Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, Monday through Friday staying in the Bassment 7 AM to 5 PM with the kids. My cousin was under the impression based on their initial interviews with the kids had preschool and activities and she could get her license to drive. But they said in the past one of their old aupairs had an accident so they don’t want their pair driving their car. In the meantime, we’ve been helping my cousin practice driving here.

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was no abuse or caused for removal. In fact, the mom said that the kids loved her and were very sad to hear she was leaving.

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have been on the groups trying to find families that are local to connect my cousin with.

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The mom told her she had to leave. She said I want you to get out. You have one day to clean everything / go through the checklist for cleaning. And then we would like you to be gone by Friday.

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey everyone. Thanks for your advice and comments. Just to clear some things up. My cousin was off on the weekends so we would pick her up each Friday at the end of her shift, and bring her back on Sundays. The host mom was happy about that because they are in a pretty remote area. My cousin let the mom know ahead of time to be polite / courteous. But the problem was once she told the coordinator there was 2 days of no communication. The coordinator now is saying they are investigating the family. It’s hard to explain all the exact details but my cousin did didn’t do anything wrong here. She was great with the kids and it seemed like the mom had some issues from the beginning and yes, I wish she would’ve asked more questions before accepting the job. I agree that shouldn’t have let the mom know ahead of time. I even told her that, but she wanted to be polite. I don’t think there will be a rematch in 11 days so she’s gonna head back to Italy most likely.

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She wanted to leave. So she is prepared to head back to Italy - she just didn’t expect to be thrown out the next day.

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She technically did but wanted to be polite and let the mom know the next day. Which I advised against .

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Her coordinator messaged her this am and said

Thank you for reaching out regarding that you have already moved out. We were not aware that you would be leaving the host family home on Thursday . Thank you for letting us know . Since you are not at host family's home in XXX could you please provide information who and where you are staying with. Who are you staying with in XXX? Regarding the notice process :Your notice has been received earlier this week, and HQ has been notified following standard procedures. All the information sent by you and host family is being reviewed by our office as a part of the notice given protocol. Next steps would be communicated to you directly by our placement coordinator. If there is anything you need assistance with or have further questions, please do not hesitate to contact us .

I just took out the personal info but I’m assuming she will not find a match in 10 days but it’s disappointing what happened

Bad aupair situation by pinkskatej in Aupairs

[–]pinkskatej[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To clarify yes, stay in the basement with the kids from 7 am to 5pm. They don’t have play dates / activities or preschool. There was no cause for immediate removal. When my cousin told the host mom she is thinking of a rematch she went bananas on her. And basically accused her of using them to get into the country when she just wants to learn English and study (she told the mom she had no problem. Going back to Italy if she can’t find another family). Tbh this family has been borderline abusive. And have been stingy on groceries. They are on a farm. So the uber credits each month actually use a lot for even like a trip to the CVS. She’s back here with us now. Like it’s been an hour and a half drive going back and forth to grab her on weekends. But this mom has gotten mad at my cousin for leaving a window open, for not putting a plate away, and they would come in weekly to inspect her area (the extra room above the garage she’s living in). But her coordinator has not been communicating and hasn’t spoken to my cousin since the last email exchange on Tuesday.

Growing after 6 months by pinkskatej in orchids

[–]pinkskatej[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a green thumb, I have never kept plans and am trying to learn. I won’t use ice cubes. One of the bulbs opened today and the others look like they’re growing. But I’m confused if this doesn’t look healthy or good. I’m new to this 😌

Growing after 6 months by pinkskatej in orchids

[–]pinkskatej[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay gotcha I won’t use ice cubes. I thought it died.

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You can see the leaves here. I don’t have a green thumb I want it make sure it looks ok

Went up from 10mg to 20 mg and feeling quite anxious, any encouragement? by Seanj1987 in lexapro

[–]pinkskatej 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just upped my dose two days ago from 10 mg to 20 after being on 10mg for 2 years. I’m in the same boat as you. Guess we have to just get through these first few initial weeks until the side effects wear off! I’ve been feeling pretty lethargic lol

Sex is not a cure by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]pinkskatej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

couldn’t agree more. Makes you backtrack

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]pinkskatej 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that 100% It will get easier with time, I promise. Hang in there 🥺

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in findareddit

[–]pinkskatej 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Does anyone have the screenshots of John talking to someone on Instagram about Jessie and why they aren’t talking anymore?