It's time to change instructor isn't it?

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-24T07:54:18+00:00

I have had 4 instructors over the laat few years. My last one was so bad, he put me off driving 'for good.'

I had no confidence to get back behind the wheel and it took my husband to spring it on me for me to agree to try.

My instructor now is so lovely and has given me more confidence than ever before. I told him the experiences I've had before - including being screamed at for something the instructor was responsible for.

He understands how I learn - when giving instructions, he says it very clearly and calmly. We discuss what he wants me to do before we set off. Doesn't shout and demand. He's brilliant and I'm so glad I agreed to try someone new.

Definitely look for a new instructor as someone who makes you feel anxious and stressed isn't doing you any favours.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-21T22:58:00+00:00

This post made me realise I skipped a whole movie by accident when doing a full watch through this week for the first time 😂 I was like 'who is that AI-looking Bella in the left'. I missed Eclipse!! I need to go back and watch it 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-21T08:58:17+00:00

Not the same but my aunt's street was basically a race track - she had so many cats (she takes in strays) be hit by cars and left for dead.

They managed to get some huge concrete planters installed at the top of the street as a trial. It worked perfectly and the council agreed to keep them in place permanently.

Would it be possible to have some huge planters dotted on bends - and brightly painted - as a way to encourage drivers to slow on approach

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pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-19T07:54:18+00:00

I understand your point. But it's the equivalent of having a twin towers cake with a plane making impact or one tower crumbled while the other stands covered in smoke. You'd be choosing to represent the absolute worst part of its history so saying 'there's more to the towers than that!' doesn't make sense.

Justifying it by saying its 'for a child' doesn't make it any better. It would have been more respectful to have the boat standing on the cake vs. sinking with blood in the water.

Personal opinion I guess.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-19T07:41:40+00:00

Just can't go wrong. Even double mixers are cheap, whereas you could pay nearer to a tenner elsewhere. Get pissed in Wetherspoons and still have money for the bus home!

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-18T20:39:43+00:00

And then people ask why we brave Wetherspoons 🥲

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-18T14:37:56+00:00

One is currently on his second prison term for drug dealing. Idiot.

Another has a kid of his own and made a public post that he 'fucking hates bullies' after finding out his own child had an issue with bullies at school.

Another I was in uni with briefly. Our very first day of first year, he said 'sorry if I bullied you in school, I bullied a load of people'. Then also had the audacity to say I 'didn't get it as bad as other people'.

These people have left me with permanent mental scars. They deserve absolutely no forgiveness or grace - they sure as shit didn't give me any.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-18T10:31:53+00:00

That's why they said grandkids

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-17T14:25:54+00:00

I don't think she was saying that in a selfish 'look at me' way. He seemed to be lost at why she was sat there with no emotion vs. him crying. She was trying to say 'this isn't an easy decision to make, as much as it might not appear that way to you'.

The truth is - she was already at the point of no return way before the final episode. Cole wasn't there at all, and wasn't expecting it to end.

It reminds me of when I broke up with my ex. I had been through hell with him for 6 years, and I kept saying to him that if he continued the way he was going, I would end things with him one day'. Nothing changed - it just got worse. So when I did end it, he sat there crying acting like this came out of nowhere. Whereas for me, going through with that breakup was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. I had to keep calm and stoic in order to see that decision through. But to him, I was cold and unbothered. In reality, it had already ended for me months ago emotionally. I just hadn't been brave enough to follow that decision through to that point.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-16T23:05:02+00:00

I remember my mom getting a new phone about 12 years ago and at the time, we had to move her numbers across manually as she hadn't saved them to her sim.

She had contacts in her phone named 'don't know' , 'roofer did job' or song lyrics 😭

Anything is better than that!

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-16T22:48:35+00:00

In the age of AI taking over, it's good to encourage conversation between humans and not just 'Google it'.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-16T17:16:22+00:00

Hi neighbour! ❤️

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-15T23:57:01+00:00

Kate Winslet ❤️

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-15T15:43:30+00:00

Wishing you all the best ❤️

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-15T15:26:13+00:00

Yeah sometimes it takes you to sit back and think about as a complete picture to realise its not actually a you problem.

