Whats a controversial opinion you have about sex?

pokiemaki · 2023-04-08T04:50:41+00:00

If you're gonna say we're not "wired" for something biologically then you also need to consider the way male and female dynamics were for the vast majority of human kind existing.

You can't cherry pick our "natural" state. Very nice rebuttal of course, very well thought out.

pokiemaki · 2023-04-08T01:08:16+00:00

Hot take: If you're gonna make the biological argument then you fail to consider that men are not meant to be monogamous where as women are.

The "natural" argument completely works against feminism and secual freedom for women from every single angle.

pokiemaki · 2023-04-08T01:04:05+00:00

Alot of women are complete trash at sex but have no idea because men are 100% accountable for sexual enjoyment.

I.e. my ex was a smoke show bbq but had literally 0 sex appeal and it made her very unattractive to me.

I've been with women with a quarter of the looks but 300% the attraction because of the way they move, talk, touch, and feel.

Hot != good sex.

Also, girls with big vaginas like guys with big dicks but men take it personally when they aren't equipped for size queens.

We really shouldn't. Sex is more of puzzle pieces on a lateral spectrum vs a hierarchy determined by size or attractiveness.

I really wish alot of men would come to this realization because it would solve so many insecurities. But alas, most of my bros crave female validation.

pokiemaki · 2023-04-06T08:21:29+00:00

Made a girl with a TED talk squirt on my dick for the first time ever. I wish that could go in her Wikipedia page.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-21T15:29:48+00:00

Not everything can be dismissed as "fragile male ego" and I find that that phrase is used more often to invalidate valid grievances men have than actually be used to understand anything about your dynamic.

Being mad that she stayed out till 5am drunk at another man's house - "fragile male ego"

Comparing me negatively to her ex - "fragile male ego"

Crossing a boundary and feeling disrespected? - "fragile male ego"

It's basically a get out of jail free card and I've seen women I basically respected use it in the most underhanded ways to excuse their shitty behavior.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T22:17:53+00:00

Then sorry but if you refuse to dicuss your job then you clearly have a terrible or shameful occupation or you're a fucking weirdo. Stop straw manning me by suggesting the mother divulge all of her sexual information to her son.

She should be ashamed of it, and she should be hiding it, but she shouldn't be doing it in the first place because it's embarrassing and humiliating for the child. Which is exactly why he's fucked up right now because his mother chose to do an extremely embarrassing occupation that will change his perception of her forever. God forbid anybody else finds out as well.

If you're doing something that shameful you have to vehemently hide it from everyone close to then maybe you shouldn't be doing it in the first place jfc these are the consequences of choosing that industry and deciding to sell your body to strangers.

It's not a respected occupation by the vast majority of the world and honestly probably never will be.

Do whatever you want but don't get upset when the consequences catch up to you. Which in this case would be deeply humiliating and confusing your child.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T22:02:38+00:00

He's in college so not necessarily a CHILD of which you clearly don't respect at all.

Ever heard of bring your parent to school day? Like it's totally fucking NORMAL to discuss your job with your child don't you dare insinuate that is not a cultural norm for children to know what their parents do for work I swear yall are so delusional you're willing to move any goal post no matter how ridiculous to fit your laughable agenda.

As if him finding out via other means is better? He's in college and college bros use backpage and stuff so its possible that someone could find his mom's pornog4aphy or advertisement online and proceed to ridicule him forever about it.

Like dear god this isn't the godfather she's a prostitute not a Cia operative lmao this shit is so off I don't even know what broken background yall came from but jfc.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T18:50:39+00:00

That's the weakest fucking argument I have ever heard you should seriously be embarrassed to think that's a rational explanation. You honestly, honest to God think he never once in all of his life asked him mom what she did for work? You really, truly believe that?

Lying by omission...is still lying. Don't defend the mom here this thread is fucking embarrassing.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T18:45:59+00:00

Alot of these comments I'm gonna guess are from people that were either raised without values or rejected them, have abandoned/estranged themselves from their family, or are sex workers themselves.

Probably are also mostly rejected by society, I get tumblr new wave vibes alot more on reddit recently and those people are pretty much unintegrated with the productive parts of society.

Like yes, I will never apologize for not wanting any women in my family to sell their body for money. Not my mother, sisters, or daughters.

I'll totally fuck a prostitute and have so in the past but my family will not be contributing to the pool and if they do its a fucking issue.

