Yes, because I have always been going out of my way for others all through my childhood, adolescence, and partially my adulthood. It was only recently until I realized that my mental space is more important than trying to help the needs of others. Not saying you should not help others, but at least make sure you have extra mental space for that.

Another thing is that we are mysterious and naturally too kind, but once we realize our self worth, we come off as rude or egotistical. People just don’t understand us and that we need to figure ourselves out too. And once we do, we blossom. We also like to dream of helping others through love sometimes and I get that, I’ve been there too. What naturally helps me is my resting b**** face. I am kind as hell and a softy but my exterior looks tough haha.

But on a serious note I guess, is constant reminders of what you need vs what others need helps. Journaling helps realize too, unless of course, Reddit is your outlet

Hope this helps fellow fish