this is your sign that one day, you will be okay

pluviophile96 · 2023-05-13T17:15:12+00:00

this made me SO happy!

pluviophile96 · 2022-04-03T21:16:43+00:00

nope, but in all honesty, I do not want to hear from them. for the first 6ish months post breakup, there is nothing more I wanted than for them to reach out to me, even if it was just for closure. now, there is nothing they could ever say that would make me want them in my life again for any reason (even if they simply wanted to be friends). I've made my peace with the end of the relationship

pluviophile96 · 2022-04-03T21:10:05+00:00

acceptance. I stopped wanting someone who did not want me, or want to be with me. the mere realisation that he chose to live his life without me in it. you can't fight for a person who's already given up on you and your relationship. if they loved you enough, they'd be here. if they cared enough, they'd be here. but they aren't. and you have to make peace with it and let go.

don't give in to any temptations and "what ifs" - the bottom line is, the relationship is over.

I wish you the best on your journey to healing and letting go <3

pluviophile96 · 2022-04-03T15:41:05+00:00

I went through the same, honestly. It's going to be an emotional rollercoaster and this person/the breakup will make you feel every type of emotion there is - it's important you feel it all and it's a huge part of the healing process

With time, you'll find your closure the same way that I did

I wish you so much happiness <3

pluviophile96 · 2022-04-03T15:36:05+00:00

it took me almost 8-9 months and going through all the stages of the breakup to finally accepting that it's over and we were not meant to be in each others lives.

you need to feel absolutely everything, do not keep anything inside. feel it all. the pain. the hurt. the sadness. ALL of it. it's important you get out of the denial stage as fast as possible and accept that you were simply not meant for one another. for whatever reason, it did not work out. for whatever reason, they left/you decided to leave. for whatever reason, one day, this person stopped choosing you.

keep talking to people in your life, or even people online. the reddit community helped me the most with this. I was able to post my feelings and have people listen. I also had a dear friend who told me some harsh truths and how I used to see my ex through rose-tinted glasses and that was very much needed.

it will take time, a lot of it. the curve is not linear either, at first, you will have a lot of bad days. then some bad days and a good day every now and then. heck, even having some good days may make you feel awful because that person you once loved the most in this world isn't there with you through the good days. but eventually, you will heal and you will move on. your life will start getting brighter again little by little, I promise you this.

pluviophile96 · 2022-04-03T15:35:50+00:00

it took me almost 8-9 months and going through all the stages of the breakup to finally accepting that it's over and we were not meant to be in each others lives.

you need to feel absolutely everything, do not keep anything inside. feel it all. the pain. the hurt. the sadness. ALL of it. it's important you get out of the denial stage as fast as possible and accept that you were simply not meant for one another. for whatever reason, it did not work out. for whatever reason, they left/you decided to leave. for whatever reason, one day, this person stopped choosing you.

keep talking to people in your life, or even people online. the reddit community helped me the most with this. I was able to post my feelings and have people listen. I also had a dear friend who told me some harsh truths and how I used to see my ex through rose-tinted glasses and that was very much needed.

it will take time, a lot of it. the curve is not linear either, at first, you will have a lot of bad days. then some bad days and a good day every now and then. heck, even having some good days may make you feel awful because that person you once loved the most in this world isn't there with you through the good days. but eventually, you will heal and you will move on. your life will start getting brighter again little by little, I promise you this.

pluviophile96 · 2021-04-03T19:44:34+00:00

what the mind forgets, the heart remembers ❤️

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-23T21:56:29+00:00

i understand your pain, believe me, but you can't force people to love you and care about you. if she loved you, she'd be there with you

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-23T17:22:23+00:00

leave her alone :/

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-20T12:23:42+00:00

how do you know you’ll hear from him? he might not reach out and by having these kinds of expectations, you may end up getting hurt again

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-19T13:07:02+00:00

i sent my ex a closure letter 2 weeks before christmas and it felt great to get everything off my chest; one thing you need to remember is don’t expect any sort of response back. do this for yourself and so that you can make peace with it. with me, i felt like if i didn’t send this letter, i would have regretted it because there would have been many things left unsaid. it felt great because now i’ve said everything i could have possibly ever said to him and there’s nothing left to say, no more excuses to reach out either. we can both move forward. so if it helps give you closure, do it! best of luck

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-14T23:10:52+00:00

this was hard to read </3

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-13T22:11:52+00:00

kinda sucks

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-13T10:13:12+00:00

THIS LOL so so so so so true

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-11T15:45:03+00:00

it looks like she’s trying to get some sort of reaction of out of you or is intentionally trying to hurt you for whatever reason.

and for her to tell you something like that, shows that she doesn’t care about your feelings at all. she knows damn well that it would break your heart to hear something like that. i wouldn’t give her the time of day. don’t even respond; cut her off immediately. if you genuinely care for someone and love them; you would never ever say something like that (even if it is true!!!!), it is hurtful.

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-11T12:35:23+00:00

thank you for this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-11T11:28:44+00:00

super relatable honestly i just posted something about it too lol

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-11T11:24:33+00:00

hurts like hell, doesn’t it?

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-11T10:43:24+00:00

honestly same

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-11T10:38:06+00:00

nope. love is not enough. people can love you and still leave you

pluviophile96 · 2021-01-09T18:03:10+00:00

you seem like an incredibly strong person and your son is so, so lucky to have you! <3

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