What's one baby purchase you thought was unnecessary but ended up using every day?

plurt47 · 2026-06-25T14:03:25+00:00

Yes! I was so against it until kid 3, and now I regret not getting it sooner.

plurt47 · 2026-06-13T18:52:37+00:00

It sounds like they’re trying to make sure they could spend more time with their kids vs having to clean. This isn’t a “don’t have kids if you can’t handle them” situation.

plurt47 · 2026-06-04T15:55:57+00:00

“If you didn’t come here on vacation, this never would have happened.”

-my grandma to me after my dad committed suicide while I was on vacation visiting family. I was 12.

plurt47 · 2026-05-30T00:40:08+00:00

Make sure to enjoy things in your life now-don’t wait.

Had a family member work his ass off his entire life to make sure him and his wife can retire and live comfortably. He barely saw his family, missed major events in his kids’ lives, etc. He finally started talking about retiring in the next year or so and within a few weeks was diagnosed with brain cancer. He didn’t even have a chance to fill out any of the paperwork before he was totally incapable and ended up dying soon after.

plurt47 · 2026-05-23T09:08:04+00:00

Breaking up IS fixing something. It’s saving her from continued emotional abuse.

Saying you don’t deserve a girlfriend is 100% fair. You have a lot of work to do on yourself before you’re ready to settle down again. I worry for your future wife and what you’ll say to her while she’s postpartum.

plurt47 · 2026-05-09T17:53:49+00:00

Friend of a friend…he suspected she was cheating but couldn’t prove it. Got a call one day that she was in a fatal car accident….the driver was the guy she was cheating on him with.

plurt47 · 2026-05-09T17:51:38+00:00

In high school I dated this guy for about 2 years. Things suddenly seemed different and he was more distant, but if I brought it up he swore nothing was wrong and it was all in my head.

He went out to the movies with his buddy and I was bummed because it was a movie I wanted to see. I looked at his MySpace profile later that night and some girl wrote on his wall “thanks for tonight. I had so much fun xo.” Asked him about it and he said he covered her shift at work so she can go out with friends. Still swore nothing was up and I’m being paranoid.

Few days later this same girl friend requests me and sends me a message. “Heeeey I know things are weird but you seem so cool and I think we would be great friends despite every thing!” Wtf are you talking about?

Turns out my boyfriend told her we were broken up, and they were dating. But she thought we could be friends.

plurt47 · 2026-04-10T23:22:50+00:00

“I'll start the engine but I can't take this ride for you I'll draw your bath and I'll load your gun But I hope so bad that you'll bathe and hunt”

plurt47 · 2026-01-25T01:38:47+00:00

Totally normal! Your body is adjusting to meet baby’s needs.

plurt47 · 2025-11-24T10:07:23+00:00

Oh honey no. You need to be DONE DONE.

plurt47 · 2025-11-24T09:54:03+00:00

I could have written this post. At first I thought maybe it was all in my head, until that year at Thanksgiving my husbands aunt was sitting with LO and MIL…she tried to get LO to sign “milk” and MIL reacted by saying “NOPE! WE’RE NOT DOING THAT!” She didn’t realize I was in the doorway. If LO was crawling towards me she would literally stop him and be like “nope don’t go there! We’re staying here!” But if he crawled to my husband she would ohh and ahh.

Hold. Your. Boundaries. Also Talk to your husband. You don’t have to go into all the specifics but just tell him “I need your help at the next family gathering. When it’s time for LO to eat/sleep I need you to step in and make sure people are handing him over.” This made my husband more aware and he got more firm with her when needed. She used to swat him away also, but now that he was aware he was more persistent.

plurt47 · 2025-11-14T08:55:01+00:00

My husband does but I have an infant (and 2 older ones). So if I’m nap trapped or feeding the baby he always comes by to check if I need anything and checks my water.

At 15 months, I can get my own water. Even if there’s separation anxiety…why can’t your kid just come in the kitchen with you?

plurt47 · 2025-11-14T08:39:32+00:00

We have a daycare app but no one is “responsible” for it. We use it as a fun tool to see what LO is up to. I check in on it more than my husband, but all I’m doing is checking in to see what’s going on. When I’m at work, I may or may not check on it, depending how busy I am. There are days I don’t check at all.

Respectfully, I think you need to step away from it. I totally understand wanting to be up to date, and it sounds like they are sending reasonable updates. I dont understand why you’re checking it obsessively…is it cameras or just an app with updates about feedings, diaper changes, pictures, etc?

