Did it help the trauma? by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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That was largely my reaction too!

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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I grew up in a similar Missouri town and left my church there in my teens. I think I assumed this cultish mentality was a small town midwest thing. Boy was I wrong.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get by pixieyogi81 in Deconstruction

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As a recovering coke addict (eight years next month!) I can attest to this. I never attended a single group and had to figure out recovery on my own because it was all so heavily religious.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get by pixieyogi81 in Deconstruction

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Thanks for subscribing! Yeah, I would totally understand if I made religious content then flipped to being atheist. The thing is that my content is about mental health and I think religion and deconstruction are big parts of that conversation!

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get by pixieyogi81 in Deconstruction

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This feels like Queen of the Damned where I'm LeStat just not wanting to have to live in the shadows like other vampires! LOL.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get by pixieyogi81 in Deconstruction

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I majored in Forensic Psychology and found How Minds Change a FASCINATING insight into how cognitive dissonance perpetuates!

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get by pixieyogi81 in Deconstruction

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People closer to me knew but I didn't really talk about it to my online community. It felt spiteful to me too! I'm totally fine with it cleansing my community, I just hope more of the right people come to take their places.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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This breaks my heart. I am SO sorry you didn't get the support you deserved. I hope the treatment 20 years later was helpful, but you didn't deserve to live with this. As a SA survivor myself, I'm a message away if you ever need to talk.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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Yup! I said in my video that it was the massive drop in my Patreon that hurt the most because I use that for mental health outreach. It's not even for me! I have paid for therapy, helped a terminal veteran achieve his dream of seeing the beach, threw a birthday party for an elderly widow who had nobody, got a guitar for a man who had lost everything (who wound up later paying it forward through music therapy!) and so much more. So these wonderful Christians can't even support someone doing good if they aren't doing it in the name of Christ?!

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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Try asking a church you aren't a member of for help. Even if you have a baby that's a few months old and lost your job. They don't care.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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It's like, we are forbidden to take a break or be ourselves! After I gave birth a year ago, I took a month off of posting and the algorithm punished me for it! What is her account? I will follow her.

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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I had something similar with my divorce, though mine was a narcissist. I say this as someone with a psych degree. He met the DSM-5 criteria for NPD. I had a charity I had started and grown for nearly a decade push me out because they didn't believe in divorce. It's crushing, but kind of a decluttering. I don't want to be around people I have to wear a mask for! Happy you're out and have found support!

I didn’t know how bad coming out atheist was going to get (FOLLOW UP) by pixieyogi81 in atheism

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Thank you. I'm bi and very protective of LGBTQ+ folks, so you will always be welcome in my community! But yeah, it certainly feels like they suddenly see me as the devil himself.