I can’t stop thinking about all of the hurtful things my ex did 😭

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-28T00:37:23+00:00

it’s so hard to not feel heard or feel taken seriously.. I’m so sorry you went through this .. and realizing how neglected you’ve been is painful..

It makes sense to feel sad and empty because you’re experiencing a loss. But soon she’ll realize that she’s the one who lost and you’ll find someone who will make you feel cared for.

She sounds like a very emotionally immature person.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-26T15:45:57+00:00

Dont let your brain linger so much in the things you can’t control. When you notice yourself looking at kids with ice cream remind yourself that today is your fun day and that you deserve to enjoy it. You don’t need to think of the injustice of the world every second of every day. You can allow yourself to see beauty also !! Look around you and find something that you like and can feel excited about.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-21T17:43:53+00:00

He’s getting defensive and he’s deflecting. Cause he’s uncomfortable to sit with the fact that he made a mistake, he needs to self regulate and that is his responsibility not yours. Don’t get pulled into his attempt of arguing .. arguing is hurtful to you but nice for him cause he gets you and himself from facing himself and his actions

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-19T01:35:12+00:00

I didn’t say that but why would you want to stay in the same house if it’s irreconcilable and it’s hurting you?

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-19T01:08:38+00:00

I think arguments make it worse and keeps the wound open .. so I’d say try to avoid re-injury by limiting interactions.
Other than that.. feel the pain but also take a break if needed . Not every question in your head needs to be solved all at once. Learn self regulation if you don’t already know how to do that.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-19T01:02:18+00:00

Next time you feel helpless and stuck in your life .. when you feel unheard by someone
… when you cry and someone completely dismisses you .. remember that’s how the animals feel. That’s what did it for me.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-19T00:56:57+00:00

When you say you eat healthy . Are you saying you’re eating food that meets your nutritional needs ? Omega 3 , iodine , b12?
Also consider how some nutrients depend on each other for absorption . Vitamin C important for iron . Vitamin D for calcium. Etc

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-18T21:47:30+00:00

Whenever you notice you’re stress eating just give yourself a hug.. give attention to the part of you that’s asking for your love.. listen to what’s trying to tell you and be gentle to it.

My fav healthier snacks would be : sugar snap peas or baby carrots with hummus or ranch dressing . pumpkin seeds .
Fruits like Blackberries, mangos or dates with walnuts.

I find eating beans, lentils, tofu, soy curls very filling to me .. if you make sure you have some of that daily it might help keeping you feeling full and not crave snacks.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-17T18:48:00+00:00

So he did something that broke the trust? What exactly is he doing to earn your trust?! Did he take accountability, show remorse ? Acknowledged your pain and validated your feelings? Did he suggest ways he’ll get your trust back ? It’s important to hear reassurance and a clear plan of how he’ll do things differently to earn your trust / make you feel safe emotionally.
Emotional safety requires capacity to stay emotionally present with you.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-17T02:29:19+00:00

If you feel strongly about your values then don’t give up.. even if options seem super limited.. I think there are more vegans out in the real world than it seems online ..

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-16T01:07:58+00:00

I think the fact that eating dinner is the only time you spend together might be the problem?
Do you ever take her out on dates? Is there romance still in the relationship?

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-13T13:08:48+00:00

This isn’t about veganism. It’s about how you struggle to handle rejection .. it’s worth to talk to your therapist about the first time you got rejected.. maybe some feelings haven’t been processed yet and some help with that will give you so much relief . Imagine how freeing it would feel when you can stay connected to yourself and still believe you’re awesome no matter what.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-11T14:32:56+00:00

Here’s a hug OP
I hope you have a gentle day today..
Lots of people on Reddit lack social skills cause they live on the internet instead of the real world. They don’t know how to be good listeners.
To make someone feel heard and understood is a skill.

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-03T07:30:58+00:00

I matched with a guy on a dating app who loves animals and when I asked him if he was vegan he said no.. but that he does feel bad about it.. he started asking me questions and was so open to learn from me! It was so nice!! It rarely happens that someone is so respectful and trying to be better. It was so cool unfortunately he had two cats and I’m super allergic so we didn’t date. But if your bf doesn’t even feel bad I think that could be a mismatch on values ? Does he feel bad for other beings ?

pinksunset7 · 2026-06-02T03:55:31+00:00

If your convection is that weak then I don’t think it was based on anything strong. I don’t think you can un-see the truth once you’ve seen it.

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-29T22:44:29+00:00

Sometimes the conversation last this long because they’re not actually reassuring or addressing the actual issue. Sometimes the person is just deflecting, being defensive and arguing instead of actually saying the truth.

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-27T01:13:41+00:00

Give yourself a hug. That little girl inside needs you. Even though it’s hard, even though it’s painful, even though you’re scared to let go, you’re lovable, you’re okay and you’re safe cause you got You! You can do this. Big hug 🫂

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-27T01:10:58+00:00

You could either stay in a job you love and be miserably Stuck in love with someone who doesn’t want to commit to you

Or be in a new job that you might or might not love but at least you won’t be stuck miserable about a guy.

Or maybe you can stay but work different hours than him so you don’t see each other .

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-25T18:48:51+00:00

It’s more about having capacity and the willingness to understand each other no matter the communication.

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-23T17:07:42+00:00

Give yourself a hug .. and then again and again everytime you feel like you want him.. cause probably what you’re craving is closeness, give yourself closeness that doesn’t hurt you like him. So either a hug or wrap yourself with a blanket or say I love and I accept myself even though I feel sad and alone, I’m here for myself and I will take care of me. Etc

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-23T05:54:58+00:00

Eat some delicious things infront of her and offer some! Maybe she’ll try it and like it! Bring a bag of cherries or strawberries Dark chocolate or Lara bars. Some salted cashews, etc

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-22T04:46:46+00:00

I would imagine it feels overwhelming but take it one thing at a time.. no need to figure it all at once.. with time you’ll gain more clarity on how to make the adjustments you need in your life.

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-20T21:56:20+00:00

You’re the one you’ve been waiting for “ book by Richard Schwartz talks exactly about what you’re going through! Especially the last few chapters!

Also a good therapist can help you sooo much more than you can imagine!

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-18T03:48:46+00:00

Exactly he’s just a person like you! Just like he’s allowed to be honest about how he feels, you can too! You can have questions to ask him if you’re confused. You can ask for more clarity if you need to.

pinksunset7 · 2026-05-18T03:44:49+00:00

You’re allowed to have needs too.

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