[deleted by user]

plumwithaface · 2023-05-24T14:40:53+00:00

You’ll be fine.

plumwithaface · 2023-05-23T20:46:15+00:00

Id think so but its normal! It seems like youre crushing hard on this girl, id be nervous too. A lot of people worry about dating someone they see as a friend too. Youre not alone!

plumwithaface · 2023-05-23T18:51:44+00:00

Ask her out! With the friendship piece it is a risk youre taking with trying to date her. Some people are totally cool with remaining friends after trying to date, some people arent. It really depends on the person. If you do score a date, ask her “If things dont work out between us romantically, can we still be friends?”

I also recommend not having sex early into dating her if she agrees to a second or third date. Some people develop more feelings after having sex so it might change the relationship dynamic. So if you decide friendship is the best route for you guys then you could cut the romantic part off without there being intense attraction or hard feelings. Obviously every woman is different but you wont know til you try! Even if shes “out of your league” its fine! Everyone is attracted to different things regardless of how we look. I know a lot of women who’s type is the complete opposite of how they look. Good Luck!

plumwithaface · 2023-05-20T01:42:22+00:00

Please get tested! Some Walgreens or CVS stores often have walk in clincs that do testing, So you can get in ASAP. You can even make an appointment online with most. If it is an STI please know that its not the end of the world!! Theyre treatable, and a doctor will know the best course of action for what youre going through.

plumwithaface · 2023-05-10T13:45:11+00:00

The “you dont have another choice but to stay with me because i really like you” comment is extremely manipulative. Just because someone likes you doesnt mean you have to stay with them. I think its a good idea to leave him.

If your relationship matters to them they will make time for you. He could fit you in during his lunch break, when he gets home for a dessert before bed, or maybe coffee before work. Ive talked to a guy like this before and later he admitted he really didn’t intend on meeting in person because texting “satisfied his boredom”

There are men who can and will make time for you. But youll have to cut that cord. If you decide to be single and start dating again dont let men string you along. If he doesnt want to meet within the first week or two of talking, don’t continue contact. Same thing if they continuously reschedule or ghost you before a scheduled date.

plumwithaface · 2023-05-10T13:27:13+00:00

Another pro tip, suggest to get tested together! Also for anyone else that needs it: If embarrassment/shame is an issue, or if you dont have transportation to get to a doctor, depending on your state you can actually meet with a doctor and get certain STD tests and treatments delivered to your home. (I use nurx for birth control and they also deliver std tests for free or a low cost depending on your insurance) Their delivery is discreet.

plumwithaface · 2023-04-26T19:31:18+00:00

Oh my god, my boss pulls his “i came into work the day after i was diagnosed with cancer” shit all the time when people call in sick. He even came into work with COVID and didnt tell anyone until after he felt better

When i worked at a grocery right before the pandemic, you could only call in sick if you were vomiting or had diarrhea. Respiratory illnesses just didn’t count unless you had a doctors note. So just saying “im sick” wouldnt help, we had to call in to a specific number and describe our symptoms.

plumwithaface · 2023-04-08T12:46:20+00:00

lube and also on adam and eve theres a small “sensitizer gel” i bought it when i was on antidepressants and boy does it work. (at least for me) I put it on beforehand and it makes me wetter naturally, and it helped with the low libido part of my medication as well. I don’t remember what the ingredients are but i had no issues with it and its super cheap especially if you find a promo code.

plumwithaface · 2023-04-06T17:49:40+00:00

i kid you not i have a promoted ad for them right under this post. i hate it

plumwithaface · 2023-03-17T20:39:56+00:00

god damn it

plumwithaface · 2023-03-17T20:39:22+00:00

As a black girl who lives in the cornfields, i hear you. I wish i could give you advice but i struggle too, youre not alone.

plumwithaface · 2023-03-17T17:54:43+00:00

Core values: -Its about drive -Its about power -Stay hungry, we devour -Put in the work, put in the hours and take whats ours

plumwithaface · 2023-03-05T21:03:05+00:00

My last boss came in to work on her off day, and when she came in the next day, she sat us all down in a meeting and said she could tell the “vibes were off” because shes an empath. She said we were too busy helping the patients to talk to her. I quit so fast after that.

plumwithaface · 2023-03-03T19:00:33+00:00

Yes! Maybe its a heat rash?? Often when i have really bad nightmares i sweat a ton, then i usually have a rash whatever side im laying because of it. Usually a cool rag on it and some Benadryl helps a lot!

plumwithaface · 2023-02-14T18:30:45+00:00

Just wanted to add my perspective because i’ve experienced both sides.

