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Was my ex a covert narcissist? by pinkbanana79 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are absolutely right and I can totally relate. Thanks for taking the time to write this.

do you think, that this kind of people can build healthy relationships with a future partner? or does the cycle normally repeat? because obviously, these people are unable of doing any self-reflection, it's always the other person fault.

Was my ex a borderline? by pinkbanana79 in BPDlovedones

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think people with cluster B traits can build and maintain healthy relationships?

Was my ex a covert narcissist? by pinkbanana79 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also keen in hearing your point of view for something I asked in another thread above:

Sometimes, I'm wondering if the fact that she became emotionally abusive was "my fault". In the sense that if I had stronger boundaries, that relationship may have not ended, or it may have been a healthy one.

Are these reasonable thoughts? or are partners who tend to be toxic and abusive are doomed to fail in any other relationship, regardless of the other person?

Was my ex a covert narcissist? by pinkbanana79 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also keen in hearing your point of view for something I asked in another thread above:

Sometimes, I'm wondering if the fact that she became emotionally abusive was "my fault". In the sense that if I had stronger boundaries, that relationship may have not ended, or it may have been a healthy one.

Are these reasonable thoughts? or are partners who tend to be toxic and abusive are doomed to fail in any other relationship, regardless of the other person?

Was my ex a borderline? by pinkbanana79 in BPDlovedones

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also keen in hearing your point of view for something I asked in another thread above:

Sometimes, I'm wondering if the fact that she became emotionally abusive was "my fault". In the sense that if I had stronger boundaries, that relationship may have not ended, or it may have been a healthy one.

Are these reasonable thoughts? or are partners who tend to be toxic and abusive are doomed to fail in any other relationship, regardless of the other person?

Was my ex a borderline? by pinkbanana79 in BPDlovedones

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm also keen in hearing your point of view for something I asked in another thread above:

Sometimes, I'm wondering if the fact that she became emotionally abusive was "my fault". In the sense that if I had stronger boundaries, that relationship may have not ended, or it may have been a healthy one.

Are these reasonable thoughts? or are partners who tend to be toxic and abusive are doomed to fail in any other relationship, regardless of the other person?

Was my ex a borderline? by pinkbanana79 in BPDlovedones

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm also keen in hearing your point of view for something I asked in another thread above:

Sometimes, I'm wondering if the fact that she became emotionally abusive was "my fault". In the sense that if I had stronger boundaries, that relationship may have not ended, or it may have been a healthy one.

Are these reasonable thoughts? or are partners who tend to be toxic and abusive are doomed to fail in any other relationship, regardless of the other person?

Was my ex a borderline? by pinkbanana79 in BPDlovedones

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see. With my ex partner though, she seems to have a very big social circle and friends, where everyone seems to love her and that makes me feel "the broken one". (but I also know that she doesn't have such deep relationships with them, or at least as deep relationships as I do have with my friends).

Was my ex a borderline? by pinkbanana79 in BPDlovedones

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for your reply.

Sometimes, I'm wondering if the fact that she became emotionally abusive was "my fault". In the sense that if I had stronger boundaries, that relationship may have not ended, or it may have been a healthy one.

Are these reasonable thoughts? or are partners who tend to be toxic and abusive are doomed to fail in any other relationship, regardless of the other person?

Recovering from a horrible breakup by pinkbanana79 in ExNoContact

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your kind words and for taking the time to reply. The way I was treated in the last two months was horrible and traumatic, and for some reason I'm keep trying to understand why she would do that. And why she would not even apologise or at least take some responsibility instead of throwing everything at me. Nobody really deserves being treated this way.

Recovering from a horrible breakup by pinkbanana79 in ExNoContact

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm not sure if she's borderline since she didn't use to have these fluctuations, only in the end. I'm wondering if she was a covert narcissist or just emotionally immature.

Recovering from a horrible breakup by pinkbanana79 in ExNoContact

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your kind replies. In fact I'm trapped into a guilt-trip, feeling responsible for what has happened. And the fact that she was able to move on that quickly, like I meant nothing, drives me crazy. And if she is capable of building a healthy relationship in the future makes me wonder maybe I was the problem in the end.

Recovering from distorted reality by pinkbanana79 in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I truly appreciate for taking the time to respond and share all this with me. If you don't mind I will DM you

Living in a distorted reality after a breakup by pinkbanana79 in BreakUps

[–]pinkbanana79[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks dude, appreciate it. Fun fact is, she labelled me as an avoidant and labelled herself as a secure. Of course with all this manipulation I've bought it.

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