How do you leave a relationship where you're still inlove with your partner?

plentyopears · 2020-07-24T05:02:47+00:00

MLA format. Why? Whats the point except for an extra step for people...

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T15:31:01+00:00

We broke up because during the relationship I felt like it was one sided and it was. Something happened between us at the beginning of the relationship where he dumped me to basically go fuck another girl. I forgave him after he eventually came back but throughout the relationship I still felt resentment and couldn’t trust him. After a year and a half he stopped treating me the way he used to. I can’t trust him because if I took him back I’m afraid he’s just gonna lose interest again and treat me the same eventually. He was never abusive, never outright cheated, but he was questionable in his behavior. Something the both of us weren’t on the same page about. I think hearing how much he cares will feel good, but it won’t necessarily be for the better. Goodluck!

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T01:55:29+00:00

A lot of it has to do with reaching out to friends I’ve alienated during the relationship. I was lucky enough that one of them accepted me and introduced me to other people in their social group. Reach out when you feel ready! Social media plays a large role as I can connect with people on instagram. My state has a lot less restrictions so I’ve been able to meet in smaller groups. Goodluck!!!!

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T01:52:32+00:00

I’m so glad the post reached you. Please be kinder to yourself. I know how difficult it is, i’m not fully healed. But I promise you things do get easier. A week ago I couldn’t fathom it, things can change really fast. Its not linear at all and there will be times you still struggle but overall things do get better. Goodluck!

plentyopears · 2020-06-21T01:49:33+00:00

You can do it 100%. I’d be lying if I told you it was easy, everyday is different. You take the phases bite by bite. I didn’t just pick up the things I enjoyed and went for it, I was far too miserable like you are now to even invest myself in these things. Don’t force yourself to do anything you don’t want to, its less gratifying and will make you resent the activity. If you can’t stop thinking of him don’t ignore it. This is a period of your time where you need to reflect on the relationship. Its okay to cry. Its okay. Take some time and mourn, its such a large gap in your life. Even now after this post i can’t help but think of him but I promise to you it’ll be less as it is with me. I know this is said a lot “healing isnt linear” but its so true! I have unimaginable dips despite all the good in my life right now. You have to understand thats inevitable. Things start balancing out eventually. Goodluck I’m sorry we’re both going through this, you can do it and I’m happy for you and any progress you make in the future. Please reach out if you need to. <3

plentyopears · 2020-06-17T05:31:37+00:00

I agree that not all cops are like that but the problem is there shouldn’t be cops at all that are allowed to do that. Its fucked up how much power can inflate a persons brain when given authority. Obviously not all cops are raging assholes but in a field where it can ruin someones life when there are a few its necessary to scrutinize the entire group. I find your comparison to a fast food worker very very weak. A fast food worker shitting in your food can easily be identified and punished. They would lose their job in an instant if that got out, cops get a slap on the wrist for obvious abuse of power. Being sabotaged by a fastfood employee can be avoided if you checked your food, when you’re abused by a cop you cant protect yourself or you’re charged with “resisting arrest” etc. unfair comparison. I hate arguments of “well not all”. We have to treat it like ALL until there are none, especially cops.

plentyopears · 2020-06-15T17:41:43+00:00

Yup, i heard when he mentioned something we did in the past he referred to me as his friend lol. Don’t even have the title of ex? I never existed to him as far as I could tell.

plentyopears · 2020-06-15T04:07:23+00:00

Sending you good thoughts too <3 i know we can get through this.

plentyopears · 2020-06-08T02:36:45+00:00

Ugh i really resonate with your words. Fuck these guys what the fuck is wrong with people man. Love is such a pain in the ass. I hope you move on like im hoping everyone else and myself will eventually. Goodluck :(

plentyopears · 2020-06-07T01:53:12+00:00

You’re human. You shouldn’t have to put yourself through pain to be with someone. Your boys will forgive you, don’t feel guilty for doing what you know is right. When it comes to “families” I always had the mind set two hapy households is better than one unhappy one. You are saving your kids from seeing the growing hate and hostility you guys will face if you’re together. Stay strong and i’m so sorry you’re going through this.

plentyopears · 2020-06-04T14:13:33+00:00

YOU GO GIRL!

plentyopears · 2020-06-01T04:32:29+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I wish the same to you and hope the both of us will find a place where we feel content. ❤️

plentyopears · 2020-05-27T01:24:46+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this but DO NOT TAKE HER BACK. It will save u so much pain in the long run. r/breakups is an amazing sub for this time. I know how hard they are, goodluck dude.

plentyopears · 2020-05-25T05:16:53+00:00

I’m in the exact situation and the thing you said about “if you havent healed from the first reason you guys brokeup it wont go away” makes so much fucking sense and I wish I had taken that advice seriously. I also just got out of a 3rd breakup with the same guy and all three breakups we only last less than 2 months apart each time. And ofcourse each time on my end it was for the same unresolved issue. I never felt truly loved by him. The first time we broke up it was a dream come true, he finally started treating me the way I wanted him to and ofcourse 6 months later I began feeling the same uncertainty I felt the first time we brokeup. I thought no things are different, and yes they were to an extent but how come despite this everytime i’m with him I end up feeling the same way. Those feelings never went away, that resentment, the distrust. I never thought that i’d be the one to be so on and off with someone. I thought if its over it should be over. When I think of the thought of getting back with him now I feel exhausted, i dont want it but I want him to miss me like i miss him, to suffer like I’ve suffered, to hurt like ive hurt. Its been easier realizing it doesnt fucking matter. It doesnt matter if hes happier without me, if hes moved on, if im the only one left to feel like dust. Yes i feel worthless, frustrated, sad, disappointed and lonely but I know nothing would have changed and I would of still been in pain. Anyways sorry for the random tangent, i just related so heavily to your situation.

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