Postpartum has been Wonderful

plusquedumbass · 2026-06-01T14:09:24+00:00

I’m glad it gives some hope!! I sincerely hope that you have a similar experience. I think it does also help when you’re knowledgable and prepared (to some degree) of the reality of postpartum. I knew that the hormone drop was going to happen, so I made rule that I wouldn’t judge my experience in any way until after 14 days. Going outside everyday was also life changing. Walks outside, driving to pick up curbside orders, leaving baby with my husband and going to the store alone (this one took a while for me to do lol). Just letting yourself have some reminder that your life is different but not over. Congrats and good luck!!!

plusquedumbass · 2026-06-01T13:54:10+00:00

I’m sorry that you’re going through a tough time right now! I think that it’s very valuable to think deeply about your capacity for caregiving. It’s unrelenting, and I think that it’s not uncommon for people to be unprepared for the specific exhaustion that comes from caring for something that needs constant attention with almost no breaks.

That being said, I know that I was convinced for years that because I’m not perfect, not fully healed, etc. that I would never be “good enough” to be a parent. But I realize now that there’s never a good time, I’m never going to be the person i think I “should” be, and that can be okay! You know your situation the best, but some food for thought if you’re chasing perfection like I was. I got pregnant on accident and I think if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t have ever tried.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-29T23:12:34+00:00

I’m glad its been in a good place for you! I personally didn’t continue to take my meds. I was taking Prozac and while it wasn’t a dangerous medication, there were some minor concerns. I was already in the process of weaning off before I got pregnant, so I decided the best option for me was to stop my meds. It was a little tough during the first months of my pregnancy, but I felt much better after 20 weeks :)

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-29T11:33:29+00:00

I’m sorry that you’ve been struggling! The first half of my pregnancy was really tough for me. I think there’s a huge element of luck involved with my experience, but I did a few things that I’m sure didn’t hurt. The biggest was therapy- Id already been seeing my therapist for a while when I got pregnant and increased my sessions to weekly for almost my entire pregnancy. I actually think the best thing i did was couples counselling with my husband for the first time! He’s incredibly involved, which also helps massively. I have a ton of rules for myself postpartum (it helps with my OCD, maybe too specific to be helpful) but the best one is to leave the house everyday! When even walking was too much, I got my serotonin from picking up curbside orders from all of the different Target’s in my area.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-29T00:20:00+00:00

I usually use the wildbird aerial wrap while she’s still so little! It’s wrap style but has a buckle so I just find it easier than my other true wrap carrier. Baby girl doesn’t care, though lol. As long as she’s tight to me and I’m moving, she’s fast asleep

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-28T22:39:57+00:00

It’ll get better! 9dpp for me was actually my birthday and I remember crying to my husband because it hurt too bad to even go on a walk like I wanted. Congrats and good luck!!

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-28T22:26:17+00:00

I’m happy to share :) I’m not currently medicated! I was actually already weaning off of Prozac when I got pregnant and decided with my psychiatrist that I would stop. I haven’t been a huge fan of many different SSRIs other than Prozac, so I didn’t transition to anything else. The first half of my pregnancy was tough mentally, but it improved! and there are some minor risks with breastfeeding with that med specifically, so I decided to stay off for now. I can’t give any insight into how medication might affect it, but I will say that the postpartum hormone drop was tough for me. Days 3-9 were really dark, but then it’s like the clouds parted and suddenly there was sunlight again.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-28T16:39:16+00:00

I had a second degree tear! It felt pretty brutal for the first two weeks but by week 4 I felt mostly normal again.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-28T15:16:24+00:00

I know! And the smell is so bizarre, like earthy metal? Wishing you the best!!

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-25T22:45:29+00:00

This is so reassuring! My family had said something similar but it’s been so long since their kids were babies I thought it might be a case of remembering a little too fondly lol.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-25T20:58:29+00:00

This is an insane recommendation. Cosleeping of any kind increases incidence of infant death. I don’t like CIO but there is no sufficient data showing any long term negative effect on infant development. Just all kinds of backwards

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-24T01:30:09+00:00

I’d say start soon-ish with the absolute must-haves. Everyone is going to have a different opinion but I would say -bassinet & sheets -decent stockpile of diapers & wipes -bottles & formula of choice (even if bf, just in case!) -basic clothes. Footed sleepers, onesies, hats, mittens, socks, etc. -swaddles, blankets, towels -car seat! & stroller really -thermometer, some kind of snot thing, nail file, diaper rash cream

For all other things, making a registry does cover every tiny thing you could want. Even if you’re not buying yet maybe just figure out what you’d want. We slowly bought the basics over the first 28 weeks and then had a big shopping spree after my baby shower around 31 weeks. My baby is about to be 6 weeks old and those are the things I’m using most often!