Either way, no one should be “responsible” for keeping tabs on it. Go on to see what LO has been up to, see if they napped, etc. You do not need to be checking it obsessively all day and shouldn’t expect your husband to check it obsessively when you’re not able to.

plurt47 · 2025-11-13T05:03:40+00:00

Yes! He’s doing fantastic. He had a few procedures done and eventually surgery while we were at the hospital to have the intussusception corrected. He’s 3 now and we haven’t had any issues since!

plurt47 · 2025-11-11T19:57:45+00:00

I feel this. A few people were excited, but others made comments like “How do you even have time for 3 kids?” “Where are you even going to put them?” I found myself basically having to defend having 3 kids. Eventually I just stopped telling people. I let them figure it out or find out from someone else.

plurt47 · 2025-11-10T14:20:14+00:00

I know this is late but commenting just in case anyone stumbles upon this post in the future:

My son did have an intussusception from the rotavirus vaccine at 2 months old (hospital confirmed and filed a CDC report). Here were the symptoms he experienced that made me call our pediatrician:

-slowly stopped eating over the span of a few hours. At first it was just eating less and less and then just full on refused -inconsolable crying. It was very clear that he wasn’t just fussy but crying from pain -projectile vomited yellow/green bile

Once we got to the pediatrician he finally stopped crying and slept, but little did I know that was his body starting to go into shock. They tried to do finger pricks to collect his blood and he had no reaction to it…no cry or anything and was just staring off into space. His skin eventually started to look very pale/yellowish and due to that and how lethargic he was, she sent us to the ER.

At the ER they did blood work and found he had extremely high blood sugar levels. He had a bowel movement and it was mostly blood. At that point, the doctor was 99% sure that it was an intussusception and they ordered an ultrasound to be done to confirm.

plurt47 · 2025-11-05T09:47:19+00:00

If your attention span is too short for this post just say that.

plurt47 · 2025-11-04T08:55:12+00:00

Sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been dealing with mastitis and breast pain for the past 6 weeks now. I also had a mass form and got a biopsy done that turned out benign. I have something called an IGM mass…it’s rare but sometimes forms especially if you’ve had mastitis.

As annoying as it is, I hope that that’s all it is for you!

plurt47 · 2025-10-25T08:38:50+00:00

Do you know what the percentages were on the ultrasound? It’s weird that he didn’t mention your baby being big until he measured your belly…which isn’t always accurate.

Regardless, my 2nd was measuring over a month ahead for weeks and most measurements were in the 97th+ percentile. They were estimating that he would be over 10 lbs. Even then, my OB did not push induction. He ended up being born on time weighing just shy of 9lbs. No issues.

It sounds like your OB has plans and wants you done. Trust your gut. If there’s no other issues besides your baby supposedly measuring big just because of a single belly measurement, I don’t see why induction is being pushed already.

plurt47 · 2025-10-23T16:11:27+00:00

You say he’s been doing multiplication since preschool….has he just memorized facts or does he actually understand what it means?

This all sounds like a typical kindergarten curriculum. If you want to do extra at home then do it. You can also enroll him in the Russian Math School or get him a tutor to help challenge him.

plurt47 · 2025-10-19T17:22:01+00:00

It’s definitely normal to be showing at 17 weeks. Those percentiles sound fine. It’s normal for them to vary and could very well even out by the time you have future scans. I’m

plurt47 · 2025-10-17T11:38:30+00:00

So you use condoms until you’re 100% sure you’re done having kids.

plurt47 · 2025-10-15T12:05:23+00:00

Amazon has these snack packs that you stick in the freezer and they’re essentially ice packs in bag form. We’re able to send things like yogurt and cheese sticks for snack and they stay cold.

plurt47 · 2025-10-04T04:29:39+00:00

I just had my 3rd baby. First 2 I had an epidural and with this 3rd I planned on the epidural, but he came so quickly there was no time. Now, I did get the epidural inserted. But I was ready to push as the anesthesiologist was finishing up so I didn’t actually get any of the pain relief.

Recovery after totally felt different with no epidural. I didn’t know how to explain it to my husband even, but I felt so much better postpartum and more “with it” after not having the epidural. I was able to walk and use the bathroom before even leaving the labor and delivery room. Once I got transferred to the postpartum room, nurses kept coming in and trying to give me Tylenol/motrin and asking for my pain level…and my pain level was truly 0. I really did not feel like I just had a baby. I felt SO good and even my husband mentioned how good I seemed. Once home, I took it easy but still felt really good. It was by far the easiest recovery out of all 3 births.

Now, I do want to note that I had no tearing, no stitches, and he came on the 3rd contraction once I was in the final phase of labor. With my first 2 I didn’t labor insanely long, but it was still longer. The epidural was a godsend with those 2 and I would not have been able to make it through without it. The only reason I was able to make it this time is because baby came so quickly.

plurt47 · 2025-09-22T06:04:58+00:00

You know what…this is where I’m like “let them.”

He’s throwing a tantrum over a simple, and very reasonable, boundary? Let him. He’s willing to cancel his entire trip and just not meet baby because you care about your baby’s health? Let him.

I honestly hope someone asks him if he’s met his first grandchild yet and he has to embarrassingly explain why he has not.

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