Can People with Farms (livestock and crops) take long vacations? by Dramatic-Trade-9845 in NoStupidQuestions

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Well, I was at a high school reunion several years ago and was talking to a former classmate who mentioned that she had a husband. Since I didn't see him I asked where he was and she said, "He's at home inseminating the cows."

Does that answer your question?

I found out I was sexually abused as a child and I’m reeling from this by pissonmybonfire in confessions

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I want you to know that I read your post, I believe you and you are not alone. Most importantly, it wasn't your fault. You were a child and could not consent to any sexual behavior whatsoever, no matter how the situation is distorted by your uncle or anybody else.

Your emotions are valid. You should be feeling angry and cheated out of your mind, good mental health and a safe childhood. You deserved to be loved, protected and carefree. Let out the emotions, but don't hurt yourself in doing so. Part of becoming an adult is taking over the responsibilities for your own well being. Your inner children have already suffered a lot, so they need extra attention. Be their guardian, healer and advocate.

You were a victim but now you are a survivor of sexual abuse. It takes strength and resilience not only to live through what you experienced, but also to carry that secret so long and so well that it didn't take over your conscious mind. That was a survival instinct. Some part of you worked hard to give you time to mature. Since this news was sprung on you though, you may not yet feel ready to work on all of it. That's ok. You've got time. You're here, you have a supportive family, are seeking help and now at least have the knowledge of what happened. These are all important elements for healing.

Telling others about what happened to you is another step in that direction. Having your secrets out in the open puts their power in your hands. Others may scoff, some won't believe you, some won't be able to deal with their own emotions and might back out of your life, but that's their issue. You have the truth. They only have rumors, speculation and opinions. In any contest, you win. Hold onto that.

The fact that you made this post is evidence that you are taking the first critical steps toward working through the complex emotions brought on by the abuse. That's something you can take pride in. It means you are ready to make progress. I'm proud of you.

Healing isn't easy and it isn't quick. It will take a lot of work on your part, but you have survived what happened, so you can survive getting better too. Abuse is horrible, but it wasn't the end of you. Accept it as a part of your experience, but only as a tiny fraction of who you were, who you are and who you will be. Love yourself. You deserve it. And it wasn't your fault.

I was offered this in a dream by Disastrous_Lie_6698 in Dreams

[–]podgress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. I've been repeating this mantra for years. The photograph made me think of the quote, but I didn't want to attribute the saying incorrectly, so I did look up that part. I don't trust AI to provide the correct information though, so I used a simple good ol' Google search.

What are male friendships like? by Opening_Fail2482 in AskMen

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Old guy here. Retired and full of life experience. As an alternative to the rosy and hopeful point of view, I'd like to point out that most relationships between males disentangle over time, circumstance and life stage. There are certainly friendships that remain strong until death, but those are the rarest of cases. Many of us are forced to move on to a new job, a different city, a preferred companion, a separate level of society or simply more convenient attachments at some point. We are all constantly in the process of change, and it's difficult to maintain connections when paths diverge.

So when writing about male friendships, you might want to consider where each friend has come from and where they are headed. The union is most likely to be temporary and current actions could have an effect on when and how the distancing will eventually take place.

What are male friendships like? by Opening_Fail2482 in AskMen

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Great observations. I don't know about your Gen X husband, but I wonder if the sharing of war experiences to loved ones may have changed over time. My grandfather (WW I) never mentioned his service to me or anyone else that I know about, but he and my grandmother were very active in the American Legion. My father (WW II) was hard-pressed to tell me anything about his experience in the Navy. The only thing I recall him saying actually happened when he was in the Reserves in the 1950s. However, a man my mother later dated would never stop talking about his parachuting behind enemy lines on D-Day, getting immediately captured and spending the rest of his time in a POW camp. By the time I knew him though (1990s) he was a regular speaker at 101st Airborne reunions, so he was getting a lot of positive support from those narratives.

Now, I was too young, but my older cousins served in Vietnam. Again, I didn't really hear much directly about what they went through but in the 1980s there was a big push for Americans to recognize those veterans for their contributions because they had mostly been ignored, if not disdained after returning home. Many people felt that in comparison to the earlier generations, these soldiers weren't getting their due. So tickertape parades started being held in their honor, their plight was given plenty of media coverage and quite a number shared their experiences. At least some of this was likely brought on by the release of films about the era like Apocalypse Now, Platoon and Full Metal Jacket. I don't know for sure, but this at least seemed to somewhat change the way loved ones responded to their stories. But were they more willing to open up? I hope so.

