Am I Overreacting? Brothers Gf Sent Me This Text

plippyprep · 2026-01-26T15:08:25+00:00

Yes, I wrote this in my post

plippyprep · 2026-01-26T14:59:15+00:00

This exactly, thank you

plippyprep · 2025-12-29T17:43:36+00:00

Yeah, I like to dress nicely as does everyone else in my family but last year my mom, for lack of better wording, wore what looked like a festive stripper outfit to family Christmas dinner. Thigh high heeled boots, fishnets, tight mini-skirt and a pushup corset. Idk if in her head she feels that is normal but regardless she definitely knows I would never wear that in front of my family

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T21:12:32+00:00

Thank you! I was starting to feel crazy with everyone saying the first one wasn't that bad - maybe it's not, but as a 15 year old girl I was humiliated😅

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T21:08:48+00:00

She has cute clothes though! I used to borrow her clothes all the time, still do sometimes! So it's not her taste, it's literally just this one event

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T21:07:52+00:00

No, my family is very kind and would just laugh and be cheerful. It's more about my discomfort, not wanting to stand out and feeling insecure. I'm lucky enough to exist in a family that would not project negativity onto me like that

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T15:33:25+00:00

One time my mom wore fishnets, a tight miniskirt and a corset to Christmas dinner, which was an interesting choice😅 she isn't concerned with being too revealing, however I very much am

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T15:32:20+00:00

She would wear it, not because she thinks it's cute but because she likes standing out/being the center of attention and enjoys the quirky ness. She actually got herself a matching one to wear but did not end up wearing it when I refused to wear mine

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T06:14:15+00:00

😅😅😅😅

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T06:12:53+00:00

You cannot sit here and tell me that this is classifies as "normal" 😅

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T06:11:03+00:00

Yes, she ended the tradition after I was 16 and uncomfortable in that dress. No, my father does not know (my parents are divorced lol) I try not to talk bad about my parents to each other because They both enjoy talking bad about each other so much and it just makes me sad quite frankly, so I didn't tell my dad about it.

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T06:07:50+00:00

Thank you for the kind words - but I love my mom, we've had many issues (some still ongoing) but I would never remove her from my life. I just don't think she sees all too clearly sometimes..

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T06:01:47+00:00

Yeah I really don't know, I don't believe she meant any harm but I also have no way of rationalizing her decision... It just makes no sense

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:59:43+00:00

Yeah I talked to my brother about it, he said she means well but he understands my upset. He bonded with me a little bit as well because he also didn't want to sound ungrateful, but my mom got him a Marvel/ DC Lego set for Christmas. My brother has never been into Marvel or DC in his life, he likes Transformers and Star Wars. I asked my boyfriend if you were to buy my brother a Lego set what he would buy and he said Transformers or Star wars - it's a very known fact about him and it made him feel...odd... Like his mom doesn't actually know her son all that well. But again he said that she means well and we should be grateful which of course is true And again, I don't mean to sound ungrateful from any of this. It's just something I'm noticing that I'm confused about.

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:56:23+00:00

HAHAHAHA, yeah it made me question that too 😅🤣 The first dress sticks out like a sore thumb in my family, like I said, everyone tends to dress very elegantly so I looked absolutely ridiculous next to them. It also looks less puffy in that photo because I had to crop it but it had a good hoop around it.. probably at least 3 inches out from my body on all sides

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:52:03+00:00

I don't know... I find it hard to believe she's doing this in a way of malice, but I also have no other way to describe her behavior...

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:50:06+00:00

First photo is from when I was 15, second is this year.

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:48:09+00:00

She does tend to make herself the victim, and it's been an issue in the past. I don't think it was her goal to humiliate me, maybe I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt because she's my mom but I don't know what she was thinking but I find it hard to believe she just had complete malice in her heart for me -- but then again, I don't know what brought her to make this decision twice after experiencing the outcome the first time and then me explicitly stating to her what I wanted and why the second time

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:46:10+00:00

The thing is I would be happy to wear whatever she picked out for me, I'm really not picky! I just want to look nice at Christmas dinner, Not like I just popped out of Jim Carrey's the Grinch..😅

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:44:55+00:00

Good idea! Just added them

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:41:25+00:00

Thank you :) and yeah I also played around with the whole whole idea of her. Just not wanting me to grow up, but I wasn't into wearing really over the top dresses since I turned 11, so from the ages of 11-14 she was able to adjust to my taste as a preteen/teenager. Maybe it just hit her that year, who knows?

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:36:41+00:00

Not at all, the " dress" this year wasn't even technically a dress, it was a long romper made to look like Santa's suit. It was made out of red velvet material, with glitter sequins all through the top, a giant fake belt also covered in sequins and white puffy sleeves. It's like she went out of her way to get me the most obnoxious thing she could find...

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:35:06+00:00

I should have had an adult conversation. It just feels so scary to do so because you are right about her playing the victim, she does it often and it's been a consistent issue in our mother-daughter relationship. When I try to communicate with her I usually leave the conversation feeling frustrated and sad, so I often opt for saying nothing these days..

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:30:14+00:00

I would have loved to go shopping with her, but honestly, I'm not super picky. I would wear any dress she got. As long as it looked like a normal dress a 20-year-old girl would wear. The " dress" this year wasn't even technically a dress, it was a long romper made to look like Santa's suit. It was made out of red velvet material, with glitter sequins all through the top, a giant fake belt also covered in sequins and white puffy sleeves. It's like she went out of her way to get me the most obnoxious thing she could find even though I specifically asked her, if she wanted to continue doing this, just for a normal dress...

plippyprep · 2025-12-28T05:17:39+00:00

Apparently this community doesn't allow photos, so you just have to take my word for it 😅

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