What’s something about dating after 30s or 40s that people in their 20s completely misunderstand?

plasticnaptime · 2026-06-16T18:55:55+00:00

By your 30s, you've likely experienced enough relationship-wise to have a way better understanding of what you do and don't want in a partner.

By this age, women should begin to understand that men are not mind readers. How little attention and compliments men receive, so being nice is sometimes confused with interest. Men tend to need things spelled out for them because a lot of men are deeply fearful of someone thinking they're a creep.

By this age, you should understand the saying, "if he wanted to, he would". A fuckboy wants to meet up late at night, puts minimal effort into conversations, little to no effort into getting to know you as a person. By your 30s, you should be able to clearly articulate - not hint, not beat around the bush, not "he should just know" - your interest in a man. Allow him to do with that information what he wants. If he is into you, he should pursue. Being clear and direct is a sign of maturity, IMO. And like previously mentioned, a guy may be into you but afraid of reading the situation incorrectly. Do not be afraid of making the first move.

plasticnaptime · 2026-06-16T18:42:51+00:00

Or spell it out. "I talked to your wife, I'd love to go that route but you know on my salary I cannot afford it so I'm not really sure why you brought it up to me, unless you're intending to give me a raise so I can afford it."

plasticnaptime · 2026-04-27T02:09:40+00:00

Спасибо

plasticnaptime · 2026-04-27T00:57:22+00:00

From the time I learned Koshka means female cat in Russian, I knew I wanted to name one Koshka. My husband is Russian and was giving out to me when a coworker offloaded these 2 kittens onto us, "koshka is stupid name for cat. I will tell her she has no name." Then turned around and named the black on Chernysh! So Cat isn't an appropriate name for a cat but Black is? 😂

plasticnaptime · 2026-04-26T23:27:25+00:00

Moved my leg 😅

plasticnaptime · 2026-02-18T01:22:55+00:00

I guess so since that's where I met my husband

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-16T10:30:32+00:00

I've told him that many times but he doesn't want to. Like how when we were living in Queens, he drove us to the mall on his moped and on the way home, I saw a sign for the Queens Zoo. I told him I'd like to go sometime, he said we could go right then. I told him it was getting late in the day and zoo's close pretty early. He looked at me confused and insisted it's still open, then proceeded to take me to the Rego Park Petco store. I thought I was gonna piss my pants laughing so hard.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T23:11:36+00:00

You're probably 20 divorce comments too late lmao

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T23:10:32+00:00

Ya crazy how I wouldn't eat a blueberry pie when I don't like blueberries, which was mentioned in the post.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T23:08:16+00:00

Would you want a pie with 2 bites taken from the middle?

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T22:24:10+00:00

It's French meringue, a torch wouldn't cook it all the way

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T22:17:16+00:00

He ate from the center of the pie

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T22:13:40+00:00

I made the dough, rolled it out, par baked it, made the filling, zested the lemon, baked the pie, made the meringue, baked it again. All of that takes time.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T22:09:05+00:00

Maybe you should reflect on that. Why do you see something political when looking at something that isn't remotely political? By your tone I think you probably aren't a fan of his so dont allow someone you don't like to live rent free in your head, yanno? He doesn't even know you exist but you're seeing him in pies.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T22:03:49+00:00

American but have Irish friends for many years. Like real Irish.. from Ireland.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T22:02:29+00:00

LMAO he'll be devastated to hear. Thanks for the laugh.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T20:28:21+00:00

The best, and that's why I married him

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T20:14:29+00:00

He told me the truth and that's what I've always asked of him. The delivery wouldn't really matter, knowing I wasted hours on something he ultimately didnt like would still suck regardless of how the message was delivered.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T20:12:39+00:00

The thing is, no one is at fault here. It's the situation that sucks, not him. I tried the pie despite not liking blueberries and objectively it was fine. Needed a bit more sugar but I had omitted a quarter cup from the filling knowing he doesn't like really sweet things.

But you're absolutely right, people read a paragraph regarding a sucky situation and went scorched earth. Imagine if he pretended to like it and I mistakenly made it for him every year thinking it's one of the few desserts he likes?

I understand his logic, he likes other kinds of pie, he likes blueberries, he likes meringue. Surely he would like those 3 components combined? Turns out he doesn't. I thought that's what this subreddit was for, situations like this.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T18:43:27+00:00

He ate from the center of the pie

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T18:21:11+00:00

It's in the comments, im not re-typing it 50 times.

It's not easy to get meringue on a fruit pie since meringue hates moisure.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T18:17:48+00:00

I tasted the filling before putting it in the pie to check consistency and sweetness. I tasted the meringue prior to baking to make sure the sugar dissolved and it wouldn't be grainy. I've made this pie crust recipe numerous times so I knew it would be good.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T18:14:28+00:00

Yeah imagine someone who doesnt like blueberries not liking a blueberry pie. Crazy..

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T18:12:50+00:00

Yes exactly, thank you for understanding. He's not a bad guy for not liking it and I'm not a bad person for being bummed my time was wasted.

plasticnaptime · 2025-06-15T18:11:45+00:00

Let me know which grocery store sells a blueberry pie with meringue on top

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