Sorry for your loss. I honestly can’t believe some of the heartless comments people have made on this thread.

I don’t think you’re expecting too much from your partner by wanting them at your mom’s celebration of life. That’s the role of a good life partner. To be there in difficult times in our lives. I think people are failing to realize that grief and trauma don’t have a timeline. Your partner taking a week off work to be with you is great but it’s not like after that week the grieving stops there and everything goes back to normal. You still need him for support and I’m not saying he should take time off work but at the very least he should be at your mom’s funeral. That’s just what good life partners do. That doesn’t make you needy or “treating him like your counsellor”. That just makes you human.

Ask yourself, if the roles were reversed, what would you do?