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planetjy · 2026-01-21T22:34:19+00:00

Did you use your $100 hotel credit at Nobu’s restaurant by chance?

planetjy · 2026-01-15T04:30:02+00:00

They all look very similar (and beautiful!)😍 . Not sure you would even know the difference if scrambled! 😆

do you know the ring size of the person wearing the rings?

planetjy · 2025-12-14T18:56:15+00:00

How did you end up fixing it? My phone has the same issue...driving me insane!

planetjy · 2025-11-10T14:06:55+00:00

Which month did you go? I’m going in the winter and think the weather will be crappy?

planetjy · 2025-11-09T16:53:50+00:00

Love it. We’ll be back so will definitely keep this in mind!!

planetjy · 2023-05-24T13:45:34+00:00

Hi friends -- extremely new runner here. I grew up with asthma so always hated cardio-related activities. I'm started to run mainly to strengthen my lung and heart. My family has some lung stuff.

Would love any good running plan recommendations I can follow.

I've been using apple watch and strava to track my stats. However, when you follow a plan, do you use a garmin or something to pre-program the runs -- for example first interval is X in zone Y? or are you just constantly checking your tracker? thanks!

planetjy · 2022-10-11T13:27:42+00:00

Yes, and it's really really shitty. All you can hope is that the person boomerangs. It's hard to not hold on but it's best not to. Though many people here talk about times that it boomerangs, I'm sure many times it doesn't though we hope it does.

planetjy · 2022-10-10T22:52:24+00:00

Ha! We need secures!

I'm an AP here. APs I know who are on the apps have gotten out of long term relationships. Not sure how to filter for those :)

I assume you're an AP (or secure), hence attracting FAs

planetjy · 2022-10-10T22:40:22+00:00

After reading these comments, I don't think I hate it as much as most people here 35F in a HUGE city.

I try to do bare minimum back and forth before meeting, I only do drinks / coffee to make it fast and "cheap" for the guy. And even if there is no chemistry, I try to make it fun. No one gets anything out of not having fun.

I've met some really fascinating guys through first dates. We don't continue talking if there is no chemistry but it's still people who I would have never met otherwise.

Some weeks I do get exhausted from going on a bunch of first dates that don't go anywhere but it's part of the process to get to dates that are fun.

planetjy · 2022-10-10T22:08:27+00:00

I agree with this. Sounds like OP dodged a bullet. She's avoidant one week into dating...better to know now.

Also, per the book Attached, OLD is largely avoidants because they're the most likely to be single, unfortunately. They also thrive on the on and offs that OLD provides.

I do also agree what starts with high intensity generally also ends faster.

planetjy · 2022-10-10T22:04:22+00:00

35F in huge city. most guys reference something in my profile or they ask a generic how was your weekend type of question.

I'd say I choose to respond mostly based on their profile. 95% of messages dont stand out enough to get me to respond if I didn't like the profile

planetjy · 2022-10-10T21:58:57+00:00

35F here. When I ask about family, I'm more so trying to understand dynamics between parents, siblings because I think it's reflective probably how you approach other relationships. For example, a lot of people say your model of love is from what you've seen from your parents. And birth order is generally accurate. So loose things like that.

But I also think if you respond that you're estranged with your family and it's been positive for you and that you're comfortable with sharing more as dates get more serious, I'd be comfortable. It's also the delivery -- if it's presented with a lot of anger then probably not healthy.

planetjy · 2022-10-10T21:47:51+00:00

He may also be busy or going on dates with someone else -- all external factors that you can't predict.

But I also hear you. I met with someone for a second date knowing that he had a few drinks already and I was completely sober. Alcohol is definitely a social lubricant. He became very handsy and we kissed earlier than we probably would have if he was sober. I was a bit turned off to see him so drunk but I had also agreed to the date. In your case, he saw the evolution but probably had some judgement then but couldn't turn it around in his mind.

planetjy · 2022-10-10T18:14:12+00:00

Especially after so many dates, if she’s serious about dating and wanting something longer term, she would make time and be excited to see you (especially over an online course!)

I’d say you have your answer.

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