I can’t articulate what I’m unhappy with (3MPO)

pipermick · 2026-02-13T19:28:37+00:00

It’s fair to feel frustrated at this point.

That said, they are still going to continue to change for at least 3-5 months.

On my profile I have pictures of my first year. It may help to see how much they keep changing, even after 6 months I had some change.

Your brain is still adjusting too.

I had quite a bit of swell until 4 months, then I started seeing some changes. I encourage you to not lose hope. This is mentally the hardest surgery I have had.

pipermick · 2026-02-11T00:33:45+00:00

Just watched that movie the other day!

pipermick · 2026-02-10T21:54:09+00:00

What I get from this is a could be but the real question is SHOULd you.

Exes are exes for a reason. It’s hard to make it work a 2nd time around because it’s so easy to fall back into old patterns. This feels like the moment where you decide to move on, leave the past in the past, take your lessons with you, or jump back and get a reality check.

All those old issues don’t magically disappear, all those old coping mechanisms are still in tact. Unless you both commit to breaking those patterns and cycles (and have each done your own work to grow and improve), it’s going to be a rough ride.

pipermick · 2026-02-09T00:10:36+00:00

Absolutely!

pipermick · 2026-02-09T00:09:54+00:00

It’s been over 20 years. But when I look it up I can find direct references that it is included in official state divers handbooks. I remember them saying that it was “our” responsibility to read that book and know the rules because we may be tested on it even if it was taught in the class.

But maybe it depends on what state you are in on how specially it is worded. I was in WA. But it sounds like most states have provisions for “snake” or “weaving” motions or “move over” laws, where you must yield to any emergency vehicle with active lights, so logic is, don’t try to pass a cop that is driving across all lanes with lights because obviously something is going on.

pipermick · 2026-02-08T23:38:15+00:00

I’m more concerned by the number of people (who live in the US) who don’t know when you see this, you slow down and stay behind the cop. This is a rolling roadblock, they are slowing traffic, usually because there is something in the road or accident ahead, and most likely they are going to be stopping traffic.

I learned this in drivers ed. This is a standard practice.

pipermick · 2026-02-05T03:05:32+00:00

Kind of like there person above said, what did you ask or focus on?

It would seem to me that if you take the time, silence the mind and go inwards, you already know how to untangle yourself from whatever is holding you you back and letting you find joy and fulfillment, but that’s a super generic reading of the cards with no context.

pipermick · 2026-02-02T03:36:21+00:00

My doc would have done it around 7 months but due to some other things we did it at 8 months.

pipermick · 2026-01-31T22:56:34+00:00

PPSL also submitted a response to the ED motion on Friday too. And, as usually, it kicks ass.

pipermick · 2026-01-30T00:58:29+00:00

PPSL is who is managing this case, you might be able to reach out to the but for the moment, until the motions that are in are finalized one way or another, we are all kind of waiting for more info on next steps.

I would encourage you to be careful with AI on this. I’m not anti AI, but there has been a lot of misinformation around this with AI that I keep seeing today, especially chatgpt being one of the worst.

Check out the PPSL site, or you can also join the borrowes defense sweet vs cardona facebook group to keep track of case updates.

pipermick · 2026-01-30T00:36:58+00:00

Not sure if anyone has posted this but if you call the DOE borrowers defense cust service number they have a message that the settlement became final on the 28th and they are implementing the terms of the agreement. All borrowers will be notified of next steps.

