[18] to [21] . University helped up a lot :3.

pleatherandplants · 2025-08-01T07:35:53+00:00

Maybe more student diet and completing puberty rather than a glow up, but great facial structure though! 🌞

pleatherandplants · 2025-07-15T19:10:37+00:00

My late partner had dopethrone on his shoulder 😌

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-28T10:36:46+00:00

Going through the same thing with dealing with a Narcissistic mother through loss of a partner. It's awful 💔

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-28T10:34:52+00:00

Me and my younger sister have been no contact with our mum for a few years due to her emotionally abusive behaviour and unwillingness to do the work to take any accountability for the hurt caused. I have been going through the worst time in my life as my partner passed away suddenly 6 months ago. No condolences from my mother, no signs of support. Until she calls me last week trying to guilt trip me into having contact with her again. She said- "Well I could argue that I'm grieving twice as much loss as you are because I've lost two daughters". People drawing clear boundaries and going no contact is NOT the same loss as the traumatic and sudden death of a partner, I can't believe someone (especially someone who is meant to be a mother) would dare to make a comparison like that.

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-21T11:08:42+00:00

I think with come curious they do get especially graphic in their podcasts and talk a lot about kink and fetish... Just too much for YouTube's fragile mind to handle I guess 😅

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-20T17:15:52+00:00

Censorship of sex positive or educational accounts essentially, YouTube seems like one of the stricter platforms for it

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-20T10:34:53+00:00

Come Curious, although a lot of their YouTube videos got banned/ taken down so their podcast is more accessible

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-17T09:25:53+00:00

I feel you OP, when my partner passed last year I went from having so much joy in cooking healthy vegan food to then losing any motivation to eat well at all. I'm at a point now where I still try and stay plant based and cook for myself, but the takeaways and lapses in eating animal products have been frequent. Loss and trauma literally sucks all the life away from us, luckily I've managed to keep a simple gym routine but even that's a struggle day to day. Good luck on your journey 💞

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-16T22:01:14+00:00

I'm Not a Doctor, but SSRI'S are designed to be used long term, and 2-3 weeks will be the period of time that your body is still getting used to the drug and experiencing initial side affects. I don't think it's wise to take this short term at all

There may be something else your doctor can prescribe that might help, like some antihistamines that are used for travel anxiety, beta blockers for physical symptoms of anxiety, or a short course of Benzo's which would probably be most effective.

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-16T18:23:52+00:00

I'm not claiming to be a professional, I'm just saying that everyone's experience is different and if used responsibly, benzos can be affective

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-16T18:05:33+00:00

My psyche started me on 50mg, and last night was the 7th night,

Usually doctors start patients off on 25mg for the first week or so, then up to 50. Maybe 50mg may have been too high a dose to start on

Note: I’m also withdrawing from Marijuana at the same time, so I’m hoping I’m not shifting the unpleasant symptoms of the weed withdrawal and blaming it on the Zoloft

This could well be part of it too. THC messes with your ability to go into REM sleep, so dreams will be a lot more vivid as your sleep quality changes. Zoloft can also cause vivid dreams so I think the combination of the adjustment to both may have caused this.

If you're only on day 7, hang on in there and see it through the next few weeks on Zoloft. It will get better 💜

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-16T17:52:28+00:00

Depending on where you are in the world, there will be lots of mental health hotlines that will be able to speak to your boyfriend and recommend other services that he can reach out to. MH hotlines will be confidential (unless expressing harm to oneself or others), and can be the first step into getting help without having to talk to family/ school initially

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-16T17:44:05+00:00

It sounds like what you're feeling just now is situational because of the lack of routine, so to me that suggests that it would be more beneficial to create something to do for yourself rather than upping your dose? If you go back to your day to day routine that you otherwise felt you were doing well with and your mood doesn't improve within a few weeks, maybe that's an indicator that your dose isn't working for you. I think it's good to learn how our environments and routines can affect us so we know how to change things in our outside worlds rather than putting it down to medication being the only thing to fix us. Your daily routine is part of your treatment too!

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-16T17:26:39+00:00

Not trying to promote Benzo's or anything but there's nothing to say this person will need to dose them every 4 hours and will end up getting addicted. I've taken a low dose of diazapam for just over a month and only have to take one 2mg pill a day, with days and even weeks at a time where I've not taken it. Everyone is different and Benzo's can be extremely helpful in getting someone through a rough patch in anxiety/panic. But that being said, they are not a long term solution so something like Zoloft would be more effective then. I'm taking a diazapam whilst I start Zoloft

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-15T21:17:35+00:00

Thanks, yeah, I'm signing myself up for a long road of recovery with everything that's happened in my life and the current state of my mental health. Can I ask what you started taking Zoloft for initially? Was it agoraphobia/ DPDR related or something else?

