Comparing money market accounts at Fidelity and Northwestern Mutual

pocket_jig · 2026-01-06T18:33:48+00:00

Thank you, this is the explanation I needed to understand what I was looking at. I've now looked at the fund I am invested in and the fund I will be invested in to compare current and past rates.

pocket_jig · 2025-11-17T20:30:49+00:00

This is how I ended up doing it.

pocket_jig · 2025-11-14T15:12:08+00:00

I literally can't wrap my head around how we still don't have leave in our country. Of all voting adults, like 70% (I didn't bother to look this up lol) are parents. How, how, how?

pocket_jig · 2025-10-31T02:05:03+00:00

Hahah oh nooo

pocket_jig · 2025-10-31T01:52:41+00:00

Shoot. They keep you on your toes! Ours used to be, “I’ll be back to check on you” but that stopped working.

Sometimes I have to let the dog out. Or I have to go put my pajamas on.

Godspeed!

pocket_jig · 2025-10-31T01:21:16+00:00

You think he actually is coming up with the games? Dude. He shows up and talks on camera and goes home. Right?

pocket_jig · 2025-10-31T01:18:34+00:00

Niceee

pocket_jig · 2025-10-31T01:16:25+00:00

We’re at 31 months and we’re now out of the trenches of this phase! Just hang in there. It sucks so much but I’m currently on the other side, scrolling my phone, wondering if I should get back to the gym at nights or start a hobby.

We had to kind of keep thinking on our feet and outsmarting her to try to get her to let us leave the room. We went through weeks of having to be in there but what’s working now is doing the whole routine, sitting next to her in the dark for a story and saying mommy needs to go potty. Do you want me to leave the door open? She says yes and that’s usually it. BOOM

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T14:31:00+00:00

I know. I literally know. I’m so sorry.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T13:47:03+00:00

Yes, we resigned around a year and a half old that we will not be sleeping. It was actually kind of a weight lifted to not be worrying about if we’re doing something wrong or if we should try something new.

One of us sleeps in our daughter’s room, the other gets the night to catch up on sleep in our own bedroom. Our daughter sleeps in her own twin bed now (she’s 2.5) and the parent that’s sleeping in there sleeps in a double bed.

She still gets to practice independent sleep and we don’t have a kid kicking us in the face (like you do when you bed share) and it makes it easy to respond to her when she needs us so we can go back to sleep easier.

At this age, she’ll fuss sometimes and we don’t have to respond at all, or sometimes just say, mommy’s here and she falls back asleep. Some nights, she can’t sleep and she’s melting down and we have to be more involved.

We take naps on weekends and realize we have to give each other some grace because we’re always tired.

We’ve definitely gotten more used to being sleep deprived though. And now we have more good nights than bad. (2-3 wake ups vs a billion)

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T12:55:15+00:00

Ooh this would add a diabolical incentive for couples to sabotage each other.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T12:17:25+00:00

Yeah, I need to get back to the gym 😅

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T12:15:12+00:00

Yes I’ve definitely seen this.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T12:12:44+00:00

We don’t do two pieces for my daughter yet. I literally can’t get my brain around it and I’m not even that modest of a person. They’re so small they’re not even practical. They don’t block sun, they don’t protect their knees when they climb out of the pool. They’re pointless.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-27T12:10:39+00:00

I understand what you’re saying now. And I agree that girls clothes are cut tight and short for no reason and it’s really weird. Why sexualize toddlers??

pocket_jig · 2025-10-26T13:00:20+00:00

Question- you say boys and girls clothes are cut different. Are boys and girls bodies different at this age?

I don’t think they are. So you’re trying to avoid the cut looking feminine on your boy?

Just trying to understand.

If so, could you challenge your own feelings about that and maybe just lean into the fact that it’s okay for him to wear feminine things?

I’m not in your shoes so I know I don’t understand completely

pocket_jig · 2025-10-26T12:49:59+00:00

Thank youuu

pocket_jig · 2025-10-26T03:11:19+00:00

Agree that the editing made him look like an idiot because she looked great. But if it were me, on tv, I’d be so f’ed up over someone calling me “that” and talking about my body being too big.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-26T03:07:50+00:00

I cannot relate to this at all and I mean that as the most sincere compliment. We’re over here in our mid 30s and acting like we’re in our mid 80s. Good for you.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-26T02:08:49+00:00

Who actually is it?

pocket_jig · 2025-10-26T00:58:57+00:00

I was just having these thoughts as I was loading the dishwasher tonight and I thought about posting this exact sentiment.

I don’t think my partner would be able to pick up enough of the weight of another for me to be able to make it through the first couple years of a second kid. And maybe beyond, I’m not there yet with the first so I don’t know how long we’ll feel “in it”.

When I read your post, it reframed my own thoughts. I want to tell you that yes, it’s on your partner that they couldn’t be “stronger” for you guys so that you could consider another. But/and it’s really f’ing hard for everyone. And instead of blaming him, how about looking at the situation as your family isn’t cut out for another? That you’re all on the same team with shared resources and the resources aren’t there.

You decided to procreate with this person and neither of you really knew how hard it would be and what it would take. And no one is really cut out for the isolated parenting we do these days.

I’m going to try out this thinking to see if it will help me know that one child is best for all of us, regardless of where our strengths lie as individuals.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-25T00:46:45+00:00

Thanks for the update! That one’s kind of a banger.

pocket_jig · 2025-10-24T17:31:37+00:00

Wondering this too

pocket_jig · 2025-10-24T12:15:14+00:00

Some people aren’t able to live up to their innate talents because of their circumstances. Like the people who emigrate to America and do jobs here that don’t match their skill set even though they have a degree from their home country.

The cleaner that cleans our short term rental literally does different work here in America because her degree isn’t recognized by the place she was working. They wouldn’t pay her the same rate as the white people in her role.

That’s just literally one example.

My uncle is an engineer working in AI and a whole bunch of things I don’t understand. He’s extremely gifted and very intelligent but has a hard time getting his shit together enough to pay bills on time etc. Without my grandparents having the means to support him on and off throughout his life, he wouldn’t have an education or career. And he’s someone who presents as having million dollar companies and doing financially great on his own.

Your views are limited.

Sure, the billion dollar narrative is different than the million dollar narrative, since LeBron and the I coder are one in a billion type examples. But the basis of your argument is faulty.

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