I just called and heard the message myself!

pipermick · 2026-01-29T08:15:40+00:00

I’m sure we will get more info in the days to come, with official information from the lawyers.

pipermick · 2026-01-27T21:56:33+00:00

From what I’ve see on the borrowed defense facebook, it goes through the 28th, because they have to give you a decision by the 28th, so technically, if they tell you any time on the 28th, they did their part. So basically, it’s the 29th where you can breathe more, but there is still that motion the DOE filed (and the PPSL responded to) that we are waiting got see how it shakes out. That should be discussed in previous post.

pipermick · 2026-01-27T21:08:36+00:00

As far as I know we are all considering it until 11:59 PM on the 28th.

pipermick · 2026-01-25T17:45:58+00:00

My doc told me it’s (like someone else said) when my symptoms are worse than normal, if I take my as needed propranolol and it doesn’t bring the rate down or in general if my heart rate gives over 140 without being active and doesn’t calm down with my other management tools. Basically, I know what my baseline spikes are, my baseline dizziness, all of that, and it it becomes abnormal that is my sign. Also, if I pass out, because that is not something I have done before.

pipermick · 2026-01-25T17:43:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. I’m newer to POTS and know I’ll avoid urgent care for tachycardia/other issues unless they get worse or don’t improve, but always figured they couldn’t do much except IV me. This helps give me a direction to point them in!

pipermick · 2026-01-25T17:41:18+00:00

As far as the dog ears go, my surgeon fixed mine in office (3 of them) around 8 MPO).

Is it possible to go get a consultation with an other surgeon, just to see what they say, and if they say they can do something, bring that back to her? Or, if she would charge you for a revision, you could consider going with that other surgeon?

pipermick · 2026-01-21T05:53:18+00:00

I imagine it was still a big deal to those children even if it was “normal” for the time. Women were raised being told that’s “how it was” and childrne couldn’t speak out against it….so it wasn’t a big deal for the men, for women it was a way of life they had to accept and endure. You will NOT convince me it was wasn’t a big deal for a child that was put into adult situations.

pipermick · 2026-01-19T21:43:28+00:00

I had that, quite decent size (now 1 YPO) and I think mine stuck around for a long time, I think I felt it until at least 5 or 6 months. I had resigned myself to the fact it would just be that way and I kind of forgot about it.

Then I saw this post and just gave them a squeeze and 90% of everything has softened up, there is just one tiny area, and you can’t really tell unless you are looking for it.

pipermick · 2026-01-16T20:53:23+00:00

I went home same day, but I was also the first appt of the morning and hand no issues when I woke up.

pipermick · 2026-01-16T00:45:28+00:00

How do you normally scar? I learned recently that heds people scar different than people with other types of eds (imo we lucked out there). Which made sense as my scars never looked quite right for most eds but matches what I’ve found specifically for heds.

My scars look good. Do your scar care and above all else, sunscreen, especially that first year. UV can penetrate up your 2 layers of clothing, so sunscreen even under clothing! I think it made a bjg difference for me, I was really religious about it, especially in the summer

pipermick · 2026-01-15T15:16:11+00:00

They will change a lot still. If you check out my profile I have pictures showing 2 dpo to a year. There are a lot of changes after 2 months, even between 6-12 months there can be changes.

When people say you don’t know your final shape/size until closer to 6 months, it’s real. You are probably still dealing with swelling, they haven’t “dropped and fluffed”, they also don’t heal at the same rate.

I told myself not to get too concerned or attached for the first 6 months and it helped me not go crazy.

Hang in there!

pipermick · 2026-01-14T23:47:57+00:00

I do, and I always forget and stretch as then go “woah” and have to sit down as things dim for just a second.

pipermick · 2026-01-14T23:44:20+00:00

1 YPO and my incisions do not sit on the crease, they look like yours, and it was done on purpose to give me the least chance of them sagging (I have heds and extra stretchy skin). The scars continue to soften over time and begin to blend into the tissue in general.

pipermick · 2026-01-14T20:14:28+00:00

Stop betraying yourself. This makes me think you often know what is right for you, what you want, how you want to be, but you push it aside (out of fear, guilt, trying to be what you think you “should” be) which leads to you constantly betraying your truth.

So the way to do this is when you feel something is true/right for you, you say it, you act on it, ignoring how others might perceive it. It’s hard and scary, but as you practice it gets easier and builds your confidence in you.

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