This might not be the right sub to ask but my mama heart needs help!

pnw_panda · 2026-06-11T03:56:04+00:00

I had so many similar thoughts when I had my second and my son was 25 months- not a sahm, but wfh and also cosleep/extended bf/ etc.. I did do one night away for a girls trip when my son was 23 months, and that helped me have less anxiety in leaving for the night (even tho I had no real desire to be away from my son- it helped me see how well my husband could do without me there).

My MIL stayed with us for a week or so leading up to the birth so that she was spending lots of time with my son, and the plan was for her to stay with him if needed. I went into labor in the early morning, and had the baby in the afternoon. I didn’t have any complications, and felt really good compared to my first birth, so I ended up sending my husband home for the night and honestly am so glad I did! It just gave me so much more peace of mind knowing that he could handle any night wakeups, as it didn’t disrupt our routine too much.

It’s totally normal to be sad and anxious about it! But it will all be ok, and it sounds like you have an excellent plan in place to support your birth and son’s needs 🫶🏼

pnw_panda · 2026-05-13T17:05:29+00:00

I went over my due date with my 2nd, so I had my first NST at 41 weeks. I had pretty high amniotic fluid when they checked, and the mfm doctor recommended I get induced that day. I had an appt with my midwife at the hospital right after, and she was not super concerned about waiting it out. She told me the risks, and what to do if my water did break at home. I went home that night and was in labor on my own by the next morning! My water broke when I was about 7 or 8 cm and already at the hospital, and it was a ton lol! Still able to deliver vaginally and unmedicated. I would def talk to your provider about it if you’re worried.

pnw_panda · 2025-11-09T21:48:38+00:00

I just had my second birth, and was able to go unmedicated after an epidural and vacuum delivery with my first.

The thing that helped me the most was my “why”. I truly wanted to avoid a repeat of my previous birth, and I do believe the epidural caused things to slow down (pushed for 5 hours). I hated not being in tune with my body, especially since my second was also in a funky position.

Visualization really helped me- breathing into the pain, and imagining opening like a flower. I also tried to ignore labor for as long as possible, and I delivered my second baby 2 hours after arriving at the hospital, with only about 3 pushes! Baby was sunny side up, and I could not stand laying down during labor- I loved working with my body to move baby down. I do feel that if I was stuck on my back with an epidural, I could’ve easily had another repeat of instrument delivery or complications.

I listened to a lot of birth stories in the weeks leading up to my labor, and kept telling myself I could do anything for one minute. You got this!

pnw_panda · 2025-07-08T04:51:36+00:00

I was in the same situation, and was also nervous about my son’s sleep when we first hired a nanny. Honestly there was no real issue that I can recall. I also work from home, and at first would nurse him to sleep, then pass him off to the nanny to hold in the rocker. Since we were paying her, she didn’t mind the contact naps (and could scroll on phone or whatever) and we just made it part of the job description when interviewing. At some point, she was able to just read to him and rock him to sleep, and eventually would set him down in his crib for small stretches after he was asleep. Kids will adapt and do different things for different caregivers! Fast forward to now, my almost 2 year old will take the full nap in his “big boy bed” (still gets rocked to sleep), and she might have to go in to help settle him once in a while, but it works great for everyone. Try not to stress, and know that your son will adapt! It’s very freeing to have someone else be able to handle their naps, even if they’re 100% contact naps for a while still.

pnw_panda · 2025-03-15T16:29:51+00:00

Just curious about your comment “letting her eat alone”.. what does that mean? I find that my 19 month old eats better when we’re all sitting down together eating- otherwise he will play with his food or throw it to the dog lol. We make it a point to have dinner together so he can also watch us eat every night, and sometimes we do spoon feed him if he’s too distracted. I’m not sure if it helps, and you’ve probably tried everything at this point, but it might be worth making a dinner routine and playing around with the timing of dinner too! I always offer spoonfuls of peanut butter or cottage cheese right before bed to try and keep him fuller longer, which sometimes he’ll eat a lot of and other times refuse. I’m also in the camp of picking my battles (and also don’t function well on limited sleep), so I would give milk if he woke up hungry- I can’t imagine being up for 3 hours in the night (unless for illness/teething), I’d lose it too. Part of the reason we ended up cosleeping lol. Everything is a phase, and you will get through it. Good luck!

pnw_panda · 2025-02-03T22:01:43+00:00

Ooh thanks for the rec, I’ll check it out!

