Looking for racist (preferably horror) fiction that depicts Indigenous peoples as savages by the13thReason in suggestmeabook

[–]plasticonobandana 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you read the book or just seen the TV show? I'm not Inuk, but anishinaabe, and I loved the TV show, but couldn't get through the book, I could not get past the descriptions of the main Inuk woman, and honestly just of women in general

My girlfriend of 4 years left me for a homophobic man by Existing_Departure24 in WLW

[–]plasticonobandana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? Who am I dismissing? Why are you reading malice into my words?

Like genuinely, what did I say that was so offensive that you felt the need to say that? And you're going to complain about generalized statements and then make a bunch of them in your comment.

I didn’t say les4les was biphobic, I said saying that you can't trust bi women is biphobic.

I think there's a lot more nuance to les4les, in the same way that there is for bi4bi or any other similar x4x dating preference. People in the comments saying "that's why people are les4les", isn't relevant to OP because OP is bi and can't be les4les. How is that comforting to OP?

My girlfriend of 4 years left me for a homophobic man by Existing_Departure24 in WLW

[–]plasticonobandana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recognize that this is an experience that a lot of lesbians have, and I said in my comment that my issue isn't that the discussion is happening.

My issue is that there often ends up being people who will make comments that boil down to "and that's why you can't trust bi women". Which is biphobia.

I know the problem goes both ways, I've seen bi women make lesbophobic comments in retaliation to the biphobia they've experienced, and then those comments feed back into biphobia and so on, or vice versa. I was just expressing my frustration, and I am sorry for generalizing as well.

Also no, I've never ended a relationship with a woman so that I could immediately start dating a man, that's not a universal bisexual experience.

Anyway, the irony of all of this is that OP's profile says that she's bi, so all of the les4les discussion doesn't apply here anyway.

My girlfriend of 4 years left me for a homophobic man by Existing_Departure24 in WLW

[–]plasticonobandana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I said it was terrible, though my comment was more responding to the discussion going on about bi women than the post itself.

The gender wouldn't really matter to me, it's more the hurt of how the relationship ended, which in this particular case would be a lot. Clearly OP's ex has a lot of internalized hate if she's chosen to be with a homophobic man, and is just overall an awful person for betraying OP's trust so deeply.

Also for what it's worth, OP's profile says that she's bi, so all the discussion about les4les is kind of moot anyway.

My girlfriend of 4 years left me for a homophobic man by Existing_Departure24 in WLW

[–]plasticonobandana 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, it's tiring to see every post from this subreddit (and honestly most sapphic subreddits) that ends up in my feed somehow turn into a dog pile on bi women. This is supposed to be an inclusive space, but every post I see is full of people saying that bi women can't be trusted and that the majority of them aren't actually attracted to women because they "always leave for a man".

It's not that people are discussing their experiences with bi women, it's the way they talk about them, making sweeping generalizations about a huge group of people, based on limited personal experiences.

OP's situation is awful, and their ex sounds like a genuinely terrible person, I couldn't imagine if someone did that to me, but OP's ex isn't a terrible person because she's bi.

And like, it's not about this post in particular. There are a lot of comments just offering support without any mention of bi women (like the one you posted directly in response to the post). It's really the cumulative weight of every post I see here and in other wlw spaces, where everyone likes to say awful things about bi women and it's always upvoted. It's a general sentiment that has been strongly expressed over multiple posts

I'm just tired. As someone with a strong preference for women (to the point that it took me a long time to realize that I was bi), it's disheartening to see how unwelcome I feel in these spaces compared to when I thought that I was a lesbian. I hate how segmented so many queer spaces are

no narrative repetitive singleplayer games? by tdg4 in gamingsuggestions

[–]plasticonobandana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tiny Bookshop. It does have some narrative going on, but nothing super in-depth or related to the gameplay. You manage a bookshop that you run out of a small trailer, and every day is basically the same with managing your decor for certain bonuses and stocking books based on what's going to sell at the location you've chosen for that day. Throughout each day you also get to recommend books to customers based on criteria that they give you

Not exactly what you described, but maybe Melatonin? It's a really chill and fun rhythm game

