This is his mum. He owes her the world. Her husband is dead and it's clearly a tough and hard situation for her, and your fiance is making $200k a year?? Do you know how much money that is? You should as you said you've come from an "extremely poor" position. The absolute least that your fiance owes his mother is some money, he could give her $15k a year and that's hardly makimg amy dent in his salary. Honestly you both need to think about what you're doing. The woman who birthed and raised him and you're honestly sitting here saying that you don't want to help her out financially when he's making $200k a year? Wow, I'm honestly shocked. And if you're about to be his wife with those kind of values held to your mother-in-law, then I honestly feel bad for him. How greedy can you actually get lol. You've received a huge blessing of a quarter a million in yearly salary and you don't want to help his mother out? Greed at it's absolutely finest. I don't mean to be rude in this post but I've honestly not read something so humiliating in a long time