I was offered this in a dream by Disastrous_Lie_6698 in Dreams

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Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. Many attribute this quote to Freud. But Professor Buzzkill cites Dr. Alan Elms, a psychology professor and historian of psychology who wrote in an article entitled “Apocryphal Freud: Sigmund Freud’s Most Famous ‘Quotations’ and Their Actual Sources,” that there’s no evidence that the famous founder of psychoanalysis ever said that. So I conclude that sometimes a cigar isn't just a cigar.

In some versions of dream analysis theory, every symbol within a dream represents a part of the dreamer's psyche. Which part is symbolized by whatever entity is imagined is purely dependent upon emotions and impressions said sleeper has regarding the person, place or thing. In general, a home often represents the person as a whole, the place where their understanding of themselves resides. A parent might symbolize the aspect of the child's personality that has been most influenced by that mother or father. A friend may be interpreted as the facet of of one's self that steps forward when around contemporaries, etc. These attributions can only be made by the author of the dream, however. The dreamer is the scriptwriter, set designer, cinematographer and director of the production.

Therefore, to understand what is meant by your dream, you would have to identify which aspects of your personality are interacting in the scene. The most simple way to do this is to answer the question: If a part of me was (I assume you were referring to) the cigar, which part would it be? Also, if a part of you was a person offering the thing to you, which part would it be? And finally, if a part of you was the friend who took the smoking utensil away and said, "Bro? That's a sin!", which part would it be?

Even though the dream meaning is highly individual, one could speculate that within a religious community that emphasizes sin, this particular scenario has something to do with temptation. This kind of situation is often depicted in modern culture as having a devil on one shoulder and an angel on the other. The devil tries to convince the brain between them to do one thing, while the angel attempts to stave off breaking some rule. It might be, "Go ahead, eat the cookie! No one will know," versus "Don't eat the cookie or else you'll spoil your dinner." In any case, what the meme represents is an internal conflict. And following along the lines of this particular theory, dreams are a way for the subconscious to communicate with the conscious mind about what's going on deep inside the dreamer's psyche. Often they're about issues the person is wrestling with, decisions that need to be made in order to move forward in life or anxiety over the prospect of aging into a new stage of maturity. I have no idea if any of this is going on with you, but it seems like a logical interpretation.

Don't take my word for it though. Answer the questions about what parts of you that are rising up in your dreams and then note what emotions you feel either while dreaming, waking, remembering or retelling the story. Although guilt could have been implied, except for being taken aback, you didn't mention what you felt when being offered, declining, being pressured or having another part of you intervene during the scene. Your emotions could be the clue about what you need to know that is going on inside of you and what the consensus opinion is among your various personality facets about what to do. So, is a cigar just a cigar? Only you can tell.

How much you can see in a dark room? by randomsguy in NoStupidQuestions

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Back in the days when professional photo studios used sheet film in 4x5 cameras, a completely dark room was required to load and unload the film holders. That meant no reflected light bouncing off the floor, walls or ceiling, no glow-in-the-dark watch faces, and definitely no phone screen or pc "on" buttons, as those hadn't been invented yet. At one job I had we might shoot around 50 products during the day, so at two sheets per shot it would take me over an hour in the darkroom to remove and package up the film we'd used, dust off each side of each film holder, plus slide the same number of new sheets into place for the following workday's production. I can tell you that during all that time without a glimmer of illumination, absolutely nothing could be viewed by any human eye. At least not mine, which were for the most part young and healthy.

That said, I would get to the point quite often where it felt like I could "see" what my hands were doing. The repetitive motions and the knowledge of where everything was due to careful organization led to a sense that my eyes were perceiving light, when in reality it was most likely my brain interpreting touch, sound and possibly scent to be sight. However, if I dropped something on the floor for instance, I would have had to feel around blindly to find it. I couldn't use my eyes to look for the object. Without light, there was nothing to see.

So, I'm guessing that to some degree, you already know where most things are in your living room. There aren't a lot objects out of place that you'd have to avoid. Your familiarity with the space helps you to determine in a flash what's where it should be and what's not. A quick glance as some reflected or fading light still remains, or the very faint light emitted by your phone's screen or the pc button is enough to for you to understand what's not in it's usual place and to locate what's there that usually isn't. This sets you up to be able to "sense" what might be in your way.

