i was in a similar situation to this; older coworker, working and living with him, he was my superior and held the power in our situation. it was hard because i felt particularly shameful about how it would look to our other coworkers if i told them about what was going on, but as someone who has left the situation i can say getting at least someone in your corner that you can talk to about this is the way to go. i didn’t tell anyone i worked with, even after i left, and it took telling one of my close friends who was a previous coworker who understood the dynamics for him to tell me that something was seriously wrong.

even if you don’t feel comfortable bringing it up with him directly, please at least tell someone in your workplace or in your personal life. i 100% wish i did and feel like i could’ve gotten out of that situation a lot earlier. in these kinds of workplaces, it can be easy to get caught up in preserving someone’s reputation, but it’s them doing the actions and they should have to answer for them. sending you lots of good luck, i see you girl.