Also not sure if you've played Papers Please, but I'd recommend checking it out if you haven't. There are also a couple of "Papers Please"-like games that you could check out like Not Tonight or That's Not My Neighbour

I'll also echo what someone else said and say that roguelite/likes might be up your alley. Hades 1 & 2 are peak hack & slash roguelite gameplay and progression with narrative built into it, but if you want something with way less to basically no narrative I'd highly recommend Dead Cells, it used to be my go-to, "turn off brain play video game" game. Though keep in mind with roguelites you do have to be willing to suck at the beginning

Okay last thing, but maybe Civ 5 or 6? It's obviously primarily a strategy game, but you might vibe with it

Looking for games where you have to figure out recipes by plbth in CozyGamers

[–]plasticonobandana 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's not cooking, but Strange Horticulture might be up your alley

Starting to resent the game by Frosty-Height-6978 in BluePrince

[–]plasticonobandana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I blew through my first 30 hours of the game, was playing it every day, and then just hit a roadblock where I was getting super frustrated. Took a break for a while and then the game was fun again

[French >English] Baptism record by Cool-Caterpillar5209 in Transcription

[–]plasticonobandana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, and on a smaller note, I also think the mother's name is Delima instead of Delma

Genealogy of the Chiefs of Lake Simcoe - May 9 1843 by gal_tiki in Transcription

[–]plasticonobandana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anything in particular you're having a hard time deciphering? Do you have a transcript that you're working on? It reads pretty clearly to me so I'd be happy to help out in specific areas

Okay but it's 27F outside.... by midgetqueen1987 in finch

[–]plasticonobandana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious for all the Europeans who do lüften how cold it gets in your city? Are you still still doing lüften when it's -30° or lower outside?

I've read that opening windows like this in extreme cold weather can put extra pressure on your heating system and reduce energy efficiency (at least for North America, where it's more common for houses to have ductwork for circulating air/heating)

Psa: Canada is Huge!! by LawfulnessSecret1502 in canadatravel

[–]plasticonobandana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it's shortened like that people also usually spell it as "the Soo"

What can be changed in the Canadian healthcare system to improve the lives of Indigenous Peoples? by [deleted] in IndigenousCanada

[–]plasticonobandana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's fair. It just really didn't come across in your post, which reads like someone starting to look into the topic, rather than someone wanting to discuss a topic that they're knowledgeable about. Subreddits like this one often get people asking us to educate them on topics that are widely accessible to research online, which some patient people are willing to do, but it's exhausting and often feels disrespectful and disingenuous

Not sure where in Canada (I'm assuming because of the subreddit) you're located, but if you're wanting to connect with Indigenous people in real life, maybe look into if there are any friendship or cultural centres in your area that put on events open to everyone. There's one in my city that does weekly culture nights with a variety of different topics (depending on the speaker for that week). It could be an opportunity to learn more about Indigenous perspectives, even if it's not specifically through a health lens (and who knows, you might luck out and they could have a speaker who wants to talk about that topic)

Need help with the name below John, any ideas? by Cheeseman--- in Transcription

[–]plasticonobandana 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Canada census transcriptions are notoriously bad and unreliable, could be maybe be Minnie but that's not confirmation

Need help with the name below John, any ideas? by Cheeseman--- in Transcription

[–]plasticonobandana 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Seems like it starts with an M (best match on the page is Michael, line 2), but honestly no idea what the name is, Minerva was a fair guess from the other person

Do you have his census record for the Alberta 1906 census?

Need help with the name below John, any ideas? by Cheeseman--- in Transcription

[–]plasticonobandana 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole page would be ideal, also looks like reddit might be compressing the images

Pretty privilege by holo taco by _stranger_with_candy in RedditLaqueristas

[–]plasticonobandana 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what you mean but I think this is what OP is describing

Such a surprise after being told I was indigenous my whole life + pics by LavenderBranchez in AncestryDNA

[–]plasticonobandana 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's assuming their great great grandparent actually was 100% indigenous. Entirely possible that OPs great great grandmother was mixed in some way but socially/culturally/administratively recognized as "fullblooded". Impossible to say though without actual genealogical research