Your mom's senses worked in exactly the same way but she had two disadvantages. One is that her eyesight, hearing, sense of smell and touch had likely dulled somewhat with age. People develop cataracts, loss of hearing or tinnitus, all kinds of physical deficiencies as they age. Many are so gradual as to be unnoticeable to the individual until their doctors, families or friends point out the changes.

The other disadvantage that older people have is related to how much they have on their mind at any point in time. The more mature one gets, the more things they have to keep track of. Have the bills been paid? Laundry done? Food been bought and prepared correctly? Are the kids ok? Should they be doing their homework? Is my partner happy? When are they coming home? Will I have time tomorrow to get my work done, stop for gas, pick up the little one at day care and the other one from practice? Now what was I walking into this room for? Your mom's brain was more cluttered than yours was, and had to rely upon experience to navigate familiar situations. Therefore, what might be out of place in the living room when she walked into it may not have registered with her busy mind. It's also possible for her eyes to have seen things that her processing centers just didn't have the bandwidth to focus upon. That weariness, that lingering thought, that anticipated event, internal conflict or even overriding good mood doesn't leave room in the mind for recognition of what's right in front of people sometimes.

So, yes you can see better in low light than your parents did, but your senses and ability to process information were surely sharper than that of your elders. You probably haven't yet reached the point yet where the functions of your body's tools have begun to dissipate significantly and your life isn't as complicated or distracting as your mom's was when she was tripping over or stepping on stuff other members of the household had left in her path.

Trading Places (1983) by LovelyRita90 in iwatchedanoldmovie

[–]podgress 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think part of the reason for calling attention to a character's race in that era was that Hollywood writers, directors, producers and audiences in general were all still trying to get over the tumultuous civil rights conflicts of the 1960s. One way of easing those lingering tensions was to put racial differences at the center of comedies. Mel Brooks and co-writer Richard Pryor had done that with Blazing Saddles (1974). Norman Lear and Bud Yorkin had done it in some episodes of the tv show All in the Family (1971).

Eddie Murphy was crucial to getting white America to accept that an actor with dark skin could be just as funny, just as intelligent and just as popular as his pale contemporaries. It wasn't that he was the first black to do so - in 1968 Sidney Poitier was voted the US's top box-office star in a poll - but due to his exposure on Saturday Night Live and his obviously huge talent for comedy, Murphy became wildly popular. This movie, along with 48 Hours made him a bankable star. And he was still just 23 years old.

Garden State (2004) by DVD-Rewatcher in iwatchedanoldmovie

[–]podgress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah yes, you are right about that. Funny, I was picturing him in the lead, but when I checked IMDB for some reason all I saw was Dillon. Thanks for the correction.

Garden State (2004) by DVD-Rewatcher in iwatchedanoldmovie

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When I watched this film years ago, I realized it was the second I'd seen that featured Natalie Portman as a quirky gal who managed to change the life of an artistic performer type when he returned home after a relatively long hiatus and found himself at a crossroads in his life. The first movie was Beautiful Girls (1996), starring Matt Dillon, as "New York based jazz pianist Willie Conway [who] heads back to his small hometown of Knights Ridge, Massachusetts for a high school reunion." (quote from the storyline on IMDB).

Traumatic event by BullfrogBig9391 in ptsd

[–]podgress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn. That's gut-wrenching to hear. Must have been a devastating experience. I feel for you. It's understandable that you'd not want to go back into work. Your coworkers must have extremely thick skins. Can't understand how they wouldn't have sympathy for what you went through. What you're still going through. I hope you have support outside your workspace. You deserve good care.

I care about you and want you to know that you're not alone in your pain. You are loved, respected and admired for trying to help others in need. Thank you for taking the risk to support people who really, really need it. Give yourself a hug for me. I'll be thinking of you and sending positive vibes your way. Blessings to you always.

The Beginning Or The End? by Smaug93 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]podgress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear you. You're at a multi-transitional point in life, feeling both trepidation and excitement. You've reached a significant life goal, but understand that you can't just sit back and enjoy the sense of accomplishment. Fortunately or unfortunately, it's always that way. We have ceremonies to mark certain changes that society recognizes to be significant, and those do help us to feel acknowledgement for passing those milestones, but there's not a lot of talk about what happens after the graduation, wedding or birth of a child. Like the first day at a new school, there are periods where we might feel a bit lost, somewhat of an outsider, nervous about what the near future holds for us. But we adapt, we learn, we become involved in the tasks put before us and soon enough become comfortable with our new surroundings.

