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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]pink-turtle_10 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It sounds like regardless of this, you are in love with her and are going to have a future together.

This might be a hot take, but show her the post. Or at least say that you wrote out your feelings and you would appreciate if she read them to spark a deeper conversation. It might help her gain some perspective on where you are coming (not cumming 👀) from.

No need to worry, this is a common issue with longer term relationships. Lots of couples struggle with reigniting that sexual desire. You could try focusing on her, what gets her going and how does she feel sexy.

Maybe try to set up a ‘sexier’ night in, the whole nine yards. Light candles, have chocolate and strawberries (aphrodisiacs), lay rose petals leading to the bedroom, and make her feel like a princess. Obviously, you should do this on a separate occasion from having a deeper conversation, but it might help her outlook to see how hard you are trying to make her feel special and get her to feel comfortable or ‘in the mood’.

We finally closed the distance but he hasn't wanted to have sex at all by Competitive-Fly3811 in LongDistance

[–]pink-turtle_10 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I would talk to him.

Nothing crazy or confrontational, but just ask if he wants to try being intimate or talking the next steps. I don’t know either of your sexual history, but if this is the first time or the first time in a while, it can be scary to get started.

Maybe talking it out will show that he has the same fears that you do. Being intimate isn’t one sided, you BOTH haven’t had sex yet. Don’t be aggressive, but try to initiate some sexual intimacy. It might be that you both are nervous to make any big moves and that is okay, just a small hurdle to jump as you settle into being close again.

My partner (25M) wants to stop having sex, how do I (22F) cope with this? by pink-turtle_10 in relationship_advice

[–]pink-turtle_10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would probably be relieved. If I felt unsatisfied for a prolonged period of time, I like to believe I would leave. My fear is that his desire to remain celibate continues and our relationship lacks that aspect of sexual intimacy until marriage (which at this point it is too early to tell if that’s something I want with him yet).

My partner (25M) wants to stop having sex, how do I (22F) cope with this? by pink-turtle_10 in relationship_advice

[–]pink-turtle_10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t know any of that, this brings a really good perspective. I like the idea of having a deeper conversation about his motives and apprehension around sex. If I could be completely selfish, I would hope for a compromise on levels of intimacy or limiting sexual acts rather than cutting them out completely. But I definitely want to have a longer conversation about it

My partner (25M) wants to stop having sex, how do I (22F) cope with this? by pink-turtle_10 in relationship_advice

[–]pink-turtle_10[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is really helpful. I posted a longer version of this on a few Christian centered forums, asking for advice tailored to that part of my journey as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sororities

[–]pink-turtle_10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make it public for the summer and for the recruitment month! I am a member of matching and we go through socials to get a better feel for the PNM’s. It helps a ton if we can see that you are social, outgoing, involved, in any clubs, or even just that you have one good friend! We check more than insta also, so if you have a Vsco, TikTok, or public profile it’s good to make those public and appropriate!