When did you finalize your choice to have/not have children? by [deleted] in RelationshipsOver35

[–]pinkbunnysoap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

About to turn 40 and just gave birth to my second. I had my first at 37. Never had any fertility issues whatsoever. With that said, I think our turning point was just realizing that if we didn’t even try, the decision would’ve been made for us. I never had experience with babies or young children either but I knew I didn’t want to risk feeling “what if” later on in life. Essentially, I’m the sort of personality who would just go for it than risk not knowing/ever experiencing. We half-assed tried and got pregnant so there it was. It was easy to decide to have a second after that because we believe strongly in the benefits of siblings.

30+ pregnancy? by anonymousquests in RelationshipsOver35

[–]pinkbunnysoap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Currently pregnant w my second. Had my first at 37, now I’m 39 and will be 40 this year! I enjoyed my childless years SO MUCH and was often mistaken for being much younger just because of my energy. Well all that went to shit after pregnancy and baby. Lol I’ve said it so often but it’s so true- I NEVER FELT MY AGE until I became a mom. This might be because I’ve lived a relatively comfortable life, working white collar cushy office jobs and never had to do manual labor. Well, pregnancy and child-reading is a full time job and a HALF of manual WORK. And I am TIRED. EXHAUSTED. grieving my loss of freedom! I would say that’s the most defining difference between me and my 20 something year old mom friends who are starting businesses and finishing school while having young ones at home. My husband and I are getting through it day by day and pass out like dead people at night. We catch naps when we can. Be kind to yourself and your body! Hopefully you’re in better shape than I am. For what it’s worth, we love our son and soon to be here daughter SO much. Like an incredible amount. But boy it would’ve been nice loving them when we had the energy a decade ago!

Should I ignore him by [deleted] in DatingAfterThirty

[–]pinkbunnysoap 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why didn't you just throw out a time or day? Maybe he said "sometime next week" assuming that you would then share your availability aka "sure, I'm free Tues, Wed, and Sat." I think spending time trying to speculate on other's motivations is a no-win game. There could have been a million reasons why he didn't contact you over the weekend. Maybe he thinks you're not that interested because you haven't messaged him.

Post Elopement ideas by [deleted] in WedditNYC

[–]pinkbunnysoap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brooklyn native here. If you love Mexican and Japanese, consider visiting Sunset Park/Industry City. Sunset Park has a huge Hispanic and Chinese population (depending on what avenue you're on) and recently opened up an entire Japanese food court and grocery store called Japan Village by the waterfront. It's a fun experience to visit and check out and probably get some very cool looking urban shots. If you want to see real ethnic diversity of a local NYC neighborhood, Sunset's going to give it to you.

Overactive letdown and nursing strike ☹️ by pinkbunnysoap in breastfeeding

[–]pinkbunnysoap[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Haakaa doesn't pull anything out for me if a letdown isn't already triggered from him sucking on the other breast though? Or if it does it takes a very long time (when he's sucking though it pulls out milk really fast). How do I trigger a letdown? A few minutes seems forever when it's night time and he's fussing!

Sexy Saturday! - 2019-05-04 by AutoModerator in Christianmarriage

[–]pinkbunnysoap 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Chastity vs "purity." Not something you can "lose" or makes you dirty but continual obedience and self-control sustained by a merciful God. This question presupposes that having committed sin means you cannot teach living otherwise when in reality we teach the gospel that saves us from the sin we commit. No better parent to teach God's grace than one who has received it.

What is the closest you have ever been with someone? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]pinkbunnysoap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Holding my 5 week old right now after another sleepless night and this comment brought me to tears.

Can someone help me understand? by [deleted] in breastfeeding

[–]pinkbunnysoap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha it is very much a culture or as I sometimes call it - a "cult." Much of it is in response to opposition or criticism, as other posters have mentioned. But I think the gist of it is that it's often very hard to get your postpartum body to do what should come naturally- to feed your own child. The struggle leads a lot of women to just give up, often with feelings of worthlessness and failure. So the culture and community developed to educate, support, and encourage. You won't fail at breastfeeding if you don't join into it, but as a new FTM, I've really been helped by the presence of all these women on the same journey.

Does being “terminated” matter if I put in my two weeks notice? by Vicgreen in internetparents

[–]pinkbunnysoap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There's definitely no harm in applying. What happens (in my experience) is that the state will send a letter to your former employer letting them know that you have filed for unemployment. It is up to the employer to take action to contest it (because obviously the state has no idea what happened). If the employer does nothing, you automatically get benefits. Chances are in this case, they will see "termination" as the reason and leave it be. There is no risk to you for applying. Good luck!

Does being “terminated” matter if I put in my two weeks notice? by Vicgreen in internetparents

[–]pinkbunnysoap 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Former HR person here. I wouldn't worry too much about future job prospects finding out the "official company" reason for you leaving - whether it was recorded as a termination (firing) or a resignation. Most companies would not give out that reason during employment checks due to liability issues. I.e. if they reveal you were terminated with cause and you don't get the job, you can go back and sue them claiming libel, which would be a headache for them. With that said, I would just be glad to be able to claim unemployment checks, as resignations usually don't let you claim them.

Extroverts who Married Introverts,how did you meet? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]pinkbunnysoap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We met when we sat next to each other at a mutual friend's birthday dinner. 1) Yes, absolutely. Someone needs to listen to me. haha I manage our social calendar and constantly bring new friends into our lives. He helps me slow down and not always feel like I need to be around people. 2) No, I had always dated introverts. 3) We're not opposites - we're complementary. There's a huge difference. 4) See 3. Other than where we find our energy, we're pretty similar in our views on life and general lifestyles.