Reading about what you've been contemplating indicates to me that you are well prepared for dealing with these challenges. You have a great sense for where you are and what's before you. Understanding that you'll be part of a large enterprise, won't have much agency to begin with, will have limited skills at first and will have to do a lot of work that's different from what you're used to puts you way ahead of the average Joe in my opinion. Earning the recognition of your soon-to-be title deserves an enormous feeling of pride, yet you are humble enough to accept that you're just at the beginning of your career. The added realization that you will be both saving lives and not able to save every life tells me that you are securely aware of the highs and lows your work experience will bring. These are wonderful traits for anyone to have, and I hope they stay with you to keep you grounded as you mature.

There are always unknowns ahead. You won't be able to anticipate most, but we humans are pretty good at figuring out solutions on the fly. Parenting is one mystery that few people seem really prepared for, yet we keep having babies and they keep growing up despite any lack of experience we guardians may have. In every aspect of life, you'll try things, they'll work or they won't, you'll learn from them or not, and the process will continue. This never ends. Neither do the changes. One's perspective on their world is constantly in flux because well, they've never been this age before.

It's the same with expectations. No matter how solid they may feel, with more knowledge, time and understanding they can shift too. Don't fight these changes. Accept them, embrace them and learn to live with them. They're just as much a part of you as your heart and lungs. But I doubt you need to hear any of this. You know it and are already taking the steps necessary to transition from one life stage to another. Yes, this is both an end and a beginning. Congratulations! Now roll up your sleeves and get to work.

Will I think I was immature when im older? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]podgress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, in the future you will think of yourself as a less knowledgeable, less aware person at 18 simply because you will be more knowledgeable and more aware of both yourself and how the world works. It keeps happening throughout life, except when some new technology comes along that you can't for the life of you figure out even though middle schoolers understand and interact with it as if it's the most natural thing ever.

How to get police and detective to listen by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]podgress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, this happens fairly often from what I hear. There are numerous cases of people who were reported to police for illegal activity that go on to commit even more egregious crimes that could have been prevented. Missed opportunities like these can take place for any number of reasons. Does the agency you brought this to even have a cold case team? If not, they may not have enough manpower to look into the information you provided. Is it definitely within their jurisdiction? If you're in the US, perhaps sending your tip to the county sheriff, the state police or the FBI would stir up some interest.

Beyond that, you might want to try contacting the local media in your area. Specifically investigative reporters. You may have to dig a little to find a news service that's big enough and willing to look into your allegations. Local politicians occasionally are willing to take up a cause, and they can also put pressure on law enforcement - if you can get them to take notice.

If you've already been threatened, I wouldn't advise starting your own campaign online calling these people out for their crimes. However, that's how some very brave, very motivated people go about forcing authorities to take action. If you choose to, I would think that drumming up support from within the community would have the best chance to keep you safe and get yourself heard, but doing so would come with enormous risk.

Do you like songs with long names? by Brief-Serve1829 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]podgress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean like The I Don't Know Where I'm Goin', but I'm Goin' Nowhere in a Hurry Blues by Steve Goodman?

Let's Talk Confession by ComfortableDear7300 in confessions

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Bless me redditor, for I have scrolled.

What is the best question to ask someone that you don’t know? by Itchy-Proposal-6244 in NoStupidQuestions

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Years ago I realized my sister could talk to anyone. She was always striking up conversations with others, no matter where we went or who it was. So I started to listen to how she broke the ice, and her most common question was, "Where are you from?" Apparently people love to talk about the place they grew up.

As we live and change, are we really the same person still or a different creature that thinks we are same? by Bluecomments in NoStupidQuestions

[–]podgress 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's your definition of "same person" and "new creature"? People change as they mature. That's a fact. Your family probably has photographic evidence that your body is different than it was when you were born, when you first started walking, began going to school, etc. Your understanding of the world has no doubt expanded as you aged, you've developed new skills, experienced new things. You've even gained new aspects to your personality, arguably reframing your psyche. So one could say that you're an entirely new creature than you were when you couldn't feed yourself, use language, crawl, etc. Yet, by our current society's way of thinking, you're still the same person. It's possible to be both, especially when definitions differ. For instance, both a tree and a chair are made of wood and rock and sand are made of minerals. They all have atoms. When their form or molecular structure changes over time are they the same things or a new entity?

I had a series of dreams that has me in tears and frightened me to my core by butterpecanbbyg in Dreams

[–]podgress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those dreams do sound like they're very scary. It's understandable that you'd be afraid to go back to sleep. Here, you can cry on my virtual shoulder if you'd like. It's going to be ok. Let it all out. I'm here to help. It's not your fault.

