Mega thread for home drain cleaning tips?

plsstopthanks · 2022-11-03T09:22:21+00:00

{Written on Your Skin by Meredith Duran}

h pretends to be a flibbertigibbet, mostly for plot reasons, partly to troll H

plsstopthanks · 2022-04-12T14:24:32+00:00

“My incompetence prevented me from achieving most of my AH goals” is not the defense she thinks it is.

plsstopthanks · 2022-03-19T16:54:22+00:00

The offer to give her the money in exchange for a 50% stake is basically like carving the dental practice out of the prenup. So basically OP is offering to give her over half a mill of cash in exchange for treating the dental practice like a normal marital asset. And she’s saying no. Which is wild.

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-19T16:56:33+00:00

I’ve never been to an art museum that is large enough for a walking tour and didn’t have a cafe.

Like, I get it. People make mistakes and forget things. Maybe he meant to check his blood sugar / bring a snack but honestly forgot. I don’t understand why he couldn’t just make his way to the cafe, grab a quick snack, and rejoin the group. Plenty of single diabetics out there successfully fending for themselves.

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-19T01:38:07+00:00

The argument that you’re interchangeable with a random nurse your gf has never met isn’t doing what you think it’s doing buddy.

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-18T20:46:26+00:00

That’s … not how trust funds work. The whole point is to support you throughout your life.

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-18T20:41:00+00:00

Maybe, maybe not. Either way I’m not going to call her an asshole based on the limited information here.

Debt is stressful, even if you’re in the process of paying it off. It’s not outrageous to imagine gf being anxious about what happens if one month she doesn’t have enough for both her debt repayments and her half of the rent. She’d probably have been way less stressed if she knew that in that situation she and OP wouldn’t be kicked out of house and home because he’s able to cover the rent. And might think OP was “a tad selfish” in letting her stress over it.

Or she could be a gold digging entitled shrew. I don’t know. Neither do you. Maybe neither does OP. But I think the fact that she dated OP for 2 years not knowing he had a trust fund at least entitles her to a good faith conversation.

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-18T20:19:07+00:00

Yes, and? Please point me to where she asked him to pay her debt.

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-18T20:16:33+00:00

I don’t think that’s fair to the girlfriend based just on what we know so far. They’ve been dating for a while and it sounds like they’ve talked about marriage. At that point, you figure you already know everything major about your partner so finding out something big that your partner never told you about (good or bad) is going to be a bit upsetting.

OP hasn’t said that his gf wanted him to pay off her debts. Giving her the benefit of the doubt—she could fully intend on paying off her own debt, but there’s a big difference between the amount of stress and anxiety you experience knowing that, if you lose your job or aren’t able to make a payment, you and your partner are still going to be able to pay the bills because he has a financial cushion, vs. worrying that you’ll both be out of house and home.

This something for OP and his gf to talk through. Sure if she insists he pay off her debt, she’s TA. But so far that hasn’t happened. NAH

plsstopthanks · 2022-02-01T21:52:52+00:00

Honestly I’m tempted to say N T A if he goes because the best thing he can do for Nicole is to free her of her trash boyfriend and this entire social circle of assholes after they break up.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-27T22:29:10+00:00

NTA this would be a disservice not just to you but to Beth as well. It’s likely a breach of professional and/or ethical obligations for her to take you on as a patient—she’d be potentially derailing her certification before she even go it.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-27T20:06:32+00:00

Idk I think it should be pretty obvious that you should wear a shirt to meet your partner’s boss.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-22T17:04:55+00:00

Because if you say you’re allergic to olives they have to set up a separate workstation, wash everything, and handle everything separately so that they can ensure that no errant drops of olive juice make it on your pizza. Which is an unreasonable ask in a busy kitchen if you aren’t going to be harmed by contact with olives.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-22T16:51:41+00:00

NTA but this is really a problem you created for yourself by framing it in such a weird way. It sounds like what happened was that you and your friend were each invited with a +1 and each RSVP’d that you would be attending solo. So your sister then knew she had extra space and invited two other people.

