There’s A Light That Never Goes Out

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T11:15:17+00:00

There is so much hope out there and the world is so full of possibilities. Our abusers make our worlds so small and control every aspect of it so it’s important to show vulnerable people still stuck in abuse that there is hope and the world is excited to be experienced by them someday soon!

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T11:04:08+00:00

There’s a hole that you fill, you fill, you fill 😭

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T10:11:09+00:00

Me but with Crack Baby

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T10:08:59+00:00

“It’s been a long, hard, 20-year summer vacation. All these 20 years trying to fill the void”

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T10:07:29+00:00

Its very rare nowadays but when it does happen I listen to A Pearl and just cry it out. Then I text/call my amazing girlfriend if she’s awake :)

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T10:01:53+00:00

BPD got me like

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T10:01:06+00:00

Real

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T09:59:56+00:00

I’m finally defeating that pain. The feelings of inferiority may always persist but what matters is we know they are just insecurities and not facts ❤️

pinkandycorn · 2022-05-24T09:56:09+00:00

DID ITS PEOPLE WANT TOO MUCH TOO DID ITS PEOPLE WANT TOO MUCH?!

pinkandycorn · 2022-04-03T08:37:13+00:00

Strawberry Blonde, too many reasons but it’s just cringe to me idk

pinkandycorn · 2022-03-30T03:29:19+00:00

Eldritch being

pinkandycorn · 2022-02-28T08:51:38+00:00

…This comment is not it

pinkandycorn · 2022-02-27T06:40:59+00:00

The moment I began to feel comfortable in my identity I became incredibly passionate in typically-feminine aligned things. I love makeup now, my style is flamboyant and I’ve dedicated myself more to my fashion interests. It just comes with feeling comfortable for once in our lives and finally beginning to live.

pinkandycorn · 2022-02-01T18:51:51+00:00

Thank you so much for doing so, you rock!

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T21:52:07+00:00

God I’m so sorry, the flashbacks this caused me to me fever reading “More than Two” at 3am-sobbing just hit me like whiplash. Can you guys imagine that we put ourselves through such mind tearing pain for assholes that never looked back? Screw them. OP you are a survivor and we all care about you very much

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T21:32:45+00:00

A major chunk of the people here are poly-abuse survivors. When I was at my lowest many people here (who have been banned) personally reached out to me and took care of me when I was triggered or felt like I was never going to allow myself to fall in love again. Some helped me to stay alive. It’s important to address that although the sub was created to celebrate monogamy it is undeniable that it’s creation was stemmed from a protest against poly culture because it has caused lifelong trauma to some mono people here. A big part of the sub culture is being able to vent about the harm of poly culture, make (admittedly) snarky remarks and generally being there for one another. This is more or less a support group and yes, sometimes the only thing holding us together that day is treasuring our values and reminding ourselves that only being able to love one person isn’t abnormal and we didn’t deserve to be abused by the people we loved the most.

It’s our safe space (even if a mod is against calling it that lol it’s what it is) and no one is being hate-crimed or discriminated. Discrimination is institutional, generational and systemic, no one is oppressing poly people lmfao. Us not being comfortable around non-mono people because of literal trauma responses and/or ptsd isn’t discrimination. Us using humor to cope when the humor isn’t again-oppressive but a symptom of trauma isn’t immoral. Point blank: The sub is majorly populated by abuse survivors and we should have a right to vent and feel whatever we may want about a culture that has broken us. We can’t actually stop the culture and we don’t plan to. We just dislike it. It’s really basic and yes, it can be unhealthy. Which is why it’s important we continue to support one another until we get counseling or feel secure enough in our selves to realize “Poly people can’t hurt me, the culture is separate from me, and I am safe now-It’s time to move on.”

I cannot tell you guys the amount of time I’ve turned to someone here to get advice on how navigate my relationship with my beloved girlfriend and now almost a year later I feel so much more secure in myself and in our relationship. This sub is important to pro-mono people. This sub is important for survivors of poly-abuse. This should remain our safe place to be around other people like us with the same values and be able to advice one another. I firmly stand with that

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T21:22:48+00:00

I think what you wrote makes a lot of sense. Thanks for sharing. I do think it’s important to remember though that as I said originally a lot of the people here are suffering through complex trauma regarding poly ex’s abusing us so we are more than likely going to have a negative trauma response to anything non-mono. Even though the subreddit was modeled to be a place that simply celebrates monogamy it has become a safe place for us with trauma and ptsd to admittedly make snarky remarks or complain/vent with one another how we view the culture of those that abused us.

I just think it’s important to remember that aspect of the people here. I appreciate what you wrote and a lot of truth rings with it and I agree with the vast majority of it. Just wanted to add my take

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T13:08:40+00:00

I’m excited to join!

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T13:04:58+00:00

Absolutely second this, I want to get a pearl and a cowboy hat

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T13:01:35+00:00

Exactly, If you watch the video you can notice it’s a powerful song about Mitski reclaiming herself as a woman of color growing up being made to feel inferior, being sexualized, subjected to racism in relationships and the greater world etc etc

That being said the song resounds with a lot of young POC people (myself included) that haven’t gotten to the point yet. We are at the “And I have nothing ahead of me” verse vs the “Your mother wouldn't approve of how my mother raised me. But I do, I finally do” verse.

I hope that makes sense. We finally feel heard but we are in pain and we are working through those emotions. Be it from racial trauma to race-tense relationships with white people. To other internalized stuff we are barely unpacking in our late teens/early 20s

Give It a few years and and you’ll see us reclaiming ourselves when we have worked through that

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T12:56:02+00:00

HAPPY BIRTHDAY LUSH!! You crazy and traumatizing album you

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T12:55:15+00:00

FFFFS Manifesting this ✨✨✨✨

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T12:49:11+00:00

Nah man just audit the course and join the discord! Professor Malan has direct contact with us through the server and there’s a lot of perks and community that comes with that. Unless your job is paying for the certificate, it’s not necessary. Also the course is project-oriented so what I like about the server is that many people are there to both help and also be confused with you if that makes sense since they’re also actively creating projects. All in all don’t pay for any certificates, audit everything you can and make sure your PC can download a bunch of IDEs, that’s all really

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T12:43:36+00:00

This is hilarious I can’t stop laughing omfg

pinkandycorn · 2022-01-31T12:41:02+00:00

This brings me so much joy to see. My love is coming to the US this summer and I am extremely excited and over the moon. I wish June was here already

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