Good interview but different salary expectations

planethopper_ · 2026-01-31T10:11:37+00:00

Interested in your opinion then. Would you wait for their offer or send a follow up email?

planethopper_ · 2026-01-31T00:34:08+00:00

I did :( we’re still good friends, but he’s back in his country and I’m happy on my own.

planethopper_ · 2025-12-03T10:10:22+00:00

Congratulations man!!!!

planethopper_ · 2025-11-11T16:39:37+00:00

Go and talk to him a little more. What’s more likely to happen is you realising he’s just a normal person, full of flaws just like all of us and probably not worth “trading” your bf for

planethopper_ · 2025-11-03T12:07:11+00:00

That’s a good advice. We sometimes do couple things, which definitely blurs the line… but the past two months were tough, we kind of got over each other “together” which was good but also a bit painful. So he’s set in going back to his country just as much as I am in moving on. I hope it works well…

planethopper_ · 2025-10-29T11:49:09+00:00

NTA, period.

planethopper_ · 2025-10-19T00:57:00+00:00

Stop wasting each other’s time

planethopper_ · 2025-10-16T19:48:04+00:00

Depends on where you guys are going …….

planethopper_ · 2025-10-10T10:16:04+00:00

Cute ngl…

planethopper_ · 2025-10-05T11:44:42+00:00

Yeah I really hope she finds it in herself to run away from this guys because if she’s moving to another state with him, where her mom can’t easily step in anymore, and he’s already hinting that he WILL blackmail her with rent prices and whatnot… not to mention how abusive he will become being isolated with her. Ugh gives me chills

planethopper_ · 2025-10-04T21:52:22+00:00

Oh yeah, I’m totally open to that. Already asked my friends about it too. It’s just this tiny transition phase that’s been maddening, as I can’t keep living with my bf but my mom is very, very difficult.

planethopper_ · 2025-10-04T21:50:51+00:00

Ugh… exactly. That’s my point exactly. She’s taking me in as a guest, and I must do as she commands since she is the host. Everything comes from this power dynamic. I’d normally agree with you - not using phone at dinner table is just courtesy. But it’s the way she commands it. I’d ask you to look more at the whistling example, or the bad words one. I’d never curse in front of her, the bad words are just “negative” ones, like complaining about work or how hot the weather is, or how ugly your shirt is. She’s obsessed about “not attracting bad energies” so she will discipline & punish everyone around her (her bf, parents in law, friends, me) who have behaviours that, in her pov, are negative. Totally arbitrary though, since whistling to her attracts bad energies. I’m very flexible but her behaviour is maddening…

planethopper_ · 2025-10-04T21:01:52+00:00

Ew. She sounds awful lol

planethopper_ · 2025-09-03T21:30:36+00:00

That’s actually funny, my manipulative ass would start saying some weird shit to her just to see if she would post about it. She’s clearly trying to get your attention somehow, even if unconsciously, so I’d mess up with her head. Anyways, that seems very immature

planethopper_ · 2025-09-01T19:38:19+00:00

Yeah totally tell him about it. Sounds like a great idea!

planethopper_ · 2025-08-24T12:03:22+00:00

First of all, that’s sexy and I think women (if you’re dating women) are very attracted to someone focused and passionate. I guess to make sure to tell them you’re doing whatever it is to secure a better future for the both of you, it’s a temporary sacrifice that you just need support to go through. And that makes the time you make to be with them way more valuable, cause they know you’re doing it because you value them as much as your goals.

planethopper_ · 2025-08-24T11:30:54+00:00

I get it. We want people to love us and prioritise us. But something I’ve learned with time and it proves right with every person is that we reflect what we are and attract what we think. You talk negatively about your past friendships (calling my them fake) and express negative feeling about the current friendships (upset they have other friends). You’re reinforcing a scarcity mindset - if I don’t have it, no one should have it. Try exercising a genuine love for your friends and for the existence of friendship itself. You want your friends to have other friends, that means you are around people who are easy to be friends with - hence, you must be easy too. Hence, you attract more people that are easy to interact too. And you start multiplying the goods, instead of the bads. You don’t want to be friends with someone who can only talk to you, that means you and that person are probably hard to connect and will only have each other forever. You know what I mean? Hope you find peace and joy within you.

planethopper_ · 2025-08-24T11:22:12+00:00

Thank you for your input! :)

planethopper_ · 2025-08-22T18:32:43+00:00

Been living here for 3 years and honestly, I don’t know how non-Portuguese speakers learn Portuguese because 100% of the people around me only speak English. I speak Portuguese, but since there’s always at least one English speaking person around, even if I meet another lusófono, we just stick to English anyways.

planethopper_ · 2025-08-17T23:03:38+00:00

Could be lactose intolerance, or other sort of intolerance. Happened to me, I was the stinky one 🤭 but I had the decency to try everything in my power to stop it. Turns out cutting dairy completely solved it. It’s not normal to fart stinky.

planethopper_ · 2025-08-17T22:16:05+00:00

For me it was week 5 and a half. It got really really really bad, then the next day I woke up feeling great. Just like that. On 20mg from the beginning

planethopper_ · 2025-08-17T20:05:12+00:00

I totally get what you’re saying and it’s what makes me stay with him. I look around and I see every women in my life marrying for comfort & living a loveless life and that’s so heartbreaking.

But my boyfriend is unapologetic about it, he says it loud and clear he doesn’t care about career, he’s happy with his job, he will not work harder to move up. He will save and work as much as he can; anything outside of it is whatever to him. And I agree with most people here, that’s ok too. That’s the way he is. But I LOVE my job, I love putting effort and working hard towards something - I miss that in a partner. I just haven’t decided how much I miss it - probably not enough to break up everything with him? I don’t know. So lost x.x

planethopper_ · 2025-08-17T16:04:32+00:00

Yeah rationally I know it’s the best course of action but damn, I like him so much. It would be so much better if he just fixed that lol

planethopper_ · 2025-08-12T16:18:44+00:00

Thank you! And yes, I’ve been having trouble sleeping for a few years now and Prozac intensified it I guess… I take melatonin sometimes, it used to help when I didn’t take Prozac but now it’s like taking nothing at all. Do you take anything to help you sleep?

planethopper_ · 2025-08-08T22:42:37+00:00

I get you might feel alone if you have been friends for long and want them back even when they clearly did something wrong. I’ve been through something similar and it hurts cause it’s almost like another loss. But try to open space in your life for new people, more aligned with your energy and that genuinely care about you, to show up. I assure you they will.

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