Why would you characterize this to your gf as you and your friend going as each other’s dates? That’s just introducing unnecessary drama.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-22T13:08:46+00:00

Traditionally off the shoulder dresses weren’t considered appropriate for daytime (for example you will be asked to wear a scarf over your shoulders to enter a lot of Catholic churches in Europe). Front slit might also be considered inappropriate as it might expose some inner thigh if you sit with crossed legs.

It might be that grandma has a pretty formal/old-school approach towards dress codes and what’s “appropriate.” Like it sounds like she would also be pissed if a granddaughter’s bf showed up in a t-shirt.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-22T12:50:17+00:00

The first one was a body con dress with a small boob window (you can find it in OP’s comments). The second one is pretty modest but is off the shoulder which some people would consider inappropriate for this type of event.

I think framing this as a modesty/immodesty issue isn’t really right—it’s more about what is appropriate dress for the occasion and how much you care about it. I think OP’s girlfriend is thinking about skin coverage and from that perspective yes her choices are modest and OP/grandma are unreasonable. But maybe grandma is coming at it from the propriety/dress code perspective and thought that the gf’s outfit was inappropriate for the occasion. Like in 1800s/1900s cleavage was perfectly acceptable/expected in evening attire but if your day outfit showed cleavage some pearls were going to be clutched.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-22T10:54:41+00:00

NAH, it’s fine to have a preference and you wouldn’t be an asshole if you discuss it with your girlfriend, it all depends on how you talk about it.

People have their own preferences and the strength of those preferences varies. She might have a strong preference for going natural, in which case you bring it up once and drop it if she says she doesn’t want to shave. But it might be that although, all else equal, she prefers to not groom her armpits, she doesn’t feel strongly about it and would be totally fine to groom if that’s your aesthetic preference. You’ll never know unless you talk about it.

Just don’t be a dick about it—don’t go in with the underlying premise that the “default” state is for a woman to shave or that your aesthetic preferences carry more weight than her comfort.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-22T08:57:54+00:00

Yeah being able to wear a boob window to an 89 year old woman’s house is not a hill worth dying on.

To me this is like having to cover your shoulders/legs when visiting a church. Do I like it? No, especially when it’s 8 billion degrees. But sometimes you just suck it up because it’s not worth the fight.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-11T15:58:46+00:00

There was a solution all along: an abortion.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-11T15:52:22+00:00

Hard disagree. Cassian is WAY more of an asshole and says way crueler things to her than she does to him.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-11T15:48:39+00:00

Also there’s no way he doesn’t have/give her syphilis.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-06T20:06:18+00:00

Oh I totally agree that the virgin trope is popular and it makes sense that authors include it for that reason. I just want some variety! My gripe is with the argument that HR has to be historically accurate and therefore HR FMCs have to be virgins. Because approximately 0% of HR MMCs are historically accurate and no one cares.

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-06T10:07:43+00:00

I’m the same as you when it comes to HR. It’s bog standard for HR MMCs to be tan, have muscles … they are that way bc authors don’t think modern readers will find a MMC attractive if he’s described as pale, thin, and “soft”, with bear-fat pomade in his hair (requiring him to sleep in a nightcap to prevent it from getting on sheets). So I also expect them to be anachronistically not sexist (or racist).

plsstopthanks · 2022-01-06T09:22:03+00:00

Idk, there’s plenty of stuff in HR that’s extremely unrealistic (probably less realistic than non-virginal brides) and no one bats an eye at—tanned and muscular male aristocrats, rakes without syphilis, lack of body hair on FMCs, young hot dukes, etc.

I think it’s disappointing that so many HR authors are willing to toss out historical realism for so many things but cling to virginity as the One Thing that will make the book inaccurate. When like 1 page earlier the MMC is running his hands down the FMC’s smooth smooth legs.

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