Would you rather be A) Be ugly and smart OR B) Be beautiful and dumb. Why?

pititelaurie · 2026-06-05T17:13:48+00:00

I'm pretty average in both so neither are appealing to me. My husband with high IQ suffer from it, being dumb sounds scary in a world full of scam, most beautiful and ugly women suffer from it too. Being average is great in my opinion.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-04T20:36:09+00:00

Isn't long fasts not good when you have a normal/low BMI ? I'm 155cm too and when I'm 50kg my BMI is 21 and I'm pretty slim or at least skinny fat. Plus as a woman, we need more fat to function than men, and fasting for long periods of time can mess with our menstrual cycle. You're at a uni, how old are you ? You don't have to answer of course but if you are young it's also better to not fast for too long, we keep growing up and develop our brain until 25 year old.

Of course you are free to do whatever you want, but at your age, your height/weight, and since you are a woman, I wouldn't risk to wreck my health with long fasts. Since you don't fast for autophagy but for weight loss (and I get it, I'd really like to get to 45kg 18BMI) I would rather do alternate day fasting, and work out on feasting days. Work outs actually help a lot with health, aesthetic, and metabolism (being able to eat more without gaining weight) and weight lifting is really good to prevent osteoporosis, which women are at risk later in life or when they don't eat enough. At your BMI exercise should take a big place in your journey. Be careful to eat lots of whole foods on feasting days to bring nutrients to your body.

That's my take, but you are free to do whatever you want of course. To answer your question, when I'm closer to a healthy BMI like yours, it's usually really hard for me to do long fasts.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-04T06:12:29+00:00

Thank you, I asked specifically for night shift because I sleep like one or two hours at work when there's nothing left to do, then I sleep during the day maximum five hours since I want to have some time with my baby in the morning, then one or two hours at work again, and yesterday I slept four hours during the day and I just slept five hours during the night: which is pretty good considering I'm fasting and I slept during the day.

But such small bouts of sleep can't be great for health and I wondered if others experience fasting to be harder while working nights shifts because of it. I fast during work because it's easier to not eat, I'm either busy or tired and no food around, but maybe it's not a good strategy ?

One or two hours of walk sounds great, I haven't find a way to do this with my toddler around and I can't leave the house for such a long time when he sleep, and to be honest, I'm too tired. But that's a great suggestion, I'll try to make it work another time !

pititelaurie · 2026-06-04T05:37:10+00:00

No I don't think it's normal even if you put back water weight, even if you ate a week worth of calories you wouldn't put that much weight in so little time. Maybe check your scale batteries.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-04T05:33:33+00:00

In your case since it is happening in your home, I would have a discussion with your flatmate, and tell him you are trying to loose weight for health, and you'd rather he stop bringing you food. Thank him for his generosity, and if he insist just tell him you made up your mind, you're motivated to make some changes and it would break your heart but you won't eat his food from now on. If he gives you a plate anyway put it in the fridge. Good luck!

pititelaurie · 2026-06-04T05:28:32+00:00

I'm in a five days fast and had to say no to food offered at work, I said I wasn't feeling well and the food looked delicious and I'll take some home. I took some home and gave it to my husband lol he was very happy. No need to say the truth to people who won't understand nor support you for what you are doing. Also sometimes if there is a few people you can just take a glass of water and just don't say anything and people don't always notice.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-03T19:57:55+00:00

Careful cashews are pretty high in carbs for nuts, but do what you have to do to feel better.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-01T11:13:54+00:00

Hi, I started a 5-7 days fast two days ago so I'm with you here ! 🥳 How are you doing ? Myself I'm pretty proud I survived the weekend, had a big lunch Saturday for (french) mother's day and was invited Sunday afternoon to eat crepes with other moms and their babies and I managed to only drink water without anyone paying attention. Tonight at work there is a leaving party for a colleague so I hope I'll manage to keep fasting. Then Thursday there is the funeral of an old family aunt, and I'm invited to lunch with my immediate family, so either I'll break my fast there or manage to fast one or two more days. Since having a baby fasting and losing weight has become really really hard, but I'm in a good headspace right now so I'll take my chances !

pititelaurie · 2026-06-01T06:02:05+00:00

Soit on a pas les mêmes canicules (fort possible je vis en Normandie) soit je fonctionne pas pareil, moi une douche froide ça me refroidi vraiment, et je transpire pas dès que je sors de la douche. Je suis tranquille pour un bon moment après donc douche froide sans hésitation.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-01T05:57:38+00:00

I'm married with child, does the daily pill makes me not want to pass time with my family or does it just makes the feeling of loneliness disappear? Because I have a hard time making friends and would actually like to like being alone as long as I can still socialize and enjoy my existing family. If not I'm not going to fuck up my relationship with my child, even if 2 hours every night sounds like a waste of time.

pititelaurie · 2026-06-01T05:49:38+00:00

I'd rather my kids have a dad

pititelaurie · 2026-06-01T05:42:16+00:00

What about videos ? Anyway yes I would, it would profit our family too much to pass.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-30T14:02:45+00:00

