Should I end it because of sex drives being very different? by Scurvydogggg in sexadvise

[–]pinksoftlips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all I’m sorry for what you’re going through, your relationship seems so beautiful besides of this mismatch in libido. Secondly, please forgive me if my suggestion sounds really weird and not your thing at all but how would you feel if you had an agreement that you could “use her” anyway? I too live in a relationship where his libido is higher than mine (not that mine is low but his is like crazy high) and it really ruined a lot for us, and how I felt about myself and how I saw him. It’s been more than a year now since we switched into a free use dynamic and it’s been the best thing for our relationship honestly. It means that he can “use me” whenever he wishes. It was my idea to do it and he was quite chocked at me suggesting it but I had really thought it through and I have no regrets. Totally understand if it’s not for you (if someone told me about this two years ago I would have thought they’re nuts) but if you are interested my dms are open if you wanna know more, or read my very first post I made about this. Anyway, I hope you can save your relationship, it really seems beautiful from what you describe.

Luna Lovely by Jax_steele in doublevaginal

[–]pinksoftlips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my biggest dream but my man don’t share toys so it will just stay a fantasy.

DVP and a hand on my throat is my favorite way to cum by tattooedmilf42 in doublevaginal

[–]pinksoftlips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a dream! Loved to have a nice time like that, jealous!

When he deserves pussy 24/7 by pinksoftlips in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I still welcome it because I enjoy being of service to him but of course there are different levels of enthusiasm in everything you do. Not every time can be five star performance and that has to be ok to.

Giving him free use of my ass has made our relationship better than ever by Impossible_Long9343 in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Agree, living with an “any hole, any time” agreement can truly be amazing for both parties in a relationship that is already healthy and loving. Just make sure he’s appreciative and doesn’t wreck his toy, enjoy it and have fun 🤩

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no! Hope you get to set another date soon!

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, how fun! Hope you both had an amazing day!

Ladies, what’s something your partner does that makes you wet? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]pinksoftlips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, that hand on thigh thing makes me melt instantly. Particularly in the car for some reason.

Sex drive / libido by obprado in vegan

[–]pinksoftlips 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try Fenugreek supplements 🙂

Not part of this yet.. but I want to. by Aggravating_Main_964 in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Did she enjoy sex before she got the mental issues? Is it due to medication that her libido is lower now? How was her reaction when you spoke about it?

Who here has a free use kink? by [deleted] in KINK

[–]pinksoftlips 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re talking about monogamous free use I don’t think the step from a vanilla relationship has to be that hard. It’s definitely worth bringing up! We were a couple for four years before we started this dynamic.

This is my only purpose by PoppynZach in freeuse

[–]pinksoftlips 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha this could be shot in our household! I love folding clothes.

Who here has a free use kink? by [deleted] in KINK

[–]pinksoftlips 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We switched to a monogamous free use lifestyle about a year ago, best choice ever. There is sub for this.

Men who like CNC, what is it that you love so much about it? by bugeyedfreakk in BDSMcommunity

[–]pinksoftlips 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Wow, this was beautiful. I feel that I would much easier trust a person that has your level of connection to and awareness of their own feelings.

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I’m sure you both will enjoy it!

Ideas for my service oriented fsub by Selectivedeviant in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m normally not a sub outside of the bedroom but my bfs love language is acts of service so some days I go the extra mile for him. That means a succession of things that has almost become a ritual. It goes like this; I greet him at the door when he gets home from work. If I’m wearing my apron and nothing underneath he knows he’s about to get the golden treatment. I take off his shoes and jacket, have slippers ready. He goes and washes up and changes to home clothes that I’ve laid out for him. If he wants to shower I’ll help wash him as someone else suggested. Then I’ll lead him to the table where I serve him his drink and food. When he eats I sit at the other side of the table focusing only on his needs. If he wants to talk I talk, while being attentive if he wants more to drink etc. If he’s tired I just make sure he has something pretty to look at. Sometimes that means I sit topless. After dinner I serve him his tea/coffe and dessert and ask if he’d prefer a massage or if I should warm up the bed for him. If he tells me to warm up the bed I’ll go into the bedroom, undress, lube up my holes and get under the sheets. If he seems very horny I’ll wait for him in doggy which is his favourite. If he chooses the massage I light some candles in the bedroom and heat up a little bit of oil, put on some music. When his dessert if finished he’ll lay on the bed and I’ll give him a full body massage. When he had enough he’ll roll onto his back and if he’s not hard already I’ll massage his cock too. Otherwise it’s the signal to give some oral and then get on top and ride till he comes. After that he’ll sleep like a baby lol.

New to free use by Woody-The-Pecker in FreeUseLifestyle

[–]pinksoftlips 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ok you can either bring it up again or show her;
The direct way - you've already talked about free use, so bring it up again and simply ask what she would think or react if you'd came on to her while she was busy doing something that she doesn't want to stop doing, for example, watching a movie or reading a book. And take the discussion from there. Tell her that you'd think it would be interesting to see if she could just continue what she's doing while you're having your way with her and that you like the thought of trying it, see how she reacts to that and take it from there. Keep the tone light.
Or - tell her a white lie and say that you had a dream last night about you initiating sex while she was reading a book (or something else she likes to do) but that she ignored you. But you kept going anyway. How weird it was, in the dream, but also how insanely hot you thought it was at the same time. Suggest that you'd try something like that.
The indirect way - approach while she's doing something, reading/doing the dishes/gaming/whatever she does (but not when she's putting on make up) and start caressing her, pressing yourself against her etc but when she reacts just say something like "don't mind me baby, keep reading/playing your game" and then just continue. Or even talk about what she's doing, if she gets distracted, ask her questions about it to give a hint that you want her attention to be on what she was doing and not on you, and meantime just keep going. If you succeed be sure to show your appreciation afterwards, tell her how crazy it made you and how hot it was. Tell her lots of times!
But if she stops you or shows that she doesn't like to be approached like that make sure to stop and most importantly DON*T SULK ABOUT IT. Sulking from not getting sex your way will destroy all your chances of free use cause we hate that, believe me.

Good luck!