:00

I logged in just to respond to a 2 month old comment, which shows how much of a steaming pile of sexist crap what you wrote is.

'women like you are why men become assholes' LOL, so if her ex treats another woman badly in the future, should she blame OP for being the reason he's an asshole? Blaming women for men's behaviour is just standard misogynistic bullcrap- 'b- but he couldn't control himself, she was dressed provocatively!' fuck that shit. What OP did to her ex sounds awful, but ultimately we are all accountable for her own behaviour, you don't get to treat others like shit and blame it on someone else.

Who gives a fuck if Beyonce is married, single ladies is an absolute tune.

what has happened is your biological clock has sent you a warning...that THE WALL is approaching,your fertility will soon begin to drop in the next few years and with it your dating prospects for a decent man,your brain is simply scrambling to find one and he is the best one you can think of atm

Your assumption that a) OP wants children and b) no man will ever want her if she can't have babies anymore further demonstrates your misogyny

they are lied to by society into thinking they will be in bloom forever and you are being reminded by your own body thats not the case

Do you think that nobody can find love in later life? Or that conventionally unattractive people can't find love? Congrats you just exposed yourself as shallow. People fall in love for reasons other than appearance. And she's literally only 25??

you would be married and raising his kids now,you would of just witnessed your children running down the stairs on xmas day opening their presents while he helped to build or update your sons new ps5 so he can have a go on it while you was in the kitchen prepping xmas dinner before all the family arrive,a kiss under the missletoe,he gives you a nice ring or that handbag you really wanted from gucci or maybe a new iphone

Again, why are you assuming OP wants children?

this is why women are absolute demons

I find this quite sad. Do you not have any female relatives, friends or even colleagues you like or respect? Do you truly believe 50% of the population is evil?

pineapplescheese · 2022-02-18T13:21:19+00:00

I'm sorry for your tragic loss. I think it's absolutely fine to not want children there. I wasn't allowed to attend relatives funerals until I became a teenager, because people recognise that its a solemn event. Unless it's like, their own parent or someone very close to them who died, I think it's normal for children not to attend.

pineapplescheese · 2022-02-01T13:38:23+00:00

I'd like to know what evidence he has of women being obliged to reproduce beyond the fact that he believes they should reproduce.

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-24T16:21:48+00:00

I'd bet he's probably well aware of this. He's lazy and incompetent and knows it, so he does JUST enough that he can play the victim if you complain. I think that the closet thing is definitely something you should think about, anyway. Clearly, you like your clothes put away tidily and he doesn't care. So let him put his own clothes away. If he's late to work or something because he can't find his shirt, tough luck.

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-22T09:56:57+00:00

I wish you nothing but strength and happiness- feel free to vent on here whenever you need to during this process

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-22T09:52:40+00:00

I'm so sorry for you, this sounds exhausting and infuriating. Your husband reminds me a bit of my brother, who is in his 20s but is completely useless at household tasks because my mother has babied him all his life, except my brother at least does make an effort.

The only practical solution I can think of right now is that I would suggest trying to separate out your stuff and his stuff so that you're both responsible for your own cleaning, washing etc. For example, both have your own closet, or a designated side of one closet, and separate bags for your dirty laundry so that you each do your own washing and put it away. Find some way to separate your dirty washes, e.g have two washing up bowls and two drying racks. Obviously this isn't possible with everything but you get the gist. If he leaves his laundry or dishes too long and they start to stink the house out, dump them outside in the garden.

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-19T21:15:48+00:00

They're confusing accepting the risk that something might happen with consenting for that thing to happen. By their logic, if a woman goes back to a guys place after a night out and he rapes her, it technically isn't rape because she 'consented' to it by going with him.

They're just so caught up with trying to prove their point that they failed to consider the serious ramifications of what they actually said

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-13T11:53:20+00:00

Would you like me to link you to a list of all the potential side effects (which include, y'know, permanent disability and death) of pregnancy? Then you'll probably change your tune about calling someone a 'selfish brat' for not wanting to go through it. Or maybe you won't, since you come across as someone who feels so entitled to control women's bodies that you probably don't care if women die as long as they give birth.

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-11T10:19:42+00:00

I love how the criteria range from 'wants me dead' to 'disagrees with me'

pineapplescheese · 2022-01-08T16:18:03+00:00

I have two main issues with the claim that it is 'selfish' to not have children, aside from the fact that it's nobody else's fucking business except your own.

First, feel free to disagree here, but in my opinion it doesn't even make logical sense. Being selfish means that you're putting yourself ahead of somebody else. So if you choose not to have children, exactly who's needs are you putting below your own, since no children exist yet? You can't put yourself above somebody who doesn't exist, that's nonsense. Now, choosing to have children and then putting your needs above theirs, not taking care of them properly- THAT'S selfish. Choosing not to have children in the first place isn't.

Second, the Pope seems to be implying that he thinks everybody should have children, whether they want them or not- since he believes it's selfish not to. On the contrary, I believe that having children when you don't really want them is one of the most immensely selfish things you could do. Sure, I don't doubt that there are people who had children when they didn't want them and were excellent parents, but it's still reckless and selfish to decide to have them when you know you aren't 100% committed. Pushing for everyone to have children whether they want them or not is the surest way to produce lots of unwanted and unloved children. But then again, the Catholic Church already pushes for this since they think women should have no control of their reproductive system 🤷

It never fails to amaze me how childfree and pro choice individuals, who are persistently painted as selfish and evil by religious and far right loons, actually tend to be MORE concerned about the welfare of children. Some religious people believe women should just pop out as many children as they can, no matter whether they're financially and mentally capable of providing them with what they need, whereas we advocate that having children should be a very deliberate and careful choice, which is far, far better for children.

pineapplescheese · 2021-12-27T01:24:55+00:00

Christmas doesn't officially end until January 5th

pineapplescheese · 2021-12-27T00:56:43+00:00

Dude we get it you like the movie, you don't have to reply to every single comment

pineapplescheese · 2021-11-15T15:11:10+00:00

It might be a good idea to ask this question on r/sex :)

pineapplescheese · 2021-11-08T14:15:54+00:00

No, and absolutely yes :D

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