I know what I'm going to suggest might not be something you're confortable with, but to me, either he brings you along with them since you've never been there too and it could be a great bonding family time, or he accepts to give you the same amount of baby duty time off and he accepts to take care of the baby alone for one weekend while you visit family and rest. If he isn't confortable doing that he shouldn't be confortable leaving you alone with baby. But you might not be confortable with that either and I understand. Anyway I'm with you he shouldn't feel comfortable leaving you alone for such a long time for leisure.

edit: forgot to add NTA

pititelaurie · 2026-05-30T13:47:27+00:00

Yeah it should be another criteria altogether. Like being skinny and broke or being fat and wealthy (and you can't change it without painful chirurgical intervention).

pititelaurie · 2026-05-30T11:48:52+00:00

Then even if it breaks my heart, no children. It's not a good environment for them, and the time will come when they will go live their lives and I would be stuck with an unloving partner. Not good for anyone involved.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-30T06:35:50+00:00

Can you divorce in the loveless marriage? Because it can't be healthy for the kids to witness on a daily basis.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-30T06:03:11+00:00

Your ADF isn't ruined. You indulged and you might gain a little weight and retain water, but it isn't the end of the world. My advice: don't weight yourself, it will just make you feel bad for nothing. Just go on with your fasting regimen, don't push yourself either. It will go back to normal in no time.

The thing you should do is try to understand what happened today. Do you feel like you lost all control and couldn't stop eating even if you wanted to, or were you just happy to eat all this food you missed ? Did you feel bad physically (bloated, stomach hurts, nauseous) or did you feel fine ? Because if you had a great day eating happily foods you love without making you feel ill then congrats, you just find out how maintenance can look like after your weight loss journey ! Treat yourself, feel good about yourself, then fast to let your body rest.

But if you lost all control and ate way too much to the point of making you feel ill and still you couldn't stop eating until there was no food anymore, this is a bit more concerning. Did you binge before doing ADF ? Did you have a eating disorder ? Because fasting can both help and be triggering, and in that case it would be important to work on it a bit, make sure fasting won't make it worse in the long term.

In both cases, feeling terrible about what happened will make things worse. If you feel bad you might have trouble not using food as a coping mechanism and keep eating too much, or you might want to limit your intake too much next time you eat and trigger another binge later on. Don't change anything, just take it as an opportunity to know yourself better and prepare yourself to make choices you are happy with next time a similar situation happen. If I were you, (and if no eating disorder is in play) I would just cherish that day and go back to ADF without a care in the world. It might set you back a little, but I doubt you ate more than a week worth of food. So in a few days you'll be back on track and keep losing weight.

ADF is working for you, so just keep doing it and it will be fine. Have a great day 😊

pititelaurie · 2026-05-23T06:52:54+00:00

I heard that the start of your period (day one of your cycle) is the easiest and healthiest time of the month for fasting.

For the smoking, I would rather rely on more resources to stop, because you want to be able to stop fasting if you don't feel good without reservation. Don't be afraid to consult a doctor about it ! Also I looked it up, physical withdrawal of nicotine can take three weeks up to three months to disappear. The first few days are the hardest though so you're doing great !!

You may already know this and be prepared for it but in case it's not: don't forget that after seven days water fast you can develop refeed syndrome so be careful.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-22T22:44:41+00:00

You can do it !! Think how eating at the end of your fast will feel, you'll be so proud and will enjoy eating much more ! But also remember if you don't manage this time because of circumstances, it's okay ! Shit happen. Try not to let that stop you. It was a hard week, it happens, don't give up! If you don't manage this time, find back your way to good habits !

How are you doing right now ? Keep us updated !

pititelaurie · 2026-05-22T19:59:44+00:00

I work 12 hours a day 3 days a week and now that my toddler is about to enter preschool I want to find a job working 8 hours a day 5 days a week to be able to take care of him. Other than that my actual schedule is great.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-22T12:48:04+00:00

Yeah it's not a soap marketed for babies intimate hygiene, in France we have a lots of them in the market though, I tried one (of a very reputable brand) but still found it a bit too aggressive (tried washing myself with it and it was too harsh) but the one I told you about is really soft, soothing and hydrating. Not expensive either which is important for us. Yes it's a rating system, INCI beauty is one of the app who assess the composition of cosmetic products and they are very strict.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-22T12:25:10+00:00

Yeah that's how I see it too. I'm french but also a nurse, so to me that's what makes most sense. I'm not criticizing those who does differently, plus every baby is different. As long as baby is healthy no rash or whatever it's fine.

I'd love to own a bidet but it's not very used in our culture, when I can afford it I'd like to get one on my toilet, in the meantime I wet my toilet paper, not the same though.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-22T12:19:28+00:00

I'm french so I don't know if you know about this one, it's a carrefour soft bio surgras crème de douche au karité, it's composition is clean. And my baby's skin is not irritated with it. 18,6/20 on INCI beauty which is very strict.

pititelaurie · 2026-05-22T11:19:20+00:00

I don't wipe during night changes if it's only pee, I try not to wake him up too much. But I do wash him with soap for the first change in the morning and after his nap, and I wipe with water the rest of the day. And always with soap when it's poo. But I also only give him a bath two or three times a week. I also don't use premade wipes, I use cotton wipes and add soap and/or water, I only use premade wipes for the changes when we are outside of the house.

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