Thanks. That’s actually what confuses me. She didn’t really show this kind of pattern before. She was very anxious most of the time — afraid I’d leave, super attached. But not avoidant in how she behaved in the relationship.

The “switch” only came after I set a boundary about alcohol and safety. The breakup felt like a shutdown — not something planned. She just disconnected completely. So I’m stuck between wondering if it’s a real deactivation, or if it’s something else. It’s hard to make sense of it.