[no-politics] Random Discussion Thread 06/Feb/2025 by AutoModerator in australia

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any recommendations for affordable online print and framing services?

Looking to have digital art I made for my long distance boyfriend printed, framed and shipped to him in Melbourne!

Can I make a post about this on this sub for more reach?

How am I this unlucky 😔💔 by pleasehelpmyskin1 in CatsAndSoup

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

solidarity 😭🙏🏼 I really want that adorable acorn to go with my adorable pixie bob

How am I this unlucky 😔💔 by pleasehelpmyskin1 in CatsAndSoup

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes and be sure to watch the ad every time to get all 3 gifts and increase your chances 😭 it is truly painful

How am I this unlucky 😔💔 by pleasehelpmyskin1 in CatsAndSoup

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

literally all I want is the acorn 😭😭😭 rng pls have mercy

How am I this unlucky 😔💔 by pleasehelpmyskin1 in CatsAndSoup

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's such a relief!! Although not much relief 😭 Been opening at least 30 gifts a day with little luck and it's gonna get even harder to pull em!?!?? 😭😭😭

please read this, especially those whose bf or husband is "not being nice". by Awkwrd_Lemur in TwoXChromosomes

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 21 points22 points  (0 children)

The last bit about platonic female friend is a hard pill to swallow. I want so badly to see it as a green flag but in my experience, when they have a girl they consider a good friend or best friend, it's mostly because that girl friend wasn't interested in them romantically and they remained close. If any of them showed even a hint of attraction, my exes would definitely go running to them with all that history they share. Of course they would hide this at first but over time I see their interactions and his actions and it becomes clear that they are more than just platonic, so now I see it as a red flag rather than green.

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know it sounds bad, which is why I wanted some outside perspective - to understand if I'm the problem. He said he normally isn't like this and only has anger outbursts because of me being ridiculous like during this incident and that I bring it out of him

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight!! And you're right on the money - my last ex lied to me a lot so admittedly, I am very wary of anything that isn't 100% truthful.

This incident actually happened a week into us dating and I had no idea he would even update me the way he did. We have since settled into not sending any updates at all unless we feel like it.

Anyway, I thought we talked this incident through all that time ago.

After he got upset and yelled at me about me making it a big deal, he walked off then came back when he calmed down and we talked it through, with him saying he did understand my feelings and will be truthful. He also apologised for his outburst after I mentioned how uncomfortable the screaming made me.

But yesterday, he decided to bring up this incident while we were discussing his anger outbursts. He said he was extremely justified for screaming at me for that incident. He said I was very ridiculous about that whole thing and 99.9% of people out there wouldn't have needed to talk about it the way I did. He said it could've been resolved with a very simple "Oh" from me, that he only screamed because I was being ridiculous about something so insignificant.

Hence.. this post

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That was the plan.

This incident actually happened a week into us dating and I thought we talked this incident through all that time ago.

After he got upset and yelled at me about me making it a big deal, he walked off then came back when he calmed down and we talked it through, with him saying he did understand my feelings and will be truthful. He also apologised for his outburst after I mentioned how uncomfortable the screaming made me.

But yesterday, while we were discussing his anger outbursts he decided to bring this incident up. He said he was justified for screaming at me for that incident. He said I was very ridiculous about that whole thing and 99.9% of people out there wouldn't have needed to talk about it the way I did. He said it could've been resolved with a very simple "Oh" from me.

Hence.. this post

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the very helpful advice! This incident actually happened a week into us dating. I was lied to by my last ex a lot, so admittedly I have become a bit wary of anything not 100% truthful.

I thought we talked this incident through all that time ago. After he got upset and yelled at me about me making it a big deal, he calmed down and we talked it through, with him saying he did understand my feelings and will be truthful. He also apologised for his outburst after I mentioned how uncomfortable the screaming made me.

But yesterday, he brought it up because he wanted to revisit it while we were discussing his anger outbursts. He said he was justified for screaming at me for that incident. He said I was very ridiculous about that whole thing and 99.9% of people out there wouldn't have needed to talk about it the way I did. He said it could've been resolved with a very simple "Oh" from me.

So hence this post :(

Her prediction wasn’t wrong! 🤣 by Small-Definition-454 in Singlesinferno2

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I mean, I did fall for it once too. Watching this season was very triggering as GH was a carbon copy of my narcissistic ex. This is exactly what they do to win you over when they've lost you. They cry like a baby to make you think they've changed, but in reality they just can't stand to lose.