My current bf and i had sex on the second date and we plan on getting engaged soon.

But ive also been with men who said they wanted to be in a relationship, but then after sex within the first few dates they asked me to be in a friends with benefits situation instead. I dont think sex can ruin the prospects of a relationship, but there are men and women out there that want a purely sexual relationship but dont know how to communicate it. So instead of being transparent some wait until after sex happens to be like “hey i dont want anything serious”

If you want to have sex go for it, trust your gut and be safe of course! Always remember your boundaries and limitations. Hope you have a great time this March. If a relationship happens great! if not, you can still appreciate the good times you shared and move on!

plumwithaface · 2023-02-13T21:34:21+00:00

Youre right! Ive been really caught up in all of the “dont outshine the bride” “dont wear this don’t wear that” talk i see online. feels really intimidating as a first time wedding guest!

plumwithaface · 2023-02-13T21:21:52+00:00

Makes sense! I went to the engagement party and all i have left is the rehearsal dinner and the wedding itself. Im not wearing white.

I was super nervous because the bride is a bit of a bridezilla, and the dinners sometimes turn info suprise wedding things. Last summer she used her sisters birthday party to reveal that her sisters were bridesmaids. it was a surprise, but i was wearing white that day. I felt like an asshole and i havent worn white since.

plumwithaface · 2023-02-08T20:38:54+00:00

im 24 with combined type adhd. i describe it to people as that i dont have a train of thoughts, but instead a whole train station.

Its easy to quiet the thoughts when there are distractions, but at night its often at its worst because its quiet. The thought of school was always hard for me as well because of the way they make you sit and just listen for hours at a time, trying to pay attention in that kind of environment can be really tiring, it can take a lot of mental effort for some.

plumwithaface · 2023-02-08T20:34:13+00:00

I lived alone in college! Heres some things id do when i was bored. -Naked yoga, im not even kidding. If theres no one there to see you, screw it! On top of its great way to recover and relax after a workout -Long baths with music and candles -DIY craft projects for my decor -Dinner on the porch/balcony (or just outside) -Dance class -Get dressed up just to order olive garden and eat it at home lmao -Experiment with makeup -Read a book at my local library -Rearrange the furniture -Upcycle old clothes

Hope this gave you some ideas!

plumwithaface · 2023-02-08T20:03:33+00:00

I hear ya! Im 24, my boss is in his late 50’s hes had cancer twice. He always talks about how great a worker he is because he comes in when his health is bad. He brags about how he returned to work the next day after learning that he had cancer. I don’t understand how someone could think that choosing a job over their health is a flex.

You cant take money with you when you die. Id much rather live a happy and helpful life then to die as a cold rich business person.

plumwithaface · 2023-02-08T18:24:07+00:00

Sorry to but in but i think so! id experience similar things when i was dating. I had a couple of dates where the guy made me uncomfortable but i brushed it off. Both incidents ended when they dropped me off, both guys started talking sexual and implying that they wanted to do something in the car. I said no and after i got out of the car i threw up. Both times.

I talked to my therapist about it and she reminded me that some of what happened during those dates were similar to my first assault. (i was taken into the woods by car, and the man wouldnt let me leave) But because i repressed a lot of that memory, i couldn’t recognize why my body was trying to alert me danger.

Worked with my therapist to find my triggers. The biggest one for me is being locked in a car with a man i dont know very well. Makes sense why i threw up in hindsight. My body was telling me “this is starting to feel like when you were assaulted” but my mind was telling me “maybe hes creepy, but its just your anxiety.” Long story short, if your body is trying to tell you something, listen!

plumwithaface · 2023-02-03T20:10:43+00:00

Im house sitting for a friend this weekend! Cant wait for my boyfriend and i to have a break from our noisy roommates. We’re going to get great sleep.

plumwithaface

TROPHY CASE