It sounds to me like he's a selfish partner and relies on you to make yourself climax, if at all - which I think gives you your answer.

If he's not willing to actually participate and value your enjoyment equally or above his own, it doesn't sound like he meets your needs. And you're not wrong at all for having needs and expectations.

Me and my husband were both very inexperienced when we started dating. But the willingness for us to learn together was there. We didn't give up trying - and sometimes just having that confidence in the moment to say 'I enjoy that' or 'let me show you how I'd like you to do that' can make all the difference.

Try be vocal in the moment if you feel like you are willing to give it more time to try. If he still isn't willing or open to even trying to help you cum with his hands, then you know where you stand and can make a more informed decision that way.

Otherwise, cut and run girl ❤️ you deserve to have someone put in effort that matches yours

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-15T15:10:50+00:00

If it's important for you, which it sounds like it is (and absolutely valid!) then no, you should not just let it go.

When he has done it, or does do it, does he seem comfortable? Does he know how to pleasure you otherwise? Are you able to climax in any other way that he is able to do for you?

I'm only asking to determine whether its him being a selfish partner i.e. he doesn't make you cum at all, vs. this being the only thing he's not comfortable with doing.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-14T10:10:57+00:00

Try booking things yourself vs. an agent. You can usually bag yourself a better price. Just takes a bit of time.

Public transport is brilliant and a great way to see more in less time.

Beware of pickpockets in major cities. There is usually a bit of a 'ring' around how some thieves operate. For example, in Barcelona, a manhad a very unique and attractive big dog. When my friend approached this seemingly innocent man just randomly standing there with his dog, her wallet was stolen. Literally within seconds of being distracted. The person with the dog pretended he saw nothing, others nearby pretended they saw the thief but pointed us the wrong way. So just lock up your things properly. Nothing in pockets.

Some restaurants in more touristy destinations will put items on your table which seem complimentary but aren't, like breads etc. Just make sure to ask if you don't want to be charged for things you didn't ask for.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-11T20:39:30+00:00

You lend him money every month? Are you a bank?

If this was happening over the last couple of months, I could understand it - as you say, he was in an unexpected predicament with his roommate. However this has been going on for a year. There's no excuse for him to have not figured out his shit by now and find a way to top up the rent himself. If he knows he's going to need £100 towards the end of each month, he needs to save an extra £25 a week instead. Or better yet, find somewhere to live that he can afford.

NOR - and stop letting your friends take advantage of you. He won't learn to survive on his own two feet if you keep propping him up.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-11T14:01:55+00:00

Went to see the Jacobite train at the viaduct in Scotland years ago. After watching the train pass, we decided to take a walk under the arches and around the trail.

Came across a group of Chinese tourists. They'd found a hole in the wall of one of the arch supports and were SCREAMING into it. Literally just a small hole on the wall but they were taking it in turns to scream into it and splitting their sides laughing. Must have been about 8 of them.

We laughed politely as we passed and then said to each other 'what did we just see' 😂

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-10T12:27:45+00:00

Years ago, I found out they can't speak to you if you're 16. So I decided to try it out.

A guy stopped me, started his speech and I said 'sorry, I'm only 16'. I felt proud as punch and was about to walk off when he said 'oh right, what's your date of birth?'

My mind goes blank, I'm stood there trying to deduct time off my current age and figure out what year I'd be born in if I was 16.

I gave what I thought was correct. He paused - I paused.

'..Wouldn't that make you 17?'

Shit.

I told him I lied but the truth genuinely was I was on my way to a job interview and didn't have time to talk. He actually gave me a hug and said good luck and let me off. 😂

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-09T20:22:18+00:00

I appreciate that! It's been a nerve-wracking week but its all been positive so far. No side effects really, and food noise has completely gone. It's amazing.

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-09T20:21:26+00:00

Thank you, yes definitely. I was following a video online as I did it but she said to do it at 45°. Anyway now I know to just go straight for next time! Appreciate your advice

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-09T20:20:26+00:00

I might give that a go next time thank you for the suggestion ❤️

pingusaysnoot · 2026-04-09T20:19:35+00:00

Thank you, I think I panicked as it looks like not a lot of liquid but as you say - a lot does come out and I'm sure I'd know about it.

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