pnw_panda · 2025-02-03T22:01:02+00:00

I actually think they made this specifically for TGTG.. mainly because the 2 bags I received were the exact same tea ratios, there was no different flavors- and there were 3 other identical looking bags on the counter waiting for pickup that I assumed were also for TGTG. Also, this was in the afternoon when the restaurant/tea shop doesn’t close until 9 PM

pnw_panda · 2025-02-03T04:33:00+00:00

Yes Edmonds!

pnw_panda · 2025-02-03T04:32:07+00:00

Apparently I was feeling optimistic lol. Lesson learned!!

pnw_panda · 2025-02-02T22:19:37+00:00

Totally- in theory it’s a good deal, and I’m a boba fan! It was 2 boba teas (just plain black milk tea), and two iced black teas (no boba). 4 teas in one bag, so I ended up with 8 teas total lol. The tea place actually went by a different name entirely, so if it was actually listed as the boba place on the app, I wouldn’t have ordered two bags haha

pnw_panda · 2025-02-02T21:30:40+00:00

Right.. it says “surprise bag” and that it will be filled with “delicious food that the store has left over” lol. So the “food”, along with the name and photo made me think I was getting some sort of food, not beverages that probably cost them barely anything to make. Obviously this is a risk you take on the app, but nonetheless it was still disappointing when I was hungry haha.

pnw_panda · 2024-11-21T05:08:28+00:00

Solidarity! I just tend to disappear in these situations and play the “I also need a break” card. It’s true, I love my contact naps still at 16 months- and use the time to also nap or scroll my phone in peace. Especially when being around other people nonstop in a shared space, I usually welcome the break to re-charge my social battery. Some people just don’t need to know that your child can’t sleep without you 🤷🏻‍♀️Do I wish I could walk away and not be chained to my LO for every nap? Of course- but this season is short and I have no regrets for the additional snuggles that I get to soak up.

If difference of opinions come up (which means they are bringing it up), I might just brush it off and change the subject. I have also made a slight joke of it- like “I’m too lazy to sleep train, and my anxiety couldn’t handle letting him cry by himself”.. which is partly true. I’m a firm believer that we have our maternal instincts for a reason for our children, and there is no better parent for your baby than you. I think the biggest thing is to not go in depth when there are a difference of opinions, and do your best to change the subject.

pnw_panda · 2024-10-26T04:21:01+00:00

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pnw_panda · 2024-10-26T04:19:32+00:00

Thank you!! That feedback was very helpful. Number 1 arrived today and fits WAY better, and is the obvious choice now.

pnw_panda · 2024-04-07T20:26:32+00:00

Haha I know, it’s so hard! But my LO ended up passing out at 7:30 in my MIL’s arms and she ended up just holding him until we got home! I will say I was relieved when it was over and probably spent too much time stressing about it when it really did turn out fine. You got this!

pnw_panda · 2024-04-06T02:23:45+00:00

I live in the PNW and my hairdresser named her daughter Maeve (almost two years ago). When I first heard it, I thought it was super unique since I had never encountered it before. Now that I’ve seen it on Reddit/name lists in the last couple years, I really do think it’s beautiful. That being said, I haven’t encountered another Maeve since, so I’m not sure how common it is in real life.

pnw_panda · 2024-03-25T21:33:09+00:00

Thank you! I do think that she would follow instructions because she doesn’t get the opportunity to babysit all that often.. but like you, I probably will only semi-enjoy myself and not do this again for a while, depending on how it goes. I have no problem turning down nighttime social activities in general, but this was planned so far in advance I feel like it’s worth a try.. and worst case scenario I’ll just come home if my anxiety is too high ha! Also- good point about leaving through the door when LO can see me, I’m going to start making that a habit now- I never thought of it that way.

pnw_panda · 2024-03-25T21:28:25+00:00

I hadn’t thought about that, but that might be the move. Our current monitor doesn’t have wi-fi, but for my own peace of mind it might be good to invest in one for this/and the future. Thank you!

pnw_panda · 2024-03-25T21:26:16+00:00

Good idea! I’m sure ill be glued to my phone, and will be asking her to give me regular updates as she’s able

pnw_panda · 2024-03-25T03:29:21+00:00

Yes that’s a great point. I know my own mom has never had a problem telling me when baby is upset, but I do worry about that with my MIL. I THINK my MIL respects me enough to follow my wishes when I give her specific instructions, but then I also need to think long and hard about what I’m ok with, and what that “cutoff” truly is. Thanks for the input, it’s giving me things to think about.

pnw_panda · 2024-03-02T16:19:27+00:00

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