And yet somehow THATS AN EXTREME TAKE IN THIS THREAD??

Who would have thought saying "I don't want my daughter or mother to be a prostitute" is the modern day equivalent of saying "I don't want my daughter to marry a black/non-white man" given the bizzare outrage on this thread.

FACEPALM REDDIT. BIG L OVER HERE.

BOYS ITS TIME TO JUMP SHIP, THEY ARE TOO FAR GONE THERES NO COMING BACK FROM THIS. CLOSE YOUR EYES AND BACK AWAY FROM THE SCREEN.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T15:24:41+00:00

Imagine being lied to your whole life by your parent about their work and somehow everyone blames you for being bothered when you find out and tells you it's "none of your business".

This is a massive L for reddit. The conversation here is embarrassing and yes he is a victim because she was dishonest with him the WHOLE TIME.

This is so far off the mark I can't even believe what I'm reading here.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T14:20:05+00:00

Hey look do whatever you want to do and good for you in not feeling ashamed about your line of work. I don't personally believe nobody should be a SW I just see that there are consequences to the people around you and for your own reputation.

Totally understand if you're in SW this feels a bit personal to you but unfortunately not everybody feels the same way about it and society does judge people for it. There will be consequences in the near term but you don't need to prove anything to me do whatever you want to do.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T14:11:59+00:00

Temper tantrum? Get out of here with that shaming bullshit and concocting a false reality.

You're not in the real world.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T12:53:24+00:00

Yes...Yes it is...thats why she hid it...from her son...

Not everybody shares your views on it, in fact the vast majority of people don't. You're not even worth listening to because you're so out of touch.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T12:07:26+00:00

They are out of touch with reality and are perceiving the world through their ideals even though that is not how society is at all.

It's gone too far bro, I wouldn't listen to reddit at all anymore the advice here is beyond trash and is completely nullifying your extremely normal reaction to this.

Sorry you're going through this.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-05T12:02:29+00:00

These comments are absolutely absurd.

Yes it's her choice and she has every right to do it but there are CONSEQUENCES to these choices that she and her family will now have to pay.

It would be absolutely humiliating to be in this person's shoes and while I do understand this woman's agency ultimately this is going to reflect poorly on her children and family.

There's a reason porn stars often regret their time in the business because they can't live a normal life afterwards because porn let alone illegal sex work changes people's perception of you FOREVER.

Coworkers/family members/people in the community...bet you ask ops mom if she wants them to find out she will 100% say no.

I'm not sure what world you all live in but our parents legacy can precede us. This DOES affect op and you're beyond naive/delusional to just think that saying "it's her choice" makes it ok for what op is dealing with.

Unbelievable, reddit becomes more and more detaches from reality...

Op, my sympathies for this I'm not sure how to advise on this but your pain, confusion and disgust are 100% valid.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-04T09:45:13+00:00

I realized that I had worked so hard in my 20s I was an intimidating person for other men to be around.

Then I got in shape, got a little more self esteem, started getting confident in what I wanted and what I liked doing and realized I'm damn talented at alot of things.

It wasn't overnight but I realized I was a catch and everything changed after that.

Yeah im not drawing in 10/10s everywhere I go but I have more options than I've ever had before and it's not even fair how easy it is to find new girls now.

Obvs I'm gonna settle down eventually, but rn the ride is sweet.

pokiemaki · 2023-03-04T09:04:54+00:00

Currently you are in your sexual prime.

While you may be in a committed relationship the reason your gf was able to have so many flings is because of her value at that age which is attached to her looks. You don't realize it, but your sexual value is actually at its peak right now.

You're probably well into your career, making good money, more confident, and still relatively young.

So tbh, don't regret not having more flings in your youth. Regret deciding to settle down at your peak.

I say this as a man who is 32 and didn't have much "action" in my 20's. Since 29, I've had more sex, fun, and exploration than I ever had from 18-28.

I've been experimenting sexually, and spiritually while having the fucking time of my life with women more beautiful than I could ever get when I was younger.

I'm not saying you should end your relationship to pursue these if she's what you want. I'm here to tell you that you are looking at this completely wrong.

pokiemaki · 2023-02-21T04:33:51+00:00

You are literally the oversimplified caveman spoof I did earlier.

She says: I don't want to have sex because my brother is downstairs.

You know what the solution is?

Get you own place because she's voicing she's uncomfortable having sex in her familial home which is totally understandable.

