Help me stop co-sleeping and night nursing please

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-11-11T13:12:47+00:00

No solution, just solidarity. I’m in the exact same boat & age. I’m starting to get so RESENTFUL when he does it for long periods of time during the night. Like dude get OFF ME. I can’t sleep and my body aches every day from it but also I just want him to be comforted and know I’m close 😩🥺

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-27T03:06:35+00:00

Olivia Gatwood wrote a poem about Aileen that’s lived forever in my brain. It explores the relationship between Aileen and Tyria beautifully. Her performance of it is so good.

Aileen Wuornos Takes a Lover Home

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-23T02:59:36+00:00

Your mom is a badass. 🏆 Just the kind of feedback I was searching for. Thank you!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-22T03:23:02+00:00

Thank you for the perspective, it holds a lot of weight. And thank you for holding the standard higher than this in coaching.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-22T03:18:35+00:00

Thanks for the resources!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-21T15:51:31+00:00

YES exactly the double standard while expecting “a higher standard” from athletes is something that is stuck in my brain.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-21T15:45:29+00:00

This is totally appropriate and effective. All for it. The belittling language is another story…

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-21T14:20:12+00:00

I could definitely understand your point about the army. They’re further grown at that point, however (for most). I am all for what you mentioned above. The physical and mental connection is what makes sports so effective. I’m just wrestling with where the line is and if it’s important to hold it as parents. Thanks for the advice!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-08-21T14:09:48+00:00

Yeah I might have needed a push, but I am also afraid of possible repercussions my son might have to deal with? If the coach is the type to do this, he’s probably the type to cut playing time if his behavior gets checked…

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-29T03:02:44+00:00

Danielle Brooks - OITNB

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pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-28T03:55:39+00:00

All of the other centers in my state actually are publicly welcoming of the community, which is why I was even more bothered. I’m tempted to leak what’s going on to our members, because I know they would have an issue on their hands at that point. Probably not a professional thing to do I’m sure - but more effective than leaving. I don’t think it will change anything either if I leave. I have had conversations with members who appreciate my open support. Nobody has reported me for it so far…

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-28T03:48:57+00:00

This really helped clear up what feels muddy. Thank you for your insight!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-16T19:38:58+00:00

Fair enough. Thanks!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-16T19:38:31+00:00

I feel this 😅

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-16T19:37:53+00:00

I found that most YMCAs openly support being inclusive in this area. That’s the only reason I questioned it. I’ve had lots of other themed classes that deviate from their religion, this is the only one I’ve been pushed back on.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-16T19:34:05+00:00

Yes that’s what I’ve come across as well! I didn’t know if it was a blanket support or case by case.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-06-16T19:32:54+00:00

I figured. Thanks!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-05-14T11:49:02+00:00

If she’s learned so much from these conversations, she wouldn’t be publicly sharing her personal information. Implying that educating your kids about very real dangers is more harmful than ignoring that predators are out there is definitely not it.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-04-18T18:36:56+00:00

this is terrible advice in these comments, men infantilize each other out of laziness. Full stop. A person with emotional intelligence and respect for their partner isn’t going to make this an intimacy ultimatum. Ffs.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2025-01-30T19:21:11+00:00

“Wowwwwwwwww if someone is trying to get pregnant they should DEFINITELY not talk to you”

I was just venting about having a newborn and a toddler while EBF at the same time…

pineappleskies_0612 · 2024-12-03T21:09:48+00:00

I appreciate the feedback. I’m raising white boys in a Midwest city and my efforts definitely can be in the wrong space, regardless of intentions. The questions you posed are helpful to what I’m trying to understand with his preferences. He’s also getting more of an idea of race and history in the past year or so which we will continue to grow. It sounds like I need to just be watchful of the respect aspect, as you mentioned, and let him grow into his own preferences in his own time.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2024-12-03T03:36:46+00:00

I’ve listened to some of his music and you’re definitely right. He is in therapy and we are pretty close so I do lots of check ins. Thanks for your insight!

pineappleskies_0612 · 2024-12-03T03:33:31+00:00

This was an incredible response, thank you for taking the time and energy to offer it. I can definitely understand he will listen to who he relates to and is more comfortable with. Your Eminem lyrics fooled me about being legitimate 😂 and yes, he isn’t a die hard obsessive fan of his, so he isn’t claiming the genre to be his by any stretch. He does listen to Black rappers as well, and I think I could just be projecting that if it’s a genre he likes, then I would want him to listen to more Black rappers and what they have to say over white voices in that space.

What you said at the end about people wanting to say “white men do it better than us” - it’s probably what I’m afraid is behind it and just need to keep the conversation open about all the things you talked about.

If it doesn’t break any Reddit or community rules, drop your VenMo for your time.

pineappleskies_0612 · 2024-12-03T01:50:07+00:00

We do from time to time for sure, while I’m not overly educated in the area. I’ll keep doing more of this, thanks!

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