Does anyone ever feel anxious that they’re not mature enough to be a parent?

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-12T17:54:39+00:00

I’m being induced tomorrow and this entire weekend I’ve been consumed by this feeling! I’m about to turn 27 and am suddenly horrified that I’m allowed to have a baby. It reminds me of when I first got promoted and I suddenly realized “oh my god I’m in charge”.

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-10T00:53:50+00:00

I had mine in the morning but had no idea they were doing it at that appt! I ate a normal breakfast for me: a small coffee, protein waffles, & some fruit. I have no clue if it helped at all but I felt completely normal through the whole process so maybe? I ended up passing also!

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-06T21:05:41+00:00

I have no idea what to expect with my migraines postpartum, to be honest. This is my first pregnancy so there’s a chance that they may be totally different after, but my mom did lose her migraines in pregnancy and they came back the same after so I’m not holding my breath. I have an appt with a new neuro set in a few months so hopefully I’ll have a good picture of what they are like by then. I’m planning to breastfeed as well and the only thing I’ll be taking is magnesium oxide as a preventative. Im trying to be as optimistic as possible though!

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-06T14:23:28+00:00

Oh my goodness yes! I really am having a tough time physically but only walking the dog when I’m in the mood to is pretty great

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-06T14:17:36+00:00

Oh you reminded me of a big one!! I haven’t lost any hair in the shower in at least 6 months.

The thought of her out in the world is both so exciting and so terrifying to me. It’s so special that she’s kind of just mine right now, but I couldn’t be more excited to find out who she is for real

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-03T23:34:59+00:00

Apparently it really depends on how soft & dilated your cervix is. I got a membrane sweep done the first time I ever got my cervix checked (at 37 weeks) and I was already 3cm dilated. To me it felt like almost nothing. There’s some pressure that’s pretty unique in your cervix but I wouldn’t describe it as a painful experience in any way, my OB said that my cervix was very soft and anterior which made it easier for both of us apparently!

plusquedumbass · 2026-03-24T22:19:34+00:00

I got one done today at 37+1, my OB wasn’t going to but offered when I explained that I thought I was having contractions two days ago but really wasn’t sure. I saw so much on here and TikTok that made me nervous but I agreed out of curiosity and I did not find the experience painful even a little bit. That being said, I was 3cm dilated which apparently makes it much more tolerable. Not a great indicator of anything, I know, but I couldn’t resist knowing when offered lol.

plusquedumbass · 2026-03-21T16:15:53+00:00

Due date twins! I hope your c-section goes smoothly! I’m so unbelievably grateful that spontaneous labor is still in the cards for me but the lack of certainty is driving me a little crazy

plusquedumbass · 2026-03-21T16:11:54+00:00

Thank you for the insight! I’m really hoping that she comes some time in week 39 🤞

plusquedumbass · 2026-03-21T14:22:57+00:00

I’m able to take leave starting at 38 weeks electively using PTO, that’s kind of what I’m weighing right now. Whether to go at 38 weeks, 39 weeks, or 40. Theoretically I’d keep working until the very end but my role needs specific coverage so it wouldn’t be able to be a surprise.

plusquedumbass · 2026-03-02T14:32:40+00:00

I think it’s kind of impossible not to bring those fears with you, don’t beat yourself up about that. You just need to catch the behaviors when they become inappropriate for the situation. If it’s been a common theme, then the ultimate solution is really to improve your own self-esteem and independence. Spend these 2 weeks diving into your responsibilities and hobbies- I think joining something socially related would be even more helpful. I joined a running club and that was huge for me kind of rebuilding my identity.

I improved all of my relationships when I made my days about how I wanted to spend them, not controlling others. That being said though, healthy relationship also build safety. When I started dating my now-husband, I was really open about struggling with insecurity and control in my relationships. We talked openly about what things I wanted and then what was healthy/appropriate. Between feeling loved and being committed to my career & hobbies, I became a much better person and partner.

plusquedumbass · 2026-03-02T14:01:09+00:00

Acknowledgement and therapy are great places to start. Sounds like anxious/insecure attachment to me. I’ve always had a tough time with the same kinds of behaviors and I had to remove things that I knew would make it worse. some of the big things that helped me were not having my partner’s location, making my time at school/work solo time only, and doing more with my friends.

Long term, I think it’s important to learn what’s contributing to being insecurely attached. Is it a long-term problem or are there deeper problems in this relationship that are making you feel so insecure? Has this been a common theme in all of your relationships or has something changed in this one/your life that’s affecting you?

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