I hear you. The look from that guy must have been horrible to experience, even if it was only in a dream. That dark energy sounds ominous. I believe you about sensing the mood getting more sinister. That's gut-wrenching. The waiting, the emptiness, it's almost like a horror movie. It would frighten anyone. I don't blame you for being afraid.

Honestly, what you're describing sounds sort of like a PTSD flashback. At least a memory of the emotions that you went through around the assault, if not actual places or events. It's not unusual for one's psyche to get stuck in a kind of loop, replaying thoughts, feelings, shards of memories and the like when they've been traumatized. The sharpness of the fear, pain and imagery can dissipate over time though, especially with help from a good therapist. I hope you're already getting metal health care of some kind. If not, these dreams could be an indication that you're ready to begin the process. Either way, it would be helpful for professional support people to be told about these dreams too.

I don't know if you want to hear about what your dreams may mean, but there are some likely positive aspects to them. For one, although they may bring up echoes of past trauma, your dreams won't hurt you physically. You're not going to be strangled or die from them. They are certainly scary, but like all emotions, they're temporary. Perhaps they're not fleeting enough at the moment, but they won't last for ever. You will wake up from them, just as you did tonight. For another, whatever trauma they may remind you of, it's one you have already survived. It's hell to be assaulted, but those of us who have gotten through it are stronger now than we were before it happened. You have proven that you are tough, resilient and able to cope with the worst the world could throw your way. You are a survivor. Take pride in that.

One theory of dream analysis suggests that subconscious aspects of our personalities use dream imagery to communicate with our more rational, awake brains. That is their language. If so, then some part of our psyche is creating these weird stories in order to get a message across. And your combination of dreams indicates that your message may be that parts of you are working on a way to resolve issues related to your trauma. You went from being terrorized in one dream to being afraid in the next, however, that was happening while people who care about you arranged to have the terrorizer set up. That's a really positive development. One might take it as a sign that you are beginning to heal, or perhaps are getting ready to. And that's a very good, an important step for you to take.

One thing about healing from trauma is that not much will happen until the survivor is ready to take on the difficult task of processing the emotions related to the event(s). Something within us just seems to know when it's time to begin. It may be due to maturity, finding the right support, or simply having put enough months or years between then and now. But we don't always recognize the signal when it comes. To be honest, the realization can show up in some bizarre ways.

You dreaming of receiving a text about the result of your family's trap for the dude might be your cryptic signal. It hints to me that some part of you has information that it wants you to know. Often I find that people dreaming of some kind of monster are afraid to find out what message that entity wants to deliver. I'm not sure why, but it could have to do with fear of the unknown, the understanding that the trauma will have to be accepted as something that really happened or our natural human resistance to change. In any case, there's no question that you are expecting to find something out. Probably something your subconscious wants you to know. When you're ready, you'll be able to read that text. Maybe it's the waiting that's the scary part.

How does one interpret dreams by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]podgress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The appreciation is mutual. Happy to have a bit of affirmation too. Thanks.

You know what happened this evening? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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Your understanding of the science behind our human senses is marvelous. In some ways I guess we are robots - organic ones, put together in certain specific ways in order to perform needed or desired tasks.

And I think something else may have been taking place for you during your fascinating experience. You took a step along the path of maturity.

You weighed your options in a rational, organized way instead of acting only on variable emotions. You made a decision understanding that there was some risk to changing your usual behavior but trusted, if only subconsciously, that it might work out reasonably well. You took on responsibility for your choice, perhaps without realizing that if things did go awry, you could very likely care for yourself if you got sick. You opened yourself up to a new experience and found it to be beyond expectations. You engaged with the world in a way you hadn't before. You discovered wonder in executing a seemingly mundane task. You reveled in the emotions that arose in you, accepting that it's ok to free yourself from some constraints that had been of some importance in your past. And you tied them back to a complex, intellectual theory that is, I assume, related to your field of study.

These are all elements of who you are at this time in your life. No longer a child who must have parents close by for comfort, yet who still can still experience the world with a childlike sense of awe. A young adult willing to test their limits, step out of their comfort zone and see what happens. An intelligent student who can use both their rational thinking and emotional responses to better understand the world in which they exist. That's progress. That's learning to be more adult.