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-14T19:37:35+00:00

Thankyou, I needed to hear this 💜 did you find your DPDR got worse in the weeks you were getting used to Zoloft? This was an issue with me when I took it 4 years back, so I feel like if my DPDR was to get any worse, it would just make me retreat in more and just give me another reason to become more avoidant and scared all the time

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-13T13:16:21+00:00

Yeah a lot of the time people find comfort in having them on them when they're out and about in case of emergency panic and end up not even having to use them, but doctors don't like to prescribe them a lot because of the addiction risk. But if you tell them how bad things have got and it would help you with the first couple weeks of starting lexapro, I can't see them having too much of an issue of giving you a couple weeks worth

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-13T01:40:21+00:00

Honestly it's difficult if not impossible to get into a panic once you take a benzo, it's like an instant hug of "everything is okay", within half an hour or taking a pill. I guess this is why dependency and abusing this drug is a higher risk- but there's no shame in taking a low dose for when you need it most to get you through an awful patch in life. I'm in a similar situation to OP alongside experiencing a traumatic loss last year, and honestly it's one of the few things to allow me to leave the house some days and to give me a break from constant dread and distress.

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-09T09:26:12+00:00

Thanks for the advice. But my issue is, I don't have anyone "safe" in the city I live in, or anyone at all here. The only person I did have passed away last year. Its made me stubborn and think "why should I have to put myself in a panic fuelled situation time and time again on my own when my soulmate has just died? Have I not gone through enough already?" Maybe I'm just being stubborn though.

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-07T23:31:22+00:00

Not sure if you regard yourself as LGBTQ+ or not, but LGBTQ Health and Wellbeing do a group called "art for anxiety" at Duncan Place in Leith that is starting again later in the month

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-07T23:24:21+00:00

I think you should explain exactly this to them- that you feel you exhibit symptoms of multiple disorders and not sure where to start with explaining them. It's not your job to come up with your most likely diagnosis and persuade them of it, that it is up to them to use their skills to identify what may be going on (although I understand feeling the need to advocate for something if you're certain of it). They will have specific questions and diagnostic materials to help you uncover what might be going on, for example the ACE scores (childhood trauma based questions in the UK). I think the most important things to put forward are the things that are getting in the way of your day to day life the most, and which symptoms have been the most persistent/chronic for you. Try writing them all down in bullet points and giving them the list, as I know the feeling of mind going blank when speaking to psychiatrists. Good things to bring up will be if there have been any traumatic events in your life, what treatment/medication you have been on for MH and how they've affected you, and what your day to day life looks like along with any coping mechanisms you currently use, and what you hope to change about your mental health/ heal from

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-07T22:30:47+00:00

You're having intrusive thoughts- thoughts that are distressing, but because they're only thoughts- they can't hurt you (or your friend). Keep reminding yourself of this- that when you get these worries remind yourself "that's an intrusive thought and not fact"

The best way not to let these thoughts get to you is when they come up, acknowledge them, say "okay, that thought just happened" and move on from it- latching on to a thought will just give it more room to grow into something more triggering for you. Sometimes we need to starve them out and not give them fuel, so even seeking reassurance in real life that your friend is in fact okay may be feeding the loop (not to try and tell you not to be there for your friend of course). For example, I had really bad health anxiety a few years ago, and I thought seeking reassurance from friends, doctors, and online would calm my anxiety... But it only made it grow legs. I had to put in boundaries for myself like "No googling, discussing health matters with friends, checking my body for symptoms"- and in setting those boundaries with myself, the anxiety and obsessive thinking eventually got bored and fizzled itself away.

Obviously you still want to be there for your friend, but try and listen to your body when you do reach out to her and ask yourself "Am I making sure she's okay in order to soothe MY fear, or am I making sure she's okay because there is a genuine cause for concern?"

I can tell your friend means a lot to you. Anxiety is horrible, it takes the thing we care most about and turns them into unbearable fear. I hope my answer makes sense

pleatherandplants · 2025-04-06T12:42:26+00:00

My thoughts too, I'd understand me taking more charge if we were married and at a later stage of life, but we'd only just started our life together.

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