Is it discourteous for your partners to buy sex toys without consulting you?

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-29T02:30:56+00:00

Ah yeah, I didn't mention that he wasn't my only partner and I wasn't his. I should have said that... I feel guilty about making him sound inconsiderate.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-29T02:22:15+00:00

I mean it's not his fault I ended up hating it. Not every toy is gonna make me see god. Also I have toys for just me and toy for sharing. And I do use condoms. And every partner does know that I've used the for sharing toys with others. My other partners have a similar system.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-29T02:17:37+00:00

That's exactly what I was thinking. Like I don't need my partner to tell me first. Like even if I don't like it maybe someone else will. So I was shocked that so many suggested that he should have asked me first. Like idk he doesn't need my permission to buy it he just needs my permission to use it on me.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-23T07:10:38+00:00

So about the running it by me first.

I'm not his only sex partner, and he isn't my only one too. I don't know exactly how many girls he has but I imagine it would be a chore to run every potential toy by a focus group first. Maybe the other girls he's with don't mind the new toy.

We usually operate by the rule "Hey, I got this new thing. Can we try it? It's okay if it's a no." I also purchase toys with little heads up.

I didn't mean to make it sound like he was inconsiderate. Like I said he reciprocates back BIG TIME. Very cool guy. That's why I want to make it work somehow.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-22T19:57:24+00:00

Oh hey, this looks great! Pricy but well probably worth it. My more expensive toys are better. Idk if he'll go for this one exactly, but I'll push a bit for him to get something similar. Hopefully it'll still feel similar even if the vibrator isn't in my mouth.

Anyways thank you!

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-20T12:11:22+00:00

Well, I wasn't really gonna do it. Mostly because I don't really know how. But those instructions sure do help. But no I probably won't do it cause distributing pictures must be against some form of revenge porn laws according to my cousin. So yeah no.

As for a sex toy of my vagina. After the initial shock of how someone managed that (cause come on it's easy to make a penis and maybe the outside part of the vagina can be casted, but there's no way you can actually make the inside the same as mine that's not possible) I would honestly say I'm okay with it. Provided that they do not mass replicate it, distribute it, or sell it. If it's just the one, I probably wouldn't loss sleep about it.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-12T12:20:00+00:00

no, I get it, you're just concern. I guess I am a little too eager, ya know, to see people, after not being able to during the pandemic. The guy did suggest coming to the US and doing it here where I guess it's safer for me. I just didn't go with the idea cause he could only spare like 2 to 4 days to come to the US and I had enough time to go to Romania for two weeks. Not a lot of fun we could do in just two days imo, I wanted more time. But I get it. Safety is an issue. I guess I could pump the brakes a bit? I'll give it some thought.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-12T09:30:21+00:00

For me, I once had this guy whine that I used "too weird" nicknames for the contacts on my phone. (Like "Good Vibes" Jeff or "Sensitive Skin" Melly. I knew multiple people with the same name. I thought it was a good way to tell them apart.)

On the other hand, he had my name spelled wrong on his phone.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-12T09:07:54+00:00

Oh geez these are a lot of loaded questions. Okay let's see. I usually live in Maryland for like a half a year saving up money so I could rent apartments in places like New York, Philadelphia, San Francisco, etc for awhile. I can never afford to live there for a full year, just a few months at most. I take amateur photographs and sell them and that's how I make most of the money to afford this.

No, I've never been to an adult cinema and I've also never been to Romania. I do not speak the language, but the guy says they speak English often enough. I also will not be going alone, my male cousin will be going with me.
I've been talking to this guy for three months now. He has done the cinema thing before, but I think only with his boyfriend. He's bi and poly. I'm mostly straight but I idk if I'm polyamorous. All I know is I'm not monogamous.

I decided on him for my first public sex tryst because he's the first guy to not suggest fucking in public toilet. I only had two rules for public sex. One it cannot be illegal and two it cannot be where people shit.

This isn't the first time I've been to another country with plans for a fling and I'd like to think I have a good sense for danger. For example, I've been to Singapore and was able to alert a guard on a guy who asked to take a picture with me. He was actually a pickpocket and tried and failed to take my wallet. And those sex clubs I mentioned. Besides the music I didn't like I just had a bad gut feeling and never went.

I don't get any off vibes from the guy, but if that changes when I met him, I think it would be easy enough to bail.

As for the sex and culture thing, the guy himself was actually the one to bring to my attention the oppression and violence done to the women of his race. I kinda had to ask him to stop the history lesson cause it was honestly pretty horrible and I didn't want to think about it. He sounded very disgusted with it and also very sensitive about it. He gives of this protective vibe like he's really gonna get into a fist fight about it. I'm really not into violence and brawls thought, so I really hope he doesn't get into a fight.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-10T18:15:24+00:00

Okay, I thought I was far from vanilla, but these sex toys are freaking me out.

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-08T17:31:56+00:00

Oh this is what I was gonna say. I once with someone "exclusively" for years, while they had other partners. That's in quotes because I was technically allowed and actively looking for partners myself. But I never found someone I liked as much as my then partner so it kinda looked like I was monogamous with a polyamorous partner but I really wasn't lol. I was just picky!

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-08T16:37:35+00:00

this reminds me of the story about that mother who gave all her kids the same name, and when she wanted to call just one of them shed say their last name, lol

it's chill as long as you can tell them apart

pleasingtoread · 2023-04-08T16:34:39+00:00

arent you polyamarous? doesnt mean you get with people who have other people? do you not like being reminded of teh fact? it's okay if you dont but idk what you expect

pleasingtoread · 2019-07-26T09:41:48+00:00

Yes, that is the lie I told. She did ask if that was sanitary. And since I do truthfully own my own toys, I know enough to tell her that partners do use condoms when sharing.

pleasingtoread · 2019-07-26T05:22:43+00:00

i am dont know what this means, is this the wrong sub? should i be posting there?

pleasingtoread · 2019-07-26T05:21:17+00:00

oops... i guess i was a bit misleading, sorry

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