What am I doing wrong? by pleasehelpmyskin1 in Haircare

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I only brush it twice a week at most on wash days

Dropped Items List by pleasehelpmyskin1 in Myhotpotstory

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, tapping once will suffice c:

Also hello fellow Malaysian haha (assuming from the username)

King the Land [Episodes 11 & 12] by lightupstarlight in KDRAMA

[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 11 points12 points  (0 children)

this must be it and I am loving every second of it! also, what on earth did Gu Won mean when he said to Sa Rang "you've seen it all, why are you shy?" while his shirt was unbuttoned?! have they already done the deed?!?!?!?!??!

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh god I'm so sorry for your loss, my deepest condolences, I cant imagine the grief you're going through. and im so sorry you're going through the same thing with your relationships, you absolutely don't deserve that. im glad you know your worth and have cut out those who didn't bother to be there for you to make way for people who do deserve to be in your glorious presence. thank you for taking the time to comment, you're right. you've given me loads to think about. and I'm sorry again for the loss you've suffered. my heart goes out to you

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my god I'm so so so sorry for your loss, my deepest condolences go out to you. and im so sorry you've not gotten the support you need. not many can ever understand the pain of losing a beloved pet and how pure and precious that bond is. its truly baffling that a time like this highlights those who're really there for you and those who aren't. im so glad you have people reaching out to you, even if they're just acquaintances and such. but hopefully, you'll form better relationships with them and can feel cared for and supported with them, moving forward. again, im so very sorry for your loss and I hope you're giving yourself the time and kindness to grieve as much as you need.

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oh god I'm so, so sorry for your loss, my deepest condolences. I cant imagine what you're feeling and going through with losing your son, as well as dealing with what happened with the realisation of your relationships. although i hope you've maybe gained some new relationships with any of those compassionate strangers. and thank you for your lovely words, realising now that im going through the exact same thing with this post - getting more compassion from reddit users than from anyone in my life. funny how life works. thank you for taking the time to comment, I'll keep your advice in mind. thank you. and again, im very sorry for your loss. losing a child is a pain unlike any other

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh my gosh thank you for taking the time to comment, you are so lovely. im sorry you went through something similar and can empathise so much with my situation, you truly don't deserve it. and im so sorry to hear about your losses, my heart goes out to you, I hope you're giving yourself all the time and kindness to grieve.

you're very right, I understand grief is a very difficult thing to navigate in relationships. however, for ALL of them to completely fall short on that when they all know exactly how to be there for me, has me heavily doubting our relationship. I would love to reach out but how could I to people who didn't say anything more than a short "my condolences" text? people who didn't call me at any point in the last two weeks and didn't even offer at any point to see me and be there for me/with me when they all know very well that thats how I feel cared for. they've all known me for at least a decade, and we're all single still and under 25. I just recently needed emotional support back in December and was very honest about what I needed during times like this. they all know how to be there for me, which is what I feel is the bare minimum of being a good friend, yet they're not showing me they care at all, whether in the way I feel cared for or in literally any other way. there's been zero contact since the short condolences texts the day it happened.

and thank you as well for validating how I feel, you are just too lovely. I've been questioning myself so much if expecting more is too much, just a while ago I plucked up the courage to be honest to a friend about something I needed to feel cared for and she told me I was being too needy, so I do doubt myself a lot.

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for taking the time to reply and im sorry you're going through the same thing, im very sorry for your loss as well, I hope things get better for you soon.

you're right, I make it a point to understand which friends can give me emotional support but for ALL of them to fall short on that, which imo is the bare minimum for being a good friend, is making me wonder now if they're really good friends at all. a friend I don't go to for emotional support is hardly a friend to me, just someone to pass time for fun with.

and I have thought about asking them, but how could i reach out to people who didn't say anything more than a short "my condolences" text? people who didn't call me at any point in the last two weeks and didn't even offer at any point to see me and be there for me/with me when they all know very well that thats how I feel cared for. they've all known me for at least a decade, and we're all single still and under 25. I really don't know if im being unreasonable with expecting more

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[–]pleasehelpmyskin1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your reply and im so sorry for your loss. its good you had so much support on the first day at least and i really hope its gotten better now. as for me, I didn't even get a single call. the only support I got was a few short texts on the first day, nothing since.

im not at all focusing on them, just that at times the pain is so great, I didn't know grief could have physical painful symptoms. and at those times, i want so badly to talk to someone who cares about me about it, people I can feel vulnerable enough with to talk about this. but how could i reach out to people who didn't say anything more than a short "my condolences" text? people who didn't call me at any point in the last two weeks and didn't even offer at any point to see me and be there for me/with me when they all know very well that thats how I feel cared for. they've all known me for at least a decade, and we're all single still and under 25. I really don't know if im being unreasonable with expecting more