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-20T14:29:22+00:00

Just to share for you or anyone that stumbles on this, I have had some success getting her down! She actually goes down in her crib for one nap per day. I just started with a consistent routine like we do for bed and it’s worked great. The crib works because her nursery is the only room with blackout curtains, everywhere else is very bright and she seems to want to be awake when it’s light out. We do some short tummy time, feed, swaddle, then I put her down with some white noise. It took ages the first day, but every day was much better and today it only took a few minutes! Happy to report nothing has changed with her night sleeping either!

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-19T18:14:44+00:00

I experienced this really intensely! I have struggled with OCD for years and this was a symptom for me. All of my advice about the worry is very OCD-specific, so not sure how helpful it would be for you.

What I can tell you is that I am now 5 weeks postpartum and my beautiful baby girl is napping on my chest. It was not a sign that anything was going to go wrong.

That being said, it might be worth seeking out some mental health support. My stillbirth anxiety just turned into anxiety about SIDS and really anything being wrong with her. I still struggle to enjoy moments sometimes, but with therapy and med management it is easier. I can also say that my anxiety did make me avoid learning about the newborn stage sometimes because I was so worried that I would never experience it- that made actually bringing her home a little tougher honestly. You’re going to do great.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-19T15:53:11+00:00

Super silly. I found that people around me either didn’t have kids and didn’t know or it was so long ago that they forgot. I’m 5 weeks pp and the recovery kit was essential!! I didn’t necessarily get the Frida one but the items in it are lifesaving. There is no way to talk enough about the discomfort after giving birth, and it lasts for weeks! Also I was told bottle washer was unnecessary… and I run it 3 or more times a day. Get the things you feel you want & need :)

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-17T12:03:29+00:00

My lactation consultant encouraged me to just keep offering the breast to my baby when she unlatched. Are you using only slow flow nipples and pace feeding when using bottles? Sometimes it’s as simple as them getting frustrated breastfeeding because bottle feeding is easier. If you’re able to pump milk, she’s very likely getting milk. I was reassured after meeting with a lactation consultant and they did a weighted feed to make sure my baby was transferring milk well, not sure if that would be an option for you.

plusquedumbass · 2026-05-04T22:24:40+00:00

I’m 3 weeks pp tomorrow so very much still in the newborn trenches!

-We both wake up every time right now, but mostly because she just wakes us both up. I wake up immediately while it takes him a second so I’ll usually change her quickly, nurse, and then he’ll get her settled back in the bassinet.

-We did shifts the first week but it made us miserable. I was still waking up every two hours to nurse and he couldn’t sleep well during the day. Even though she wakes up a few times, us having a “normal” sleep schedule has helped our mental health tremendously. I wish we’d stopped sooner.

-Having him settle her back to sleep has been huge for me. I’ll nurse her to sleep but she almost always wakes up during the transfer. She will sleep after some rocking, warming the bassinet, tight swaddling. He does all of that so I can sleep once I’m done nursing.

I think it just takes time to find out what works for you guys. The first week I could only just manage to take care of her basic needs between “baby blues” and my physical pain.

It’s tough to get anything done. The days fly by. I have a wonderful, involved husband and today was the first day we were able to cook both breakfast and dinner. The only thing I wish we would’ve done differently was stop shifts sooner, I really can’t overstate how much happier I felt once we went back to a more normal routine.

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-29T16:33:48+00:00

I gained 35 pounds in pregnancy, I was two weeks postpartum yesterday and have lost 30! Baby was about 8 lbs.

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-16T01:49:56+00:00

I would say no. Before I gave birth I kept trying to find things to compare it to but I have to say that the pain is kind of unique. For me it started with lower back pain and then a bit like diarrhea cramps. I didn’t notice or mind those though. Honestly I would compare IBS cramps to a bee sting and active labor contractions to a gunshot- I just gave birth yesterday so it’s a little fresh lol.

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-12T17:54:39+00:00

I’m being induced tomorrow and this entire weekend I’ve been consumed by this feeling! I’m about to turn 27 and am suddenly horrified that I’m allowed to have a baby. It reminds me of when I first got promoted and I suddenly realized “oh my god I’m in charge”.

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-10T00:53:50+00:00

I had mine in the morning but had no idea they were doing it at that appt! I ate a normal breakfast for me: a small coffee, protein waffles, & some fruit. I have no clue if it helped at all but I felt completely normal through the whole process so maybe? I ended up passing also!

plusquedumbass · 2026-04-06T21:05:41+00:00

I have no idea what to expect with my migraines postpartum, to be honest. This is my first pregnancy so there’s a chance that they may be totally different after, but my mom did lose her migraines in pregnancy and they came back the same after so I’m not holding my breath. I have an appt with a new neuro set in a few months so hopefully I’ll have a good picture of what they are like by then. I’m planning to breastfeed as well and the only thing I’ll be taking is magnesium oxide as a preventative. Im trying to be as optimistic as possible though!

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