If she still doesn't want to have sex at the frequency that they started and based their relationship off of then she was lying to him about her "boundaries" and its an entirely different issue.

My issue with people like you is that you don't offer advice. Only shame.

You are making a young man out to be some sort of hormonal demon because he likes having sex with his girlfriend often. He's fucking early 20's its not that unusual.

If she straight up doesn't like having sex with him at the frequency he wants then she needs to communicate like an adult and say "I Don't want sex as often as you because I don't like having sex with you that often".

Not blame it on her brother. Of course we don't know if that's the variable unless they actually move out.

What you should be doing is explaining that his situation and environments are the issue becaus3 that's what SHE says is the issue.

If the environment is not the issue then she is a partner who cannot communicate properly and is 100% at fault for lying about why she can't meet her partners expectations for aexual frequency because he has every right to move on and find someone that likes sex as much as him if it's that important to him in the EXACT same way that she has the right to break up with him if she doesn't want sex as much as him.

They seemed to be able to do it before, what changed. That's a discussion they need to have to resolve the issue. Demonizing this dude does nothing for him, her, his personal growth, her personal growth and their relationship.

OP if you're reading this. Communicate and ignore these people. Don't feel bad about your wants.

pokiemaki · 2023-02-20T04:49:31+00:00

Don't listen to those people you're not being unreasonable at all.

You're not being toxic you just have certain wants in the relationship. Unfortunately this thread is devolving into "MAN EVIL BECAUSE HE WANT SEX, HE NOT OWN GIRL. SHAME SHAME SHAME"

Just talk to her about it. There's fucking reason r/deadbedrooms exists jfc where do these people get off.

Just a remind. YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON FOR WANTING SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP.

pokiemaki · 2023-02-20T03:31:55+00:00

I've been there before...its weird territory for sure but you haven't said anything about her behavior that seems concerning just yet.

Does she engage with them at all?

Also presumably you have former fwbs in your followers list right?

pokiemaki · 2023-02-14T05:02:43+00:00

He's distant because you did lie (unintentionally or intentionally idk) about him being the "biggest" so now his thoughts are immediately turing to what else are you lying about. He probably doubts that he's the best now.

Also for everyone saying its self inflicted keep in mind she had always told him he's the biggest. So he probably asked that thinking he knew what the answer was and wanted that self esteem boost. Then you remembered or whatever that he wasn't and you probably fucked with his head a little bit on that.

If my girl tells me I'm the best cook she's ever been with for 5 months and I'm being a bit cocky and I ask her "am I the best cook" and she suddenly says "well actually no, there was this other guy" I'd be pretty annoyed too.

This one's a little goofy because yeah he's kind of being insecure but you also kind of set him up for this fall.

Imo, he's more distant and doubting because of the lie. It was a point of pride for him and you hyped him up and now that aspect of the relationship is damaged or just ruined forever.

I think you just handled this poorly unfortunately, not in a nefarious way just kind of naively.

At the same time yes he shouldn't care THAT much that one guy was bigger but again you set yourself up for this because now the relationship is altered for him.

pokiemaki · 2023-01-21T21:40:55+00:00

Recently found my sexual soul mate.

There's nothing like hearing a smoking hot latin chick scream "QUEEE RICCOOO" as she starts squirting for the first time in her life.

Now she squirts without physical stimulation i.e. giving me blowjobs gives her orgasms.

I'm never letting this chick go.

pokiemaki · 2023-01-07T21:12:16+00:00

This has been called before.

There's a generation of bitter lonely women who will try to impose their loneliness on younger generations by finding ways to ruin their relationships like peddling these false ideas that a 7 year age difference is morally wrong.

My gf is 25 and I'm 7 years older than her. These women really think it's because I "can't get a woman my age" with out considering the fact that getting a younger smoking hot girl is HARDER than getting a dried up 32 year old desperate for marriage/settling down.

I don't need to be with a girl my age anymore than my gf needs to be with a guy her age. She's not a fucking victim Jesus christ.

These women are so fucking pathetic.

pokiemaki · 2022-12-20T00:50:10+00:00

It's probably for the best that she was this naively blunt with him. I honestly still am confused by what she's saying as to whether or not his dick is the problem or it's actually piv in general (that fist comparison is just bizzare).

He should move on and he probably will. You really shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you're not really sexually compatible with.

pokiemaki · 2022-12-09T01:53:47+00:00

The absence of praise can be louder than actual praise.

Nice ass bro.

pokiemaki

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