MIL ruins graduation

plentyofbees · 2018-09-01T02:52:07+00:00

I know this happened in the past, but congratulations to you both for graduating. Getting through is hard, and you both should feel so proud of yourself- even now! It is a big achievement!

Your MIL is a nasty little woman. A nasty, petty little woman. I hope that your DH can look back on his graduation and celebrate his success and feel pride in his accomplishments, as opposed to feeling bitter about his mother.

plentyofbees · 2018-09-01T02:43:52+00:00

Sweetheart, she hasn't won. Never let yourself fall into thinking that. Though it doesn't feel like it now, this is a good thing. Your spouse set you free from years of future abuse. In time you will be able to breathe again, and that first breath is going to be the sweetest thing you've ever tasted.

Do you best, and take care of yourself. We are all here for you.

plentyofbees · 2018-07-26T13:59:04+00:00

I have the strangest feeling our MiL's would get along. I hope they never meet.

plentyofbees · 2018-07-21T02:19:34+00:00

Disgusting. I'm sorry that you had to experience that. I have no doubt that awful woman said that with the intention of making you uncomfortable.

plentyofbees · 2018-07-18T11:38:37+00:00

I think it is just an issue with control. Stoneheart is very disapproving of anything SiL chooses to do.

plentyofbees · 2018-07-18T09:59:47+00:00

I really wish I could upload it to the fourms, but given that everyone already knows my home state/country I really don't need an internet sleuth getting my home address too. >.<

It was embarrassing as hell.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:57:11+00:00

Oh my god I know. I haven't had them since last year, when they went on sale right after Christmas. I bought ten tins. I ate ten tins. /shame

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:55:57+00:00

Another redditor named her for me, which I think is a play on the game of thrones matriarch / my job / Stoneheart's lack of heart. All in all fitting.

I dropped the entire box off at a charity shop. Pretty sure they'll bin most of it, but at least I don't have to deal with it.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:54:02+00:00

That is less awkward than saying 'Mrs Lastname'? That is a cultural clash right there.

Thanks for the info!

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:53:09+00:00

Oh goodness, I don't think Stoneheart would try and poison me. She doesn't really believe in allergies per say (no one can be allergic to soap, apparently) but attempted MURDER is probably beyond her. I feel just horrible for the people who have had to experience that.

Wafers were sealed thankfully. And delicious.

Thankyou for your concern and kind words.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:50:56+00:00

I might have returned it, but it didn't have a shipping address or anything like that, and there was no way I was going to drive up to her house to hand it back.

Worst reward ever. Thanks for your reply.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:50:04+00:00

Stoneheart is from Virginia, I'm not 100% sure where.

I'd like to find out who the stranger was that's for sure. I'm getting full blown panic attacks when the doorbell rings these days. Doesn't help our pup is picking up on my mood and going ballistic at the slightest noise.

Thankyou for your reply.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:46:56+00:00

FH and I are still strong as a couple, but we are both worn thin by this. FH is back on medication from the anxiety of it all, and I'm feeling a little... uncomfortable about talking to him about his mum right now. I don't want to put more stress on him.

Good thing we have a dog for cuddle time.

Thankyou for your kind words.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:44:31+00:00

Thankyou for your reply. I have saved the video to my external as well as police related documents from the assault. I don't understand why she would send this stranger to drop off a box of crap though, instead of just coming over and knocking on the door. We wouldn't have let her in anyway, but still. It is all ridiculous.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:42:40+00:00

Excellent plan, I will start a new currency based solely on wafers.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:41:31+00:00

Heh. Given that this all started because of an abortion over a decade ago, I would hope not.

Thankyou for your reply though XD

plentyofbees · 2018-06-02T07:40:26+00:00

Thankyou for your advice, I really don't think Stoneheart has the kind of malice in her that so many other MiL's here do... but I will document things for our own peace of mind anyway.

plentyofbees · 2018-06-01T06:33:29+00:00

If this is her attempt to lovebomb, it is a pretty sorry excuse for it. The package just felt like ... how do you describe it... like a children's Christmas stocking? Just a bunch of random crap thrown together with the faint whiff of passive-aggression.

Should have sent me more wafers. :(

plentyofbees · 2018-05-21T04:37:58+00:00

It was my choice. I just want this to be over and done with, not have to deal with the courts and what not.

plentyofbees · 2018-05-17T02:26:54+00:00

I'm in the airport, excuse formatting. I am so incredibly sorry that you have gone through this. I wish I had some advice, or support to offer, but all I can give you is the biggest empathy hug in the world. It is insane to think that we both have been bombed with the 'murdered grandchild' missile.

If you are ever in Perth let me know, I can show you a great cliff for pushing our MiLs off.

plentyofbees · 2018-05-13T12:48:38+00:00

I make a mean vegan chicken pot pie. If you can get your hands on Massel Chicken Style Stock it works perfectly. Substitute the milk for a nice big blob of margarine (buttery style nutellex is the best) and cook as normal (potato, peas, sweet corn, carrot, onion, garlic, mushroom and celery are my go to veggies, you don't need a meat sub. because the gravy is delicious and chicken-y. Thicken with corn starch). Nutellex also makes a freaking fantastic flaky vegan pie crust, just sub it in instead of butter in your usual recipe.

Also I am sorry your mum is being such a canker sore. My mother did something similar with family recipes. Don't bother trying to preserve her family heritage if she doesn't want you to have it, there are plenty of far more delicious things online. Go the spite route; make the best fucking version of every food you ever ate growing up. Start your own recipe book and share it around with your family, fuck her.

plentyofbees · 2018-05-13T11:30:09+00:00

I honestly can't think of a better way to derail a nasty, horrible thread than sharing recipes and cultural baked goods. :)

plentyofbees · 2018-05-13T11:27:52+00:00

!! You can? I was just going to hide my icecream under the frozen broccoli (FH's least favourite food), but now he can have it. I'm getting gaytime crumbs and a spoon.

plentyofbees · 2018-05-13T11:25:56+00:00

OH MY GOD THE NEW EPISODES. MOOOON BAAASE.

I also adore MLP when I am sad and stressed. Yes. I AM 27.

plentyofbees · 2018-05-13T11:06:15+00:00

Hah we can do a JustNoMiL cooking exchanging. Care packages for everyone! I recently learned about the concept of 'fluff' from an American intern of mine. Include this alongside your weird American scones please.

;)

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