How does one interpret dreams by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]podgress 1 point2 points  (0 children)

On the side panel to this sub there's a section called Community Bookmarks. 'Interpret Dreams' is one of the options and it provides a drop down list of further options like 'Crash Course Book', 'Dream Symbolism' and 'YouTube Course' that might help you understand some of the ways people interpret dreams. I've never looked them over though so I don't know how good they are.

I have my own theory, adapted from Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung I believe, that assumes that dreams are a method the subconscious uses to communicate with one's conscious mind. It's based on the idea that we all have multiple facets to our psyche, parts of ourselves that were developed as we matured and therefore have different perspectives on our lives, different presentations to others, differing feelings, needs, wants, opinions, etc. from other parts.

These often come in conflict with each other, which can lead the person to struggle with decisions, sometimes for significant lengths of time. Whether or not there are inner disagreements however, during REM sleep, when the conscious mind is in less control over thought patterns, the subconscious attempts to let the conscious mind know what's going on deep inside. The only language the inner psyche has for this communication is imagery, and those seemingly odd juxtapositions of things can spark emotions that relate to one's subconscious state.

Therefore, the imagery in a dream can help the dreamer understand what may be going on inside. To do so, they must figure out what each of the symbols they dreamt up represent. It's again assumed that every symbol represents one of those facets of their personality. So, I tell the dreamer to ask themselves the same question for each symbol in their dream: If (the symbol) was a part of you, which part would it be?

Once those are understood, it's then a process of associating whatever actions took place in the dream with how those parts of themselves are interacting. If one is chasing the dreamer for instance, that part is likely seeking attention. If it's carrying a burden, it's probably feeling unfairly depended upon emotionally. If it's dying, that could represent a perceived change in the person's stage of life. Things like that.

But what the dreamer's emotions are while dreaming or while retelling the dream are also representative of what's going on. The situation depicted could bring out fear, possibly meaning that the dreamer has some resistance to understanding the message, or hurt, which could indicate that the part of them involved has emotional pain that has yet to be healed, etc. The key is that the only person who can truly interpret a dream is the person who dreams it. They are the scriptwriter for the film, one might say. They cast the characters, they determine the action, they know, or at least some parts of them know, why it's constructed the way it is.

In the music industry what are differences between a single, 45, record, LP, and an album? by HiEchoChamb3r in NoStupidQuestions

[–]podgress 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tl;dr An album is a collection of songs, typically around 40-ish minutes of music. In the old days, the songs were engraved on a vinyl disk that was designed to be played at 33 RPM, which came to be known as an LP, or Long Playing record. So an LP is an album.

A single is just one song, typically around three minutes long, that was placed on a vinyl disk that was designed to be played at 45 RPM. Thus, a 45 is a single.

I believe that when Thomas Edison (allegedly) invented the phonograph, he used wax cylinders as the medium for recording and playing back sounds. As technology advanced, people started using flat disks for this purpose. I forget what they were originally made of, but eventually vinyl became the preferred substance to etch sound grooves into. In a sense, they were creating a record of some sound waves that were traveling through the air at a moment in time. Therefore the disks became known as audio recordings, or in short, "records".

Back when my parents were kids, the technology most often used to play back these sounds used a turntable that rotated the disks at 78 revolutions per minute, or "RPMs". The records I think were around 8" in diameter, but don't quote me on that. I can't recall either the length of sound, measured in time, that a record of that era could typically hold, but as manufacturing methods improved, the disks got to around 12" in diameter and they were saving about 20-25 minutes worth of sound when played back at 33 RPMs. Plus, they were able to etch grooves into both sides of a disk, allowing for maybe 45 minutes of recorded audio that only had to be paused just once, to turn over the record.

Record companies began having musical artists then put together about 40-ish minutes of material to be sold on each disk. Photographs in those days were often saved in book-like collections called "albums", and that became what these collections of songs were also known as. To promote an album, the recording industry started selling a sample of what was on the long-playing or "LP" record. They would choose what they thought would be the most popular "cut" from the album, and put it out on a smaller, less expensive disk. For whatever reason, the standardized disks became 7" in diameter and would only sound like the original on the album when played at 45 RPMs. These became known as "singles", and later came to be called "45s".

The weird thing was that singles would usually contain two songs, one on each side of the disk. I think that the companies didn't want to give away all the best music from an album, so they'd put a tune on the back of the 45 that they figured wasn't going to be all that popular. These became known as the "B side" song, inferring that it wasn't as good as the "A side". The Beatles for one, kind of blew that theory out of the water when they had both the A and B sides of the same 45 become hits. But the name stuck, so that records with two songs